Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 2

calleyw

Pyxis wrote: »

Yes, the children inherit anyway, but it can take a long time and be stressful. Plus, Milliefleur might want to leave something to granddaughter, or even to friends..trinkets etc.

Yes, solicitor as executor will be costly, out of the estate, but with BIL stirring things up, it might well be the best and easiest option for everyone.
It would be stressful for anyone, let alone for WaS in her state of health, to be battling BIL. I speak from experience again.

I agree and was not suggesting for one min that WaS deals anything to do with the will.

You are correct about BIL if he is going to be a pain. At least a solicitor can tell BIL to go away nicely and not be be pushed or hassled by him.

Personally leave it all to the cats and dogs home. What my Brother and SIL don't know is that when I get the house in my name and all sorted that it will be left to my my two nephews. Something I need to discuss with them. No idea what to do might be better to get it put in to trust for them. As I doubt they will ever be able to afford to buy themselves.

Yours

Calley

elsien

Pyxis wrote: »

I'm going to be recycled into a tree! (In a woodland burial site!) complete with cardboard coffin! :rotfl: :

Yes, but would that be with or without staples?

I have an extremely out of date homemade will which my grandmother made me do before going on holiday to Egypt (it's very close to the Iraq border. Or something)
Yet another thing on the really must get round to list, where it's been happily sitting for a couple of years now.

calleyw

Pyxis wrote: »

I'm going to be recycled into a tree! (In a woodland burial site!) complete with cardboard coffin!

Sounds like a good idea.

I always thought that coffin hire could be a business. As it seems such a shame to burn/bury hundreds of pounds of wood. Ok maybe I am strange.

Yours

Calley

dragonette

For funeral costs - it can be paid from the estate, this is much easier if there is a will and an executer. I suspect in this case, it is the executer that's actually going to be the issue. I'd recommend that a solicitor is added as an executer, if possible, to prevent BiL from being disruptive, threatening or generally making things as difficult as possible. Even the most stable and considerate of people can respond in odd ways when a death affects their living arrangements. A solicitor can't be persuaded to cut corners or give him extra favours etc. It is possible that solicitors fees and funeral costs would swallow up most of any money that milliefleur leaves, but just for the sake of your and WaSP's mental wellbeing. It may be a fair price.

Pyxis

No idea about staples! They provide it, as it has to be recyclable! Nothing toxic that could damage the trees, you see!

Penguin regarding bodies:
No embalming is allowed, because the chemicals used for that are pretty toxic and can poison the soil. Never saw the point of embalming anyway! It's not like we're Pharaohs!:rotfl: The sooner I'm tree-food, the better! :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:
End Penguin

calleyw

As we are talking about death
Penguin -about little furry things and death

My SIL took the guinea pigs to the vet this morning and came home with one less. He was at least half the size of the others and kept running around in circles not been right since birth.

So the vet suggest that it was better to have it put to sleep

She now has to tell my nephews

Penguin ends

Yours

Calley

whitewing

We did our wills with WillAid, so that may appeal to millefleur as the fee goes to charity:

http://www.willaid.org.uk/

geminilady

Pyxis When you say cheaper than a cremation do you mean the whole service?I was thinking of just being cremated don't want a funeral,no money and do not want my sons to waste theirs did think about maybe donating my body to science.

Pyxis

geminilady wrote: »

Pyxis When you say cheaper than a cremation do you mean the whole service?I was thinking of just being cremated don't want a funeral,no money and do not want my sons to waste theirs did think about maybe donating my body to science.

I can't remember....I know I did a comparison at the time, and it worked out cheaper. Not having a religious service, so that wouldn't have come into it, but the woodland thing does include a sort of basic send-off, with two Eco cars for mourners.

Of course, the costs might all be different now, and might vary from area to area. It'd be worth you doing a comparison, though, if cost is a main criterion. I discounted cremation anyway, as it isn't very ecological, and I quite like the idea of turning into a tree!

Flybaby

WaS - you have said that Millefleur partially supports BIL. It is worth you knowing that, in the event of no will or a contested will, courts will take into account any dependants and that would include any grown up people they have supported either financially and/or with living arrangements. such dependents can be awarded more of an estate of a passed person to continue the support that person had been giving them. Might be worth letting her know this as she may not want that to happen, or that may be her intention. Either way, it is better if she has the info to make the decision, rather than one being made in her absence.


A way in, might be to say that, WaSP is concerned about getting it wrong when the time comes and would like to know her intentions/ or that her intentions and wishes are clearly written somewhere. I think this is something everyone should do as I remember how hard my best friends parents found it when she was taken early. They had no idea where she wanted to go, how she wanted to go, what her favourite songs were, what to dress her in etc etc. It is more for the people who are left to feel better........to feel like they are doing the right thing by their loved one. Might be a way for you or WaSP to broach the subject with her? Or start discussing with her what you want done and say that you are telling her just in case, so that she can tell WaSP?