Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 2

Georgiegirl256

Edit: none of that probably made any sense, so will rewrite when I'm not tired.
(Was reply to WW)

Flybaby

WW - firstly, who made the comment and what standing do they have with you? secondly, is it possible that they don't understand the term themselves and used it incorrectly?


Moo - CALM - consider if you would be anxious about ANY treatment they proposed at the moment? you do not KNOW that the proposed will not work (unless you have tried it before?) you have so much on your plate honey........you are bound to feel grrrrr, especially over anything to do with ED. Remember its your way of exerting control and by proposing a treatment, they are planning to take that control away from you........so clearly you are going to feel anxious.......take a small baby step and go to the meeting/appointment......you don't have to do anything they say.......but it is a step for you to go along and listen is it not? It is a sign that maybe you might let someone else help YOU for a change...........conversely it could all be total tut and they have no idea what they are talking about and I need to find you a minion picture to cheer you up.

mellymoo74

Minions please.

Dog cuddle time

Pyxis

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Pyxis

onomatopoeia99 wrote: »

I have been absorbed in the snooker all day, to the extent that I accidentally used plain flour instead of self-raising in the muffins I baked this afternoon

Were they nice pancakes, Ono?





whitewing, I don't know in what context you were told that. Was it from a counsellor or therapist?

Anyway, what I want to say is, everyone on this thread is doing self-defeating stuff all the time.
We want to lose weight, then we go and stuff our faces.
We want to clear our clutter, then we procrastinate.
We want to get out of debt and then we have a spending spree.
We want to do all sorts of things, and then we find reasons why we 'can't'.

It happens to us all on here, and I would defy anyone anywhere to say they had never exhibited that sort of behaviour.

Are you able to elaborate on the context in which it was said? We may be able to help. :A
I agree with Flybaby, they may have confused the term self-deprecating with self-defeating, but the context in which it was said is everything.

Pyxis

One for Melly......







Could you manage a banana?

mellymoo74

Fanks fly.
About to go snow dog walking.

Fanks for the minions pyxis there ace

mellymoo74

And 'nanas are yuk

Like snot
Yuk.
Gonna try porridge again when I return from dog walking and if I manage it I can do my roots.

Georgiegirl256

Pyxis wrote: »

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Anyway, what I want to say is, everyone on this thread is doing self-defeating stuff all the time.
We want to lose weight, then we go and stuff our faces.
We want to clear our clutter, then we procrastinate.
We want to get out of debt and then we have a spending spree.
We want to do all sorts of things, and then we find reasons why we 'can't'.

It happens to us all on here, and I would defy anyone anywhere to say they had never exhibited that sort of behaviour.
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Exactly Pyxis.

Sort of what I wrote before I thought it didn't sound right with my tired brain and deleted it! But I'd put how D is really bad for doing it, he is the ultimate self defeatist.

He'll watch a program about being healthy and how bad sugar is etc etc and swear down he is going to have to do something to lose weight, he's going to cut out the sweets and do more exercise and I'm thinking "yeah yeah, I've heard it a million times before" and in the next breath he proves me right by going to the fridge a getting a chocolate mouse or cream cake or fills his trolley full of junk.

He'll say we need to cut back or save and then goes and buys something expensive that he really does not need but just had to have.

I do it every time I plan to clear that pile of clothes in the bedroom!

Loving the minions btw!

tea_lover

Yup, yesterday was the first time all week I managed over 10000 steps. So I celebrated by eating an obscene amount of ice cream. Just human nature.

It's quite snowy here...do you want it WaS?!