Are you dating an emotional manipulator?

PeacefulWaters

Three weeks out and not once have I thought I've made a huge mistake.

I've had a series of emails from my wife trying to tell me who I can get friends with on Facebook, rewriting history and blaming me for her failings. I've ignored them, only responding to practicalities like finances or boiler services etc.

I'm sad that I only see my son once a week. But those have been good days.

I'm coming to terms with the huge dent it will make to my finances when it's all done and dusted. Especially the early retirement plans I'd lined up.

My day to day finances are stretched and I'll have to dip into savings while I pay to maintain mortgage and bills on one place and rent on another. But this is a rainy day and what savings are for.

I've got a short solo holiday booked at the end of next month and an old friend has invited me upto Scotland for a couple of days. If the weather is good on the way back down south I'll have a go at walking up The Old Man of Coniston - something that would have been beyond me a few months back.

I'm still nervous about what lies ahead. It would be untrue to say that my anxiety levels have dropped. But I'm confident that I've done the right thing. I can't see any scenario where I think I will return to my wife.

calleyw

PW,

Thanks for letting us know how its going.

It is hard when any couple breaks up. Physically, emotionally and financially just remember that is a light at the end of the tunnel.

And I know its hard not seeing your son. Don't forget he is getting to that age where he could go off to uni and you would not see him months.

Stay strong and take care.

Yours

Calley

PeacefulWaters

When am I supposed to regret this?

I don't!

Guest101

PeacefulWaters wrote: »

When am I supposed to regret this?

I don't!

regret which bit?

PeacefulWaters

Guest101 wrote: »

regret which bit?

Leaving the wife.

Guest101

PeacefulWaters wrote: »

Leaving the wife.

You might not ever regret it.


Sometimes it's just that, the line in the sand.

mai_taylor

Hi PW, I'm know I'm really late to this but sounds like you've done the right thing. I don't think you need to worry about over analysing her psychological issues the point is you weren't happy and couldn't see yourself being happy with her in the future.

I would get yourself some legal advice and keep communication with her to the minimum. Now you have the chance to focus on what makes you happy and make a new life for yourself.

PeacefulWaters

Gone six months. I really couldn't be happier.

calleyw

PeacefulWaters wrote: »

Gone six months. I really couldn't be happier.

PW,

Thanks for keeping us updated.

I am so pleased for you.

Yours

Calley