Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 2

mellymoo74

Me too WaS
It's also a link to my dad

Georgiegirl256

No to counselling Birdie. I know D wouldn't and tbh, I don't believe in it. .

Anyhow enough about me and my woes. I was going to say does anyone have anything cheery to report, but it seems like the mood is understandably very low atm.

mellymoo74

Doing the ESA claim this morning
Now need to research an industry specific quality standard.
Oh and the role tomorrow means I will have a team of 4
Nor managed for awhile scared perhaps I shouldn't go

whitewing

Some fabulous words here
This is cheery:

http://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2016/jan/09/children-madeup-words-first-language-creativity-vocabulary-parents-infants




Georgiegirl, I hope I haven't upset you with my grief comment. All I meant was that when something big and stressful happens to me, DH can find that it brings up unexpected emotion in him with things that overlap in his life, which he then feels that he has to suppress so that he can support me. Every so often he gets overloaded and then is not able to be sympathetic about so really major stuff. So, for example, your fella could be genuinely upset about your dad passing away and the impact it has on you and his own sorrowful feelings about your dad, but also having maybe some jealously/other private slightly negative feelings or resentment about his own relationship with his own dad. Human emotion is very complicated. I am interested why you don't believe in counselling, because I found it incredibly helpful, if only because it allowed me not to strive for perfection.

codemonkey

Melly, you're lovely and I'm sure you're a good manager. Go, or I'll bop you on the nose.

I feel like such a meanie. DA got walked on the leash and I wouldn't let him bounce about with his doggy pal. Then I wiped his eye and wouldn't let him on the couch. He was looking at me with betrayed eyes.

Cheery news....I'm not on fire. That has to be good news.

whitewing

melly, you will be absolutely fine managing people. You are lovely.

whitewing

Get on the floor with him then code.

calleyw

Pyxis wrote: »

Gosh, that is so my story! It's totally the reason why my self-esteem is so low even now, because there wasn't another parent to counteract the criticism, and it continued right through my life, right up to when she died.
The awful thing was that the criticism also came from other family members, including my ex, and as a result of hearing it from them, also from my children.

Massive hugs pyxis. I have to admit that husband my adored me no matter what size or hair colour I was.

But my sadly my dad was the one who use to go on about about me being fat. Which destroyed my self esteem. I know I am about 3 and half stone over weight at the moment. And really don't think I am very pretty. Which is why when normally men say I am pretty and sexy I just can't and wont believe it.

I was slim child up to the age of 10/11 and then I just got bigger and bigger. I remember when I was 15 I was about 10 and half stone and was a size 16 and I did not think I was that fat back then even being 5ft 4 tall.

Mind you being the middle child and a girl probably did not help as I grew up in the culture of girls stay at home and keep house and have babies. So also felt I was second class and not worthy.

Yours

Calley

Georgiegirl256

whitewing wrote: »

Georgiegirl, I hope I haven't upset you with my grief comment. All I meant was that when something big and stressful happens to me, DH can find that it brings up unexpected emotion in him with things that overlap in his life, which he then feels that he has to suppress so that he can support me. Every so often he gets overloaded and then is not able to be sympathetic about so really major stuff. So, for example, your fella could be genuinely upset about your dad passing away and the impact it has on you and his own sorrowful feelings about your dad, but also having maybe some jealously/other private slightly negative feelings or resentment about his own relationship with his own dad. Human emotion is very complicated. I am interested why you don't believe in counselling, because I found it incredibly helpful, if only because it allowed me not to strive for perfection.

No you haven't upset me at all. I just didn't understand what you meant at first (tired, worn out, head battered etc!) but realised later on.

But no, I don't think that is the case at all. Out of all the brothers D got on with his Dad the best, but they still weren't that close. Of course he was upset when his Dad died, but it hasn't really affected him in a big way. I really don't think there's any negative, jealous or resentful feelings at all to wards me, I really don't, he just isn't like that.

It's just my own personal feelings about counselling, airing your dirty linen in public (yes I know, I'm well aware that's what I'm doing now!) infront of a person who knows nothing about you or your OH. I'm glad it worked for you but it is most definetly NOT something I would want to do.

Code, that's erm very cheery! :rotfl: Made me laugh!

Georgiegirl256

Melly you will be fine! Go!