Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 2

elsien

I've missed it somewhere, Pyxis - where are you going?

Pyxis

elsien wrote: »

I've missed it somewhere, Pyxis - where are you going?

Sri Lanka! It's a singing holiday!

Hope we don't upset the elephants! :rotfl:


I got a list of dos and don'ts, etiquette for being in Sri Lanka etc., and one of the things it said was please do not pat the Buddhist monks on the head.
Who in their right mind would consider that an acceptable thing to do?
I despair of the human race sometimes!

jobbingmusician

woooo Pyxis, get you! International woman of leisure, using free wi fi and, I hope, having a wonderful time! Safe journey! xxx

I looooove Sri Lanka. Only been once but it's right up there possible as my #1 destination.

Calley - I'm not sure whether all of pollyanna's post was right but I think it was a very loving and insightful post. (I don't think any of it was wrong, I am just not experienced enough to know whether it was right. It probably was!) I hope it helps a bit to feel us all reaching out to you with warm and comforting hugs.

And would anyone else like one?

WaS - delighted you are feeling so up, and being careful about it.

Mr JM got his reply to HIS form-filling today and has been confirmed on the support group, which bodes well for you too..........

Still spare hugs and squishes in the cupboard, which seems to know that we would all like some so has been on overtime

elsien

Oh yes, I remember now. Will you get the chance to go to Sigiriya?

pollyanna_26

PYXIS - That lounge sounds amazing . Hopefully you'll reach your destination rested and painfree . Shocked re the Buddist monks we really do live in interesting times .
polly

Georgiegirl256

codemonkey wrote: »

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Secondly, lay off your lodger. He''s not your boyfriend or your husband or your partner, and even if he was, who's to say he's going to help you flip your mattress immediately anyway. - I have to nag Mr CP all the time to get him to do stuff. It's not his job to help you or make your life better or for you to depend on him. He's renting a room. He should be paying rent and taking care of himself and doing his share of household chores and that's it. If neither of you can respect those boundaries, then he needs to live somewhere else.
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I was going to post something very similar earlier on but worried I wouldn't find the right words and it'd come across as if I was having a go at you.

You don't want to cause any unneccessary agro between the two of you if you can help it. As long as he does his bit and helps out now and again, I can't see that he's doing much wrong tbh. As long as you're not having skivvy around after him and he's not taking the pee, probably best not to have a go at him.

Have never watched Frozen, but codes advice makes perfect sense, and it's maybe best for you to take a step back from internet dating at the moment?

Phew on the parking ticket WW!

Get you Pyxis! Well worth the upgrade I'd say!

Pyxis

elsien wrote: »

Oh yes, I remember now. Will you get the chance to go to Sigiriya?

Yes! It's on the itinerary! I forget exactly when.

I haven't read up on it yet.....procrastinating again! Still, will have plenty of time on the plane.

pollyanna_26

JM - Just noticed your post . So pleased MR was successful in his claim . Now you can both relax and probably sleep well tonight .
WAS - Everything will be alright sweetheart .
polly

Waves_and_Smiles

Calley, I agree with code and pollyanna. I think you have been badly treated and hurt so much that you expect to be now and it is very difficult for you to keep clear boundaries because you are constantly waiting to be hurt again from anyone. Your agreement with lodger is a financial one, he isn't like all of the other men in your life who let you down because he doesn't have that role. He is not your partner, he doesn't have an obligation to do things for you other than pay the rent, do his side of chores and have respect for your mutual living space. You are expecting things of him outside of the role of a lodger and feeling hurt when he doesn't step into a different role.

I totally understand why you feel this way, you have been let down and hurt so many times by men that you are constantly looking for the next way it could happen. This isn't your fault at all, people have treated you very badly and it has left its scars. You can only be knocked down so many times before it becomes ingrained in you that that will happen again and again.

Right now, I would stop the internet dating and work on you. Not all men are bad, just not like all women are bad. When we are vulnerable though we can open ourselves up to people who will take advantage of that and therefore meet more of the 'bad' ones than we normally would.

Calley, you are a wonderfully warm, loving and funny person. You deserve love and care and someone who respects you. Work on believing that for you, not through what another person see's you as. You don't need outside confirmation from anyone else, you need to give yourself a break and realise there is no reason why anyone would treat you badly or leave you. Once you begin to accept that you are worthwhile then you simply won't give a second thought to the people not suited to you and find you are attracted to those who kind and considerate.

Please remember that you deserve love. Learn to accept that you are a good person and that you will not allow those who treat you badly to feature in your life. I promise you that you are worth it.

Pyxis

Gosh!

Still in the lounge, and I just went to get another coffee, and they're now serving buffet hot meals!

Shame I'm not hungry!

Mind you, I'll be getting something on the plane!

Wish I could afford to fly like this all the time!



Edit....Cooooo! There's an observation window, and I've just seen one of those huge double-decker airbus things land! It's massive! With two rows of windows all the way along!

Someone told me they've got suites with double beds and showers! Bet they cost a bit!