Did you plan your wedding before you got engaged?

Pollycat

Gavin83 wrote: »

No.

Then why ask the question?

Gavin83 wrote: »

In all seriousness though I have no idea what a bottom drawer is, besides the obvious.

Then google it if you're interested.

Gavin83

Pollycat wrote: »

Then why ask the question?

It was an attempt at humour which is clearly lost on some on here.

(Cue barrage of 'it's not funny' comments, I'll save your time)

Not really worth arguing about anyway (although I gather thats your intention as no one in their right mind could believe that was a serious question) so I'll leave you to discuss your wedding plans.

[Deleted User]

Gavin83 wrote: »

No.

In all seriousness though I have no idea what a bottom drawer is, besides the obvious.

It is not what you suggested : ) but a collection of items saved for when a woman was married.


Traditionally, when items were handmade and not bought, it would take some time to sew and embroider nightwear, bedding, underwear etc. Most items would be made by the bride-to-be herself and perhaps her mother and then stored in a bottom drawer ready for the start of the marriage.

Pollycat

Gavin83 wrote: »

It was an attempt at humour which is clearly lost on some on here.

Maybe learn to use some smileys to show 'humour' then.......?
Because there's nothing in your post below to show it was 'an attempt at humour':

Gavin83 wrote: »

Is that a special name for your lady parts?

Gavin83 wrote: »

Not really worth arguing about anyway (although I gather thats your intention as no one in their right mind could believe that was a serious question) so I'll leave you to discuss your wedding plans.

I don't have any wedding plans.

Or was that another attempt at humour....?

double_mummy

the day i met my ex when i was 13 he told me that he would marry me one day does the mean i was engaged from then?

i think you aren't engaged until you actually say that you are engaged

you aren't in a relationship just because you do relationship-y things so why would you be engaged just because you are planning a wedding?

an engagement was a contract - that's what it marks historically so until you propose/ are proposed to there isnt an agreement to get married in place

purpleweasel

double_mummy wrote: »

an engagement was a contract - that's what it marks historically so until you propose/ are proposed to there isnt an agreement to get married in place

Am i right in thinking that in the past if you were jilted you could sue for breach of contract?

I think it's a bit sad in the modern world that a girl has to wait for a proposal. Is it because she wants to get married or because she wants a romantic proposal?

Our "proposal" was of the "it's a big anniversary for us this year, shall we get married?" sort. I saw a proposal in the street a couple of weeks ago, where the bloke had primed their children to say the words & when she turned round he was there on one knee! Very sweet but i would have died of embarrassment if it had been me!

Tropez

No pre-planning to my knowledge.

My now-wife had always said she didn't want to get married. Then one night she woke me up at 2am or something and asked me to marry her.

And then we did all the planning. If she'd pre-planned it I probably could have saved several grand because she's pretty good at organisation.

Gloomendoom

purpleweasel wrote: »

I think it's a bit sad in the modern world that a girl has to wait for a proposal. Is it because she wants to get married or because she wants a romantic proposal?

Read this and weep...

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/3283450

I'm a traditionalist at heart, but there are limits!

sugarbaby125

I did not plan my wedding until I was engaged. The engagement ring was handed down form my Mother-In-Law to his sister, who kindly let him have it to give to me for my engagement ring. We got engaged on the stroke of midnight at a family party being held by one of my older sister's. He was a trainee chef and lived at home. I was on benefits living with our 2 children in a l0th floor high rise flat. When we decided to get married we planned and executed the wedding in 8 weeks flat. It was not costly as we only had £800 to pay for the whole wedding. All of my family pitched in to help decorate a local community hall and with the catering.

The marriage lasted 8 years. After a 2 year separation we agreed to a no fault divorce.

Pollycat

Gloomendoom wrote: »

Read this and weep...

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/3283450

I'm a traditionalist at heart, but there are limits!

I wonder if that OP got her desired proposal....