Did you plan your wedding before you got engaged?

ButterflyLC

I started to plan my wedding after we had booked it. I personally don't think you can plan a wedding properly until you have booked the venue so a scrapbook becomes invalid in many cases. Wedding dresses change every season so I only looked after I had booked it so I didn't set my heart on one that I couldn't get. So no, I didn't plan before I was engaged.

A close friend of mine however has a private Pinterest board with all wedding things. Styles she likes and colours etc. He BF doesn't know about it at all. But then she also has one for how she would like to decorate her house. Whats the harm in that if it is just a fantasy of your ideal day? However a scrapbook is a bit creepy I think....

Person_one

double_mummy wrote: »

you aren't in a relationship just because you do relationship-y things so why would you be engaged just because you are planning a wedding?

Eh? The definition of 'engaged' is surely that two people have agreed to marry each other. If they are planning the wedding I think they've comfortably met that definition! :rotfl:

Pollycat

Person_one wrote: »

Eh? The definition of 'engaged' is surely that two people have agreed to marry each other. If they are planning the wedding I think they've comfortably met that definition! :rotfl:

Can't argue with the above.

loranius

xXMessedUpXx wrote: »

I have a Pintrest board of wedding ideas, but that's just nice things i've seen and wanted to keep for future reference. No current plans of marriage though! I'll save actual wedding planing for it i'm ever actually engaged (though bf's attitude seems to be for men their job is to turn up and get wed and the details men don't really care about :eek: which although seems slightly sexist in a way i think he as saying he felt women care far too much about all the details, all that really matters is actually getting married to the person you love)

Haha your words describe perfectly what I was going to write.

I got married last month and before the proposal I knew my other half was going to propose soon. We had been together 7 years and he was a romantic at heart and wanted a really good proposal. We went to the Grand Canyon and he was going to propose by helicopter but due to unfortunate travel buddies he abandoned it.

Then we got engaged the following year during a diving trip in Egypt

Well before the proposal I was into pinterest and had set up a wedding board for rings, wedding decors and venues. I don't see any harm in it plus these things take time. If you really wanted something outstanding you would take your time scraping together your little useful details and then you can look at it when it comes to proper planning to save yourself a lot of time. I can tell you when it came to planning the actual wedding and sifting through millions of invitation cards ideas, table decor ideas, venue ideas, I just didn't want to do any of that!

Just to cause more outrage I also attended wedding fairs before the proposal. Because it was free (thx MSE for tickets a lot!), and I like free. We are on MSE afterall! I went along with some girlfriends of mine, some were single, some were engaged. We had a fun day out!

My other half didn't plan anything for 6 months so I told him if he's not doing any planning I'm not either. We basically planned our entire wedding in the last 6 months and it turned out just the way both of us wanted.

Men usually are less fussed than women on their wedding, so would it really be that much more controversial if we looked for ideas before the engagement?

Slinky

Pollycat wrote: »

I wonder if that OP got her desired proposal....

Life is too short to read the whole thread but her signature says 'Very happily married on 10th April 2013

Can only conclude somebody proposed, whether it was him, her or some other bloke

74jax

Yes she did, they married in 2013 like Slinky states to the person she was with in the original thread.

Elsewhere

The only thing I ever planned about my wedding was the dress I wanted - my best friend's mum was a dressmaker and we used to be allowed the old pattern books (from the 1950s) to cut out. This was it -



However, I got married in the early 70's; everything in the shops was crimplene and empire line and I didn't have the skill to make this dress :(:( Even my bouquet came out wrong - why is it that when you get something made to order they never listen? I had a heck of a time when I had my kitchen re-done - people kept telling me I needed twiddly and ornate "distressed" wood when I wanted clean and sparse spaceship control-room laminate.

Anatidaephobia

I don't think something like a Pinterest board with snippets of things you've seen elsewhere and liked qualifies as planning your wedding. It'd be different if a couple got engaged then one of them suddenly announced they already had a preferred choice of venue, florist and photographer, based on previous research without their partner's knowledge; that's more like planning.

We got engaged last year and neither of us did any planning before that.