Did you plan your wedding before you got engaged?

Piggywiggy

I'm not engaged, but if we do get engaged I know what I would and wouldn't like, does that count as planning?

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Originally Posted by Spider In The Bath
We arranged ours in six weeks. We went to make a booking at the Register Office and they mentioned that they had a free slot in six weeks time. As we only wanted a small wedding (21 of us in total at the event) we though why not and booked the day. It was then a bit of a mad rush to arrange everything, but it all worked out fine.

Torry_Quine wrote: »

Of course you were engaged! When you decided you were getting married that means you were engaged...

We made no announcement, bought no ring etc. We just knew that at 'some point' we would get married. We then woke up one day and decided to book the day that day and then got married 6 weeks later. People only knew we were going to get married when we sent invites for the wedding.


An engagement is the period between marriage proposal and wedding. As there was no marriage proposal there was no engagement.

Pollycat

In my day you decided you wanted to be married, you got engaged (no planning to get engaged in x years time) and started buying things for your 'bottom drawer' (remember those, ladies? ) and saving for a deposit for a house.

Gloomendoom

Spider_In_The_Bath wrote: »

We made no announcement, bought no ring etc. We just knew that at 'some point' we would get married. We then woke up one day and decided to book the day that day and then got married 6 weeks later. People only knew we were going to get married when we sent invites for the wedding.


An engagement is the period between marriage proposal and wedding. As there was no marriage proposal there was no engagement.

I suppose it depends on how you define a proposal. Not everybody gets down on one knee. Some might say that the morning you both agreed to formally start the process of getting married, rather than having a vague notion that you will sometime in the future, was the proposal. In the period between then and the wedding you were engaged.

I'd be inclined to agree with them.

Torry_Quine

Spider_In_The_Bath wrote: »

Quote:
Originally Posted by Spider In The Bath
We arranged ours in six weeks. We went to make a booking at the Register Office and they mentioned that they had a free slot in six weeks time. As we only wanted a small wedding (21 of us in total at the event) we though why not and booked the day. It was then a bit of a mad rush to arrange everything, but it all worked out fine.





We made no announcement, bought no ring etc. We just knew that at 'some point' we would get married. We then woke up one day and decided to book the day that day and then got married 6 weeks later. People only knew we were going to get married when we sent invites for the wedding.


An engagement is the period between marriage proposal and wedding. As there was no marriage proposal there was no engagement.

There doesn't have to be a proposal as such to be engaged, neither does anyone else have to know.

Topcat1982

TBH most girls have thought about what kind of wedding they want, even 5 year olds play at weddings. However booking something or buying is weird. Someone I know has purchased a wedding dress. She is single

minerva_windsong

I had ideas of what I might like in my head, but I definitely wasn't ordering brochures or anything like that before we got engaged! As others have said, there's something oddly sad about having everything planned out and then just shoehorning your husband-to-be in on what's meant to be a day for the two of you.


That said, my husband was very uninvolved in the planning, but I think that's because he genuinely wasn't bothered about anything other than the food and that there'd be enough to drink...

Gavin83

Pollycat wrote: »

In my day you decided you wanted to be married, you got engaged (no planningto get engaged in x years time) and started buying things for your 'bottom drawer' (remember those, ladies? ) and saving for a deposit for a house.

Is that a special name for your lady parts?

Topcat1982 wrote: »

TBH most girls have thought about what kind of wedding they want, even 5 year olds play at weddings. However booking something or buying is weird. Someone I know has purchased a wedding dress. She is single

This would be enough to make me seriously consider if I wanted to persue a relationship with that woman. I'd be really concerned about such actions.

Pollycat

Gavin83 wrote: »

Is that a special name for your lady parts?

Is that a serious question?

Gavin83

Pollycat wrote: »

Is that a serious question?

No.

In all seriousness though I have no idea what a bottom drawer is, besides the obvious.