Releasing my inner beast!

Anatidaephobia

marisco wrote: »

They didn't have the power to make you feel anything. How you choose to react to them is within your control. If you are totally happy with your decisions, what other people think would not matter a jot.

While I agree with this in theory; it's easier said than done If it were me, I probably wouldn't care about someone else's opinion on my choice - but, in that moment, I might care about the fact that they were laughing in my face. I'd be pretty shocked that someone would be so blatantly rude tbh. They are entitled to their opinions and those opinions shouldn't upset the OP but that doesn't mean it's acceptable for them to be so rude.

Ames

Elsewhere wrote: »

If I shave my armpits the sweat trickles down my body - makes me sore - it's nasty - rather than it catching on the hair and evaporating.

And body hair is like cat's whiskers - cut it off and you've cut off one of your senses and one of your protective layers - you can't tell wind direction for instance, or feel a touch before it reaches your skin and you can't fluff up your hair to capture the warm air near your skin to keep you cosy in cold weather.

And I think the sight of healthy skin in the sunshine with the light glinting off the body hair like an aura is most attractive.

I do get rid of my facial hair - PCOS runs in my family and I reckon I could grow a beard to rival Father Christmas if I left it a month. However the NHS says that 1 in 5 women in the UK have PCOS, so if we all left our beards (LOL, we'd probably give the guys an inferiority complex)... Maybe we should join the guys in "Movember"??

Ooh I like that idea!

FBaby

You said it yourself, society 'dictates' how people should look and behave. You have taken upon yourself not to be 'dictated' and that's absolutely your right. But exercise that right and enjoying your freedom will come with people commenting on you being 'different'. As marisco says, you can't control how other people are going to react. Most people will completely ignore it, but there will always be some who will pick up on what is not the norm. You need to accept that it will happen and ignore it

tealady

Next time a bloke upsets you like that look at their crotch then look at your little finger (hooked is best) and smile.
But then I have an evil streak!

zarf2007

Domayne wrote: »

I stopped shaving about 6 months ago - underarms, legs, bikini...everywhere basically.
I decided that, After 15 years, I'm sick of bowing down to societal pressure to remain as smooth as a babies bum.
I'm tired of razor burn. I'm tired of ingrown hairs. I'm tired of scratching like I have some STD after the 1st day. I'M TIRED OF IT ALL!
My mum thinks I'm depressed because I stopped wearing make-up too and bothering to do anything with my hair except shoving it in a bun.
I'm not depressed. I'm just...tired. Tired of being dictated what I should wear, what kind of car I should drive (and the fact that I NEED a car, despite the fact that I live in London and having a car is actually more of a hindrance than a help...congestion, no parking, congestion charge etc etc..) That I should be looking to 'advance' in some kind of career, which I'm not even remotely interested in, That I should be settled down with some guy by now, That I should be thinking of having babies at my age because I'm 'getting on a bit'
T.I.R.E.D
It's taken me until the age of THIRTY to realize that actually, I kinda like my body hair. I don't WANT to shave it. It feels nice to me. I'm not itchy, I have no crazy rashes and ingrown hairs. I feel quite free!
I don't have a bf, but I have a fwb situation who I've been seeing on/off for 11 years now and he is fine with it, he doesn't pressure me to shave or anything.
So my point...Today while I was coming home on the Victoria line, for the first time this year I've felt the need to shed some clothes because it was just too hot. So I took off my cardigan.
While I did, there was 4 guys sitting across from me who must have caught a glimpse of my underarm rug. I then spent a 15 minute journey with them laughing at me because I'm a female who dared to have some hair. They didn't do it discreetly either - then were flat out STARING AT ME AND LAUGHING IN MY FACE. Luckily I don't know what they were saying because they were speaking polish/russian.
Ok, you can think I'm gross. It's your opinion. My best friend told me to my face that it's gross and I need to shave, but it's ok because she's my friend and she is allowed to say that to MY FACE
BUT YOU ARE A FREAKING STRANGER! What right do you have to try and make me feel inferior because I don't fit your beauty ideals?! By all means, when you get out of my face feel free to laugh at me all you want and rip me to shreds, Think I'm bigfoot or whatever, I don't care....but why be so rude about MY body and what I decide to do with it IN MY FACE?
Sorry for the pointless post. Just needed to rant :mad:

I don't care how you argue it, its rank!! When Julia Roberts did the under hair armpit thing she lost something in my and many other males eyes forever.....

if we wanted to get in bed with a woolly mammoth we would date a hairy builder......its just wrong on so many levels.....as liberal as everyone who posts on here is, they would never do it to this excess....

tbh i also think men should groom and excessive hair looks bad on them as well.....we are not apes and shouldn't resemble them!

PuzzledDave

zarf2007 wrote: »

I don't care how you argue it, its rank!! When Julia Roberts did the under hair armpit thing she lost something in my and many other males eyes forever.....

I heard her the other day crying into some spare $1,000 notes she had lying around. *Sob* *Sob* zarf2007 doesn't leer at my body any more.

scarlet55

I also applaud you for doing it - I couldn't do it though, I like to be clean shaven, everywhere but my head. But I do it for me, not others.

However, as I get older I find that my 'hairy bits' don't grow as much..lol for example, I don't feel any hair on my legs after shaving for at least 4 days, then it's only a little.

I just find shaving more hygienic, especially my 'lady bits':o

David301

a quote from an article for you all

Underarms

American women had no need to shave their underarms before about 1915 – after all, who ever saw them? Even the word “underarm” was considered scandalous, what with it being so near certain other interesting body parts. Then came the sleeveless dress. An ad in the fashion mag Harper’s Bazaar decreed that to wear it (and certainly to wear it while participating in “Modern Dancing”), women would need to first see to “the removal of objectionable hair.” They didn’t need much convincing, and by the early ’20s, hairy underarms were so last decade, at least in America.

Legs

The ’20s fashion was risqu! on the bottom half, too, but most women of the era didn’t seem to feel the need to shave their legs, and when hemlines dropped again in the ’30s, the point became moot. The ’40s, however, brought even shorter skirts, sheerer stockings, and the rise of leggy pin-ups such as Betty Grable. “The removal of objectionable hair” suddenly applied to a lot more surface area.

Naughty Bits

Was it !!!!!! actresses who started this one? GIs concerned about disease? The Brazilians? Nah. For hundreds of years, the bikini wax has been a common practice among a group more often associated with extreme modesty: Muslim women. In much of the Middle East and North Africa, brides-to-be remove all their body hair before the wedding night. Yes, all of it. Frequently, they stick with the aesthetic after marriage – and some men do likewise.

Pollycat

Domayne wrote: »

While I did, there was 4 guys sitting across from me who must have caught a glimpse of my underarm rug. I then spent a 15 minute journey with them laughing at me because I'm a female who dared to have some hair. They didn't do it discreetly either - then were flat out STARING AT ME AND LAUGHING IN MY FACE. Luckily I don't know what they were saying because they were speaking polish/russian.

I don't know about the nationalities mentioend above but some nationalities don't seem to shave their underarms/legs.

I'd just put it down to rank rudeness on their part.

I shave my underarms and legs but not because society expects it but because I want to do it.

Hope you feel better now you've had a rant.

zarf2007

PuzzledDave wrote: »

I heard her the other day crying into some spare $1,000 notes she had lying around. *Sob* *Sob* zarf2007 doesn't leer at my body any more.

actually I had to get a restraining order out against her as she wouldn't stop calling.....or was that my psychiatrist?