Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 2

Wellyboots6

Look after yourself Pyxis, dont push yourself too soon.

Do you sell much on etsy HBS? I have a few ideas of things to make but not sure if it is worth it depending how much you sell?

I've got the fire lit today as it is a bit chilly, but the logs are crackling so Little Sod is hiding upstairs. Just hope there is no mischief going on up there!

Escapette is having a snooze, she is worn out after being awake from 11pm last night!! She didn't doze off once all night. Wasn't crying, just gurgling and fidgeting and definitely not ready for bed. We've had visitors this morning, and have more visitors this afternoon, so I am making sure she gets plenty of cuddles to try and keep her awake so she sleeps tonight.

I have realised that some of my little issues I had seem to have sorted themselves since the jailbreak. I am a lot more comfortable with visitors in the house now. I still get cross if people turn up unannounced, but I don't have a mad panic now if I know people are coming over. I do still have to have a good clean and tidy, but I don't have to make sure the lawn is mown etc.
I also don't have to bleach my floors every day. I don't want Escapette exposed to the fumes.

calleyw

Welly, I know nothing about babies or children.

I was reading a book about sleeping and it was suggesting that by 12 weeks old you should have a night time routine :eek:

I know its hard. My nephews are waking up at 5/6am and then getting grumpy by mid afternoon. So they need a nap and then of course that does not help them going back to sleep in the evenings.

On another note the agency rang with a job for 4 weeks. 5 min walk away from home. Have to take it as need the money so will have to like it and put it up with it. Will need to put on my big girl pants and suck it up LOL!!!!

Yours

Calley

Waves_and_Smiles

Take it slowly, Pyxis! Have a day cuddled up in bed and hopefully you will be well enough for your rehearsal tomorrow.

Good idea on keeping escapette awake if you can, Welly. She sounds content if she is gurgling and not crying at night so that's something. Try to grab a nap for yourself at some stage too. That is such good news that some little issues have improved, you have a brand new focus now so that makes sense.

Congrats on the job offer, Calley! It is scary but you will be fine and the money will really help you. You can always tell yourself that it is just 4 weeks if you don't like it and make sure you spend some of the wage on a treat for yourself!

I have a sad WaSp today. It suddenly occurred to him that Milliefleur doesn't have long to live. He obviously knows her age but he stopped himself thinking about it previously and now it has suddenly hit him that at 93 next month she won't be around forever. There isn't much I can say as far as reassurance goes because it's inevitable, I am quietly hinting that it makes it all the more important that he goes to her birthday party. It's the first time that he has ever mentioned it, I think he was pretty much ignoring it beforehand. Poor WaSp.

heartbreak_star

Poor WaSp. Big hugs to him, it's awful when thoughts like that hit you

Welly - I really don't sell much at all...I mainly sell so I can buy more stuff to make stuff as I have loads of ideas but only so much money (and can only wear so much jewellery haha!). If I could devote more time to it I might sell more but it's just a little hobby

HBS x

calleyw

Waves_and_Smiles wrote: »

Congrats on the job offer, Calley! It is scary but you will be fine and the money will really help you. You can always tell yourself that it is just 4 weeks if you don't like it and make sure you spend some of the wage on a treat for yourself!

Thats what I thought 4 weeks and its over lol!!!!

Waves_and_Smiles wrote: »

I have a sad WaSp today. It suddenly occurred to him that Milliefleur doesn't have long to live. He obviously knows her age but he stopped himself thinking about it previously and now it has suddenly hit him that at 93 next month she won't be around forever. There isn't much I can say as far as reassurance goes because it's inevitable, I am quietly hinting that it makes all the more important that he goes to her birthday party. It's the first time that he has ever mentioned it, I think he was pretty much ignoring it beforehand. Poor WaSp.

Its always hard. My mum turned 70 a few weeks ago. And it reminded me that none of us are getting any younger. And that the next major thing in my life to happen will be the death of one of my parents.

My husband was in his 30's when he lost both parents and my mum was only 21 when her mum died. So I never got to meet my maternal grand mother

We never want to think of loosing people close to us. And maybe that is why after my husband nearly died from a stroke that I am very impatient as I can see what can happen in a blink of a eye. And really do believe that life is for living.

Yours

Calley

Waves_and_Smiles

It is hard and also something that I can only imagine as both of my parents had died by the time I was 22 and at a young age. I have never had an older parent or family member die and wasn't in contact with my mother when she did, so I really only have my dad's death when I was 13 to compare it to. Considering 'I' disappeared for 9 months straight afterwards that isn't much help either. I have been quietly practical about this for several years without WaSp being aware of it. I have quietly bought him a suit and shoes and me a smart dress for her funeral and I try to keep £100 spare at all times for flowers and travel should it happen. I have had to prepare in advance because I can deal very badly with death and WaSp will be in a state so we need everything at our fingertips. I am also aware that BIL may fail totally to deal with her funeral so that could fall onto WaSp and therefore me, too.

Practically I have prepared us as much as I can but sadly that doesn't help WaSp with how he is feeling. I think he just needs to spend as much time with Milliefleur as he can now and make some more good memories. I think it must be very hard losing a parent that you have always been very close to after so many years, it must leave a huge hole. I wish that I could help him more.

heartbreak_star

I think the practicality will really help - I tried to do similar for my mum when Dad was really ill and she said it helped.

HBS x

Waves_and_Smiles

I hope so, HBS. I have been avoiding it because it is a trigger to me but I think that I need to brave it and look up how exactly you deal with a funeral. I helped my mother with a lot of my dad's funeral but a lot has changed since then. We really don't trust BIL to arrange anything at all so if I know how to do it could really help WaSp. If I react the same way as I did to my dad's death I will shut off emotionally and be totally numb so at least I could use that to help with everything practical. It might reassure WaSp too, because another thing he said today was he has never organised a funeral in his life and has no idea how to do it. Perhaps if he knows that I know how it will make him feel a little less anxious.

heartbreak_star

I think you're being brilliant

HBS x

elsien

Just be aware that whoever instructs the funeral director tends to be responsible for the bill, so on a practical level you also need to consider what might be in place to cover costs, and to check that you don't get lumbered with something you can't pay.
Sorry if that's a bit too much to think about at the moment, but affordability is a big factor unless someone's made arrangements in advance.