Invited for dinner then being asked to help clear up

pendragon_arther

fierystormcloud wrote: »

Wow, really? I would never want to come to your house...either of you.

If I was asked by someone to their house for dinner, I'm sorry but I would be actually quite offended if I was asked to wash up! That said, I often do offer sometimes, (and it's always declined!) But I would not be happy if I was asked. Why should I? I am a guest!

I think it's a cheek to ask your guests to wash up. And it's nothing to do with being a spoilt selfish brat! That is dreadful etiquette to ask your guests to help wash up. LOL, I have never heard the likes of it, and I can honestly say I have never been asked to do it. It seems so vulgar, and frankly, it's a bit weird. THis woman clearly has no manners.



Me too. The OP's 'friend' just leaving was disgraceful actually. I would never go again if I were the OP.

Yes, but your Majesty, you have people do it for you, don't you?

PintAndAPie

First world problems.

tenuissent

I am laughing over the grandmother who tried to get the children to finish up cans and bottles before opening new ones. I might not have made a scene at a party, but as a grandmother with 8 grandchildren who frequently come and stay I am in complete sympathy with her. In my house, children who ask for milk or juices have to finish their glasses. If they don't, the glass stays on the table until they are next thirsty. The alternative is clearing away over the days and weeks countless half empty glasses and wasting the contents.

I also ask them to identify their own glass and always use that one, possibly rinsing it out first. Otherwise they constantly go to the glasses cupboard and help themselves to a new glass, and in a gathering of say 6 - 10, forests of once used glasses have ended up covering the table, to be collected and washed by me.

You might think they would avoid me and my rules, but I am bracing myself for invasions throughout August by two late teenage grandsons and their girlfriends, plus a keen 8 yr old and various other family visitors, so I must be doing something right.

forzaitalia

So funny reading some of these comments. As I stated before, with my friends and family we all chip in and help, it's just what we do. I have never had a "formal" dinner party as that just isn't how we all are, God how boring!

Maybe if I was having dinner with the Queen, it might be different.........

fierystormcloud

pickledonionspaceraider wrote: »

And the prize for the lamest thread EVER, goes to....

PintAndAPie wrote: »

First world problems.

I don't understand this ^^^

If you have no interest in the thread or think it's silly and trivial, then why even open it?

And I am sick and tired of seeing that old chestnut 'first world problems.' That phrase has been done to death on here. There is always SOMEOne who has to come along and post it!

riceandpeas

"Should I have been offended? would you have been?"

Certainly not. It may not be "what I would do in my own house" or "the way I was brought up". But that's the point isn't it? It's not your house and you don't know how they were brought up. The civilised thing to do is to respond positively and get on with it, a.k.a 'When in Rome...'

In any case, it sounds to be as if you were being treated as part of the family, which is quite a compliment in my book.:D

BarryBlue

pickledonionspaceraider wrote: »

And the prize for the lamest thread EVER, goes to....

Really? Look around this board, then around the Arms and DT. There are dozens far worse than this!;)

happyinflorida

Everyone is different, so take a chill pill and do not get offended - please!

Gosh I'm amazed that you would. When you're young it's hard work to do a dinner party but you're young so it's ok - when you're older it's different - so be understanding.

NICHOLAS_2

I wouldn't want strangers touching my plates.

Plus, most people have a dishwasher these days.

I think she may have asked because it sounds like the thread starter is a woman.

pickledonionspaceraider

fierystormcloud wrote: »

I don't understand this ^^^

If you have no interest in the thread or think it's silly and trivial, then why even open it?

And I am sick and tired of seeing that old chestnut 'first world problems.' That phrase has been done to death on here. There is always SOMEOne who has to come along and post it!

Why comment?

To try and get hysterical people to see things in context.

Stephen Fry has an interesting comment to say about easily offended folks:-

“It's now very common to hear people say, 'I'm rather offended by that.' As if that gives them certain rights. It's actually nothing more... than a whine. 'I find that offensive.' It has no meaning; it has no purpose; it has no reason to be respected as a phrase. 'I am offended by that.' Well, so what."