Your partner doesn't drive, does it bother you?

PasturesNew

DUTR wrote: »

.... it's the dependancy that is 'ugly' IMO.

Maybe they see it as a free chauffeured booty call!

seven-day-weekend

PeonySugar wrote: »

To make this as non specific as possible, you live a 30 minute drive away from each other. No direct public transport route between you that takes less than 2 hours. You have to do all the driving to see each other and go places and do things.

Partner is scared to learn to drive.

How do you feel?

Depends upon how much you love them

Buzzybee90

I wouldn't date anyone that couldn't drive, unless there was a valid reason. So yes, it would bother me.

Mrshaworth2b

Could be worse.... you could both not drive and have to spend 2 hrs to see each other on public transport

double_mummy

my bf doesnt drive and i do - he just never got around to learning (he is mid 20s)

he is a 20 min drive away which isnt too bad but if we want to go out where i can drink as well we will grab a taxi and he has more than happily done the 1 hour on public transport to see me

its about putting the effort in either he wants to see you and he will do whatever or he doesnt and he wont

pickledonionspaceraider

It would only bother me on the basis if they never put fuel in the car - i.e the financial onus was on me, to continue with the relationship

burnoutbabe

I'd expect them to pubic transport it say 1/3 of the time to my house, say at weekends so its not 4 hours of travelling in one weekend.

I had the same thing, it was a 45 min drive between us but 1h 30 on trains. I did it a few times, he drove to mine more (i lived on my tod and he had a landlady so nicer at mine anyway) and he moved in after a few months.

And then the car never got used (as we;re in london) and got sold!

PlymouthMaid

It would bother me a bit. In the early days it woudl just put me off someone as being 'scared to drive' is a bit too wimpy for me. Thinking long term it woudl bother me as it would mean all driving chores such as collecting and delivering children, shopping etc would always fall on my shoulders.

llan

Wouldn't bother me.

duchy

Buzzybee90 wrote: »

I wouldn't date anyone that couldn't drive, unless there was a valid reason. So yes, it would bother me.

Really ?

I wouldn't date anyone who judged me on my ability to drive or not.
Car owning (which I guess is what you mean really) is way down my list of priorities when choosing a date. On the other hand I've dated men who lived in central London -and they wouldn't dream of owning a car as a car in London is a PITA only taxi drivers and tourists drive in central London

I suppose if I lived somewhere really rural it might be important but not otherwise.