Former friend accosted me inappropriately

torbrex

You have been talking about this woman for weeks on one of the most popular forums on the internet, did you honestly expect that no-one would recognise that it was you and tell her about it?

I'm surprised that she didn't give you a good slap whether what you have said is true or not, nice people just don't act like you have done.

Maz

I understand. I understand that you've kept a petty and childish disagreement going. Are you desperate for attention or something?

You've texted and FB'd 2 or 3 of your colleagues about this? That says it all!

Pollycat

ScarletMarble wrote: »

I wasn't acting b!tchy when my colleagues asked why I wasn't talking to her. I just she turned into an unpleasant person. Then gave examples of this. This is not a sign of b1tchyness.

I know I wrote the OP soon after the event. I was tired, upset, angry.

My colleagues understand me. I texted and FB messaged 2 or 3. They are much better than you lot at understanding me. They will support

If anyone disagrees with this, then I will ignore each and one of you. You are as bad as her.

If you only want people to agree with you, asking for advice/support on a public forum is probably not the best way forward for you.

When you post on a public forum people give their opinions on what you've written.
Of course people are not going to agree 100% with the OP (well, hardly ever).
In this case, it seems that the majority all have the same opinion.

balletshoes

i hope you haven't just made things a lot worse by texting and FB messaging some of your colleagues - you know thats all in print now, right? For anyone to see? Including colleagues of yours who may not agree with your opinion on the matter, and may feel that they should tell the person who is having their character dissected by you?

good luck, i think you're going to need it.

LilElvis

balletshoes wrote: »

i hope you haven't just made things a lot worse by texting and FB messaging some of your colleagues - you know thats all in print now, right? For anyone to see? Including colleagues of yours who may not agree with your opinion on the matter, and may feel that they should tell the person who is having their character dissected by you?

good luck, i think you're going to need it.

...... possibly your comments are also going to be seen by, or reported to, your work managers. This could potentially jeopardise your career!

It might be wise to delete any posts you have made on FB, here and anywhere else you have discussed this person.

elsien

This sorry saga has been going on for months. The comments you get now will be the same as those posted on earlier threads in the same vein. Which you clearly don't want to hear, otherwise we wouldn't keep getting Groundhog Day.
Seriously, step away from the keyboard, FB, stirring it with colleagues and let it go.

peachyprice

ScarletMarble wrote: »

She was a former colleague too.

I have said some examples of what she has done to me and has hurt me to a few colleagues. M

Moving swiftly on tonight. It was a retirement do for a colleague retiring this Friday.

So, she no longer works there, but she was invited to a retirement do for a colleague.

What does that tell you OP about what your colleagues think of her? If they believed what you had told them about her they wouldn't have invited her to the do would they.

I have a feeling you are just being humoured by your colleagues but they don't believe a word you are saying, let alone understand you and really just wish you would !!!!!!.

Georgiegirl256

ScarletMarble wrote: »

My colleagues understand me. I texted and FB messaged 2 or 3. They are much better than you lot at understanding me. They will support

If anyone disagrees with this, then I will ignore each and one of you. You are as bad as her.

Here's that dummy that you've just spat out!

Your colleagues are probably used to your childish ways and just reckon it's easier to go along with the flow rather than tell you what they really think!

If she's a former colleague but was still invited, she's obviously well respected.

DKLS

Seeing as it sounds like a playground at that workplace, perhaps you ought to arrange a meeting/fight behind the bike sheds with this former colleague. Hopefully you can bang some sense into each other.

Mrs_Imp

I would be very cautious about talking to colleagues about other colleagues. You may suddenly find that they don't want to associate with you, in case you start talking about them. It doesn't matter who did what or who is to blame, just keep it out of work conversations. If it is a serious issue then you should talk to your manager, not your colleagues. Have some integrity.