Ex Date Won't Give Me MY Money Back! Advise please

SnooksNJ

Candyapple wrote: »

Clearly you don't understand sarcasm

So judging by your dates, day 14 of him having to respond to the pre court claim letter is this Monday, does that mean you sent him the pre court letter around third week of July? So him stopping talking to you happened circa mid July?

If he was genuine, 3 weeks is ample time to have paid you back. Also, what grown man in his 40s throws a strop to that extent? Is this extended lack of silence on his part supposed to teach you a lesson or something? :rotfl:

I don't understand how your friends still think he is genuine if he has treated you this way. He supposedly owns a business/es (delivery man business via eBay? selling/buying secondhand cars) has purchased or is about to purchase a flat, has business associates you've met so clearly he is paying staff wages as well, so why so hard up for such a small amount of money?

It doesn't really add up. The only logical conclusions are;
1. He is mentally unstable and has thrown the biggest strop but will pay up either if/when you visit his folks and he is embarrassed, or will pay up as soon as you send the proper court papers; the long wait period supposedly to teach you a lesson in trust(?) and to inconvenience you/being spiteful

2. He's a chancer/conman


What do you plan to do on Monday if he still hasn't responded? Are you going to visit his dad first or just go straight down the court route?

Going to the parents is a joke. They will call him and he will say the money was a gift, he broke up with the OP because of XYZ, and now she's a creepy stalker.
If it goes to court he will say first it was a loan but then because she was so in love with him she said it was a gift and now since they broke up he wants the money back.
See it on Judge Judy all the time.

cheexy

I have been laughing reading this thread. It is clear that the guy planned to con you from the very start. You haven't been to his house even though you know where it is but he had no scruples buttering you up with pictures of his sick mother. How can you say that going to someone's house within 6 weeks of dating is too soon but on the other hand, it is not too soon to lend him £1440 just like that.


And your long messages defending yourself and saying how he took you out to pubs and dinners and how you did the horizontal dance on the sofa doesn't help your case at all. At least not to other forum members. You were just an easy mark and I am sure he would have asked for more money if you didn't raise any problems over his non payment of the £1440.


I am more interested in how it went with the courts. Has he responded now?

dirtycredit

'it was all wonderful. Besides that, he was passionate, hot-blooded and loving, and could barely keep his hands off me...and forgive me for being personal, but his excitement was such that he had to restrain himself.....I'm sure you know what I'm getting at...and within a fairly short time he was excited all over again. '

Oh my god what a cringefest! This thread (not the situation) is priceless.

On a serious note..I wouldn't go to his parents house. It might escalate in a bad/threatening way. When people are backed into a corner you don't know how they will react. It could be risky especially as he sounds like a professional conman. Better to leave it to the courts/solicitors.

jonesMUFCforever

I think OP is J K rowling in disguise.

fierystormcloud

E L James more like!!! :rotfl:

Candyapple

Any updates OP? I'm sure a lot has happened in 3 weeks