Why Won’t You Marry Me.?

libra10

It seems that Simon's heart is definitely not into any further commitment, and I would echo Yorkshire Girl's words -

Run!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
in triplicate!

Once bitten, twice shy!

simon-dupree

My X got 55-45 but when I took advice I was told 70-30 was regularly a settlement figure on the wife of 30 plus years if she had no income other than the spouses ,scary isn't it!!!

If your wife doesn't work and you split its far worse for you because she has to be kept in the manor she has become accustomed!!! if she has a good job its considered she can support herself. The lawyers have it all understood and know exactly what to say and go for. Simon

Mrs_Optimist

Your gut instincts are telling you all you need to know - you don't need any advice, just listen to what your head is telling you.

lynzpower

simon-dupree wrote: »

My X got 55-45 but when I took advice I was told 70-30 was regularly a settlement figure on the wife of 30 plus years if she had no income other than the spouses ,scary isn't it!!!

If your wife doesn't work and you split its far worse for you because she has to be kept in the manor she has become accustomed!!! if she has a good job its considered she can support herself. The lawyers have it all understood and know exactly what to say and go for. Simon

*shakes head*

the law is well and truly an A55

simon-dupree

I don't actually feel as though this lady in my life is a bad person but I think she looks for security in a suitor and then finds love with a person that can provide that security and then pushes hard to consolidate it.Unfortunately in pushing hard to consolidate it she has pushed me away and I just cannot come to terms with it.She always made me feel as though we wouldn't be happy until we were married and that felt wrong to me .I feel that to people should be happy together in or out of marriage and both feel marriage will enhance the relationship.She made out marriage and financial commitment was the relationship .It didn't feel right to me.She has i am afraid spoiled my chance of loving her as I want to (and probably as she wants to be loved) with this attitude .The damage has been done and I have actually called her bluff on the ultimatum and we have parted


I do stay in Travelodge's and eat normal healthy meals in medium range restaurants.I feel opulence is not necessary for me just reasonable tidy good standards and value for money.

Hope i havent shocked anyone to much!!

Simon

NAR

simon-dupree wrote: »

I feel that to people should be happy together in or out of marriage and both feel marriage will enhance the relationship.

This sums it up perfectly for me and is the reason my wife and I (both divorcees) decided to get married.
I'm sorry but I don't think she is for you Simon.

larmy16

[ have a good sense of humour (you have to have when you loose 3/4 million)

Well you certainly made me laugh with this Simon. True irony. Very good.

theoldtrout

Go back to her with this!

Tell her that you will marry her only if: you both put the same amount of money into a property between you and all livable income will be of equal amount from both sides.
Put all your property into a ltd company without her involvement and spread the shares between the family.
Do you have any other family besides your mum?
When you reach your fifties, you do get a little worried about income and later life, however, she seems fairly solvent but only if she remains in work.
I can see that she's probably getting fed up of working.
On the other hand she may be desperately in love with you and feeling very insecure hence the pressure. But, as I see it, she's good enough for you to spend three nights a week with but not to marry! Are you sure your not just using her for the nookie? She may be sensing this in the back of her mind and just testing you to see if your either using her or are serious about her.
Be totally honest, if you don't love her then don't stay the night!!!...and tell her.
Trust me, I'm someone that's been there!

Kimitatsu

I feel that to people should be happy together in or out of marriage and both feel marriage will enhance the relationship.She made out marriage and financial commitment was the relationship

I think you answered your own question there. Marriage is a meeting of minds and souls not bank accounts or business deals.

Now you have made your decision, move on with your life and enjoy the things that you want. It doesnt have to be 5 star hotels and room service, find yourself a lady who really doesnt care about your money and be happy :cool:

Being comfortable with someone isnt enough - a lodger is someone you can rub along with not a spouse.

candygirl

How come there are two seperate threads running on this?