B!tchy workmates

Giggidy

Just needed to vent a bit, and b!tch about a b!tchy b!tch of a workmate I tend to generally get on with most people, and quite enjoy back and forth banter taking the pee out of each other or having a laugh at my expense.

However there always seems to be one person who crosses the line and who "jokingly" completely decimates your character and uses every opportunity to tear you to shreds. I work with a girl like this, who at times can be quite nice but constantly makes digs about peoples appearances, criticising their work and just belittles and !!!!!es and moans. Its just not me, a few have been in the firing line, but Im really starting to resent this because its starting to get personal. Im a girl who enjoys her food , a bit too much sometimes but Im by no means rolling out of bed in the morning, and this girl, who of course is rake thin has decided to tell me to "..start trimmin down for the summer hun.." or "..."you should eat a salad luv..." And today when someone else was about to throw the leftovers of their lunch away she said "oh ......will it eat it ha ha ha (meaning me!) 😤

Im not a soft touch in fact at times I can be hot headed and will not put up with being treated like an idiot and I have spoken to this person about their unnecessary comments and it just gets laughed off. I just get thrown a bit when she will be a nice normal person and then from left centre she sucker punches me with another insult so I dont always have the right response at the time which annoys me even more because when I do its too late and seems like Im over-reacting. I try to avoid interacting with her but its difficult when u work together.

Anyway enough waffle, how do I deal with this and not let it wind me up so much?

Nile

I'd be tempted to reply with something like "I can lose weight... but you'll always be plain looking with an ugly personality".

gettingtheresometime

I used to work with a person like this who used to finish her comments with 'you know I'm only joking'.

In the end I started replying to them by saying 'no I didn't actually...we obviously have different tastes in humour'

jenhug

Yup, I can lose weight, you'll always be **insert as desired**
1, an A_Hole,
2, Ugly on the inside
3, a !!!!!!
4, a B!tch

Bennifred

What you need is a stock reply which will fit any !!!!!y remark she comes out with. Something along the lines of (hurt voice) Did you mean that to be as !!!!!y/nasty as it sounded?

Sooki

She's a jealous insecure bully.

Have you at some point hurt her with your banter and not realised, if you've hit an insecurity she'll be out for revenge. Retaliating will make it more nasty.

Serve it up cold and kill her with kindness then she'll look really bad if she starts being nasty. If your the kind of place that takes in treats, find her favourite treat (don't let on) & take it in to share with everyone if she declines she'll look like she's got issues to everyone else.

Georgiegirl256

Giggidy wrote: »

And today when someone else was about to throw the leftovers of their lunch away she said "oh ......will it eat it ha ha ha (meaning me!) 😤
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To which you should reply...."and you'll be eating my fist if you make one more remark about my weight....luv!"

People like that are basically projecting their own insecurities on to you.

Giggidy

At first I just had general friendly chats with her, I only keep the banter chats for mates I know wont take offence. Then I started noticing her getting a bit bossy telling me off for silly things, and I joked and said I feel like I got my mum at work. Maybe she took offence cos the insults ramped up a bit after that, but as I say she is generally !!!!!y with others too so I dont think I invited any of her insults by being mean first.

I would really like to her tell her Im quite comfortable in my size 12 jeans and we dont all want to look like sticks with hair but then a) she will think she hit a nerve and I dont want to give her that satisfaction and b) wont that make me just as !!!!!y as her? Sometimes though I wish I could just speak my mind and not be the bigger person, it would be alot more fun just sticking it to her

Sooki

Bet you anything she really struggles with her weight as from what your saying she seems a bit obsessed.
She doesn't sound very pleasant, and sounds like she's very concerned about her image. So now you know what pushes her buttons I.e. 'being thought of as mumsy' you can subtly retaliate if you want but it would be mean. I.e. Oh wow I love your new top, shoes etc.. My mums just brought the exact same and she looks so funky in them. No one else will know what your up to but it will drag you down to her level.

Anatidaephobia

She sounds very rude.

You won't be alone; others at work will have noticed it too and be uncomfortable with it even if they don't show it.

Giggidy

Oh she is well aware that she is being hurtful, she almost had a formal complaint made against her for upsetting another colleague. She is like one of the baddies off Mean Girls. Really slim, good looking girl, who knows it and looks down on others. She is quite intimidating/aggressive and people are a bit scared to say anything to avoid confrontation. Im not afraid of confrontation and have told her before to back off and she does, only to start up again, and Im just getting so freakin tired of it.