Ex Date Won't Give Me MY Money Back! Advise please

nobblyned

Enterprise 1701C - How do you extract money from someone's account with their bank details exactly? Would be a very popular sport if you could!

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daytona0 wrote: »

I'm going to blow your mind here but...

- People on this forum are generally trying to help you in some way, even by offering you advice above the legal spiel. If you wanted to keep it legal then you shouldnt include the backstory because the backstory generates concerns.

- Your ex has up to now robbed 1400 from you.

We aren't the villains here. There is only one villain here, and it is your ex.

Why you'd have a pop at anyone on this forum is frankly beyond me, because most people on here have so much more integrity. I believe the phrase "love is blind" holds true here!

The mere fact that you have continued to post instead of following through on your letter before action paints a possible picture of your personality. This whole thing seems to rumble on, and you have put in a lot of energy into this thread when a simple solution exists! You have also indicated that you may be in contact with him still (to no avail) despite the LBA, so what the hell is that all about? Either he pays or her doesn't pay and you take him to court. Sod your friends, and sod him! Just sort it out for YOU!



What??? Why don't you READ what I wrote? Or maybe you did and you can't understand what I wrote? I HAVE sent the letter (scroll back) and the 14 days us to up until tomorrow. Do you unstandardised that?

P.S. you MAY benefit from counselling, but I am not going to be bold and say that you DO NEED it. Only you can figure out if you need it, and there is some evidence to suggest that it may help. I, or nobody else, will not lose sleep if you decline it!

You're not in a position to say whether I need counselling. Nor am I in a position to say what the woman who first suggested it needs, suffice to say she tells lots of people on MSE that they need counselling yet she comes across as though she's a frustrated embittered person who I would suggest needs MORE than counselling. All this rubbish about airy fairy counselling because I loaned someone money is nonsense. I'm well-adjusted, have tons of confidence, and I don't obsess over strangers posts, like some people do on here.

I asked for advice on getting money back, not advice on mental health - of which you and the other poster know nothing. I dare say you're a friend of hers,ms ticking up for her....cos few people would agree with her. It's clear she's got a chip in her shoulder about something, and likes to unleash her frustration on strangers here lol...

Once again, if you want to comment please read my posts properly, otherwise you make yourself look daft.

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Fraise wrote: »

You're not in a position to say whether I need counselling. Nor am I in a position to say what the woman who first suggested it needs, suffice to say she tells lots of people on MSE that they need counselling yet she comes across as though she's a frustrated embittered person who I would suggest needs MORE than counselling. All this rubbish about airy fairy counselling because I loaned someone money is nonsense. I'm well-adjusted, have tons of confidence, and I don't obsess over strangers posts, like some people do on here.

I asked for advice on getting money back, not advice on mental health - of which you and the other poster know nothing. I dare say you're a friend of hers,ms ticking up for her....cos few people would agree with her. It's clear she's got a chip in her shoulder about something, and likes to unleash her frustration on strangers here lol...

Once again, if you want to comment please read my posts properly, otherwise you make yourself look daft.

What??? Why don't you READ what I wrote? Or maybe you did and you can't understand what I wrote? I HAVE sent the letter (scroll back) and the deadline is tomorrow. What's wrong with you? Why can't you understand what u wrote? Why reply when you're not clear about what u said?

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Deleted%20User wrote: »

This is looking good.
Exact same happened to me when I considered a moneyclaimonline
Within a week I received payment and didn't have to follow through with it
Good luck - keep your annoyance till you get sorted
xx

Thank you.

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Enterprise_1701C wrote: »

I noticed earlier that you said you had his bank details (to pay for flights). Are you absolutely sure this was HIS bank account?

If this is the case, could you ask a solicitor about the legalities of simply repaying yourself with these details?

Yes, it's definitely his account. It's the same exact name as that which is in his passport.

I couldn't possibly pay myself back using his bank details as that would be forgery, I'm sure.

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SnooksNJ wrote: »

Exactly. My guess is if the OP didn't ask for the money back he would still be his charming self. Soon to be followed up by another boo hoo story can you lend me money. And another, and another.
Lucky escape if you ask me.

Well, I'm no soft touch, so had he tried to borrow more money off me it would never have happened.

You're also wrong about him getting upset because I asked for my money back. He was upset before I gave to him....maybe the story is a little complicated or you haven't read it thoroughly?

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robatwork wrote: »

This forum posting saga IS her therapy. And we are a community counsellor. Some people like to share minutiae... it's cathartic.

I guess.

You've a point there. It is cathartic. It's also enlightening, because amongst the many nice,kind, helpful members on here...there's a couple who thrive on other peoples misfortunes, and clearly gloat. I don't mind that, because I know that those particular people have sad, unhappy lives and I'm glad I help them gain a little satisfaction, albeit temporarily, in their miserable lives. After all, have you even come across a bitter hater who is happy?.......

And Yes, I'm owed £1400, and I may never see it again. Then again, I might. It's not a shattering amount of money to lose, and I'm glad I'm in the position whereby it doesn't affect my finances. It's the principle that annoys me.

Oh, I received another call today (no message) and now I'm going sunbathing in my garden and then having friends over for a late lunch. Sipping ice cold peach Bellini's made with fresh white peach juice and Prosseco, whilst sunning yourself in your new bikini as you relax in your hammock is also cathartic. Very cathartic.....

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Fraise wrote: »

You've a point there. It is cathartic. It's also enlightening, because amongst the many nice,kind, helpful members on here...there's a couple who thrive on other peoples misfortunes, and clearly gloat. I don't mind that, because I know that those particular people have sad, unhappy lives and I'm glad I help them gain a little satisfaction, albeit temporarily, in their miserable lives. After all, have you even come across a bitter hater who is happy?.......

And Yes, I'm owed £1400, and I may never see it again. Then again, I might. It's not a shattering amount of money to lose, and I'm glad I'm in the position whereby it doesn't affect my finances. It's the principle that annoys me.

Oh, I received another call today (no message) and now I'm going sunbathing in my garden and then having friends over for a late lunch. Sipping ice cold peach Bellini's made with fresh white peach juice and Prosseco, whilst sunning yourself in your new bikini as you relax in your hammock is also cathartic. Very cathartic.....

Have you been watching the chef bloke from Padstow on telly?

hannibal1970

sell your story to a magazine and get your money back that way iam sure some mag would publish it

dacouch

So basically, do not expect to see the money again, if you do look on it as a bonus.

If you can afford to potentially lose further money pursuing the money go for it.

Most people in your situation would not be able to throw more money chasing the money in your situation.

By all means go for it as he deserves to be taught a lesson and you deserve your money back. However make the decision as a business decision, I would not recommend chasing the money as the way to mend a broken heart.