Husband doesn't find me attractive!

Mojisola

Marieboo2 wrote: »

he could easily lose weight , he's in the high 20s stone wise.

But I accept he's not ready to do that and so I would never put him down.

Just a pity the same respect can't be shown to me really.

You're a nicer person than he is!

Like others have said - it sounds as if he's insecure and thinks he only managed to hold onto you because of your weight.

The irony is that his reaction to your losing weight is going to drive you away.

Guest101

Some might disagree, but with all this weight loss (congrats!) have you made time for him.

I agree it can be daunting to some people that their partner will be attracting more attention than usual. This isn't a bad thing, if he didnt care about this, he could just be very confident in the relationship (good!) or that he actually doesnt care (:eek:)

My ex would always say she needed to lose weight. I'm not saying she was stick thin, but i never felt that it was necessary. Of course i supported her with her attempts, but to me I didnt see the need.

In reality it was for her own self esteem. I was happy with her the way she was.

I guess it's about maintaining the love and romance during such changes.

and lets be fair, anyone who has read any guide about cheating will know in the top 5 is always, weight loss/ new appearance. If this isnt translating to time with your OH, they may get suspicious.

amistupid

Marieboo2 wrote: »

However, I have now lost 16 kgs at first he laughed claiming he couldn't notice I was losing anything so I might as well give up.

Pm me some naked photos and Ill give you a second opinion.

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What on earth are you doing with him? He sounds like a D-1ck

Kernow666

amistupid wrote: »

Pm me some naked photos and Ill give you a second opinion.

you cracked me up at that comment :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Marieboo2

Making time for him? Losing weight has simply meant reducing the food I eat, it hasn't involved me going anywhere. He kicked up a fuss when I tried to join a gym so I gave up on that. So he has as much time with me as always.
He spends all his free time online. In my mind lookin at other women, so if anyhting I thought my losing weight might make him look at me more, if anyhting it's made him worse. So I can't win.

amistupid

Joking apart, you've done very well. I lost three stone and I know how difficult dieting is. Perhaps he's jealous of your determination to improve how you look, and that's why he's ridiculing and trying to scupper your efforts. My guess is he doesn't look as desirable as he did ten years ago, but he hasn't got your drive to do anything about it.

Marieboo2

amistupid wrote: »

Pm me some naked photos and Ill give you a second opinion.

That a sight no one wants to see. How kind of you to offer :rotfl:

ecgirl07

Marieboo2 wrote: »

I have told him that if nothing else it's for my health, I was getting out of breath going up stairs, couldn't play football with my son. But he thinks it's to attract other men. Tbh couldn't be further from the truth.

I do feel more confident but his constant nagging is starting to eat into that. He brought home McDonald's food last night, when I wouldn't eat any he said I was being ridiculous and went to bed in a mood.
Then he told me I look so awful that I have "run out of my uses" it's depressing.
If I were to talk to him like this, he could easily lose weight , he's in the high 20s stone wise. But I accept he's not ready to do that and so I would never put him down.
Just a pity the same respect can't be shown to me really.

You are moving on without him and he wants to hold you back. Maybe try an approach you both need to get healthier for your son, plan some meals together and see if he can get involved without feeling he is on a diet?

Congratulations on your progress:T

Marieboo2

amistupid wrote: »

Joking apart, you've done very well. I lost three stone and I know how difficult dieting is. Perhaps he's jealous of your determination to improve how you look, and that's why he's ridiculing and trying to scuopper your efforts. My guess is he doesn't look as desirable as he did ten years ago, but he hasn't got your drive to do anything about it.

He's at least 9 stones heavier than when we first met, and a lot lighter in the hair department.
But again, I love him for him. If he is happy so am I. If he wanted to lose weight though I would back him 100%