Former friend accosted me inappropriately

19lottie82

ScarletMarble wrote: »

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My colleagues understand me. I texted and FB messaged 2 or 3. They are much better than you lot at understanding me.

Right, so you messaged your colleagues straight away to continue with the b!tchin?

They might be understanding and supportive to your face, but judging by your behaviour, I seriously doubt they're not saying other things to each other.

I'm sorry you didn't get the "support" on this thread that you were looking for, but maybe you should take these opinions on board, rather than threatening to "put everyone on ignore" who doesn't agree with you.

Seriously, let this drop and never discuss it with your co workers EVER again. Nothing good will come of this in terms of your reputation and work and your career in general. Trust me. (As already explained by Mrs Imp)

Pollycat

peachyprice wrote: »

I have a feeling you are just being humoured by your colleagues but they don't believe a word you are saying, let alone understand you and really just wish you would !!!!!!.

This ocurred to me too.
I have a good friend who ocassionally bangs on about somebody else - what they've done, what they've said, what they've posted on some childish soclal media - I just say 'Mmmm, Ahah, Of course', smile or nod.
It doesn't mean I agree with her, it just means I'm bored with the whole bloody business and hope she gets it out of her system quick so we can chat about important things.

ScarletMarble wrote: »

Where she was standing, it was impossible to go back into the pub, informing those still behind as it would involve me walking past her again.

Why on earth would you want to go back inside to tittle-tattle to the others when you'd already left the party?
Why didn't you just drive off when you'd got in your car?

ScarletMarble wrote: »

Were good friends for about 4-5 years. Stopped talking to her in early Feb - never had an argument. As got fed up with her sudden change into a rude, racist patronising woman.

If I had a good friend who suddenly turned into a 'rude, racist, patronising woman', I think I'd try to find out what had suddently changed in her life instead of dropping her like a hot potato without giving her the courtesy of an explanation.

elsien

I think the OP is having selective memory on that one. I seem to remember the OP complaining that the friend was boring and spent too much time cleaning. Or something.
Unless that's another friend that she's also fallen out with and tries to elicit sympathy from colleagues about, in which case there's a bit of a theme developing.

amistupid

ScarletMarble wrote: »

I know I wrote the OP soon after the event. I was tired, upset, angry.

Perhaps you should have gone to bed and slept on it.

Gavin83

ScarletMarble wrote: »

If anyone disagrees with this, then I will ignore each and one of you. You are as bad as her.

Then don't post.

Frankly from what you've written you seem in the wrong here and as you haven't really stated what she did I can't have a different opinion. Discussing colleagues with other colleagues and customers is frankly unacceptable and childish and I don't blame her for being upset about it.

The fact that everyone on here has the same opinion and you still can't see you've done anything wrong just makes you come across as extremely arrogant. Honestly, grow up and stop being so pathetic.

j.e.j.

ScarletMarble wrote: »

If anyone disagrees with this, then I will ignore each and one of you. You are as bad as her.

I can only think that the OP was written when you were a bit the worse for wear.. Why should anyone here get involved in your facebook squabbles with an ex-friend??

fairy_lights

Is this the same colleague who you were tying to avoid at another retirement do a few months ago? I seem to remember a thread almost exactly the same as this. Maybe you should stop going to work events because it always seems to end badly.

-taff

You've been talking about this woman with customers and colleagues, and you're still msging people on FB about it, even though you don't work with her any more and very likely are spreading rumours about her?

You're lucky she only talked to you and didn't report you to your employer.


Feel free to ignore or block....

FBaby

You seem to think that because she has hurt your feelings, this gives you the right to talk about it to your colleagues. That might be so, but you have to accept that there are two sides to each story and therefore, you can't expect the other side to not feel offended that you would expect your colleagues to defend your side and not take into consideration hers.

You've made a choice to confine in your colleagues, that's your choice, but don't expect that ex friend to take it without some sort of retaliation, at least challenging you for not having bothered to try to explain to her why you didn't want anything to do with her.

As it's been pointed out, do be careful with your behaviour because it doesn't take much to go from being seen as the victim and given support on that basis to being seen as the trouble steerer and being excluded.

tomtontom

Same person?

fionajbanana

Very similar!