Girlfriend left me over Pokemon

j.e.j.

Are you related to Spinkz?

glentoran99

Look at this way, Were are you most likely to "get some" a pokemon tournament, or after a lovely day out at the wedding with the GF,


No brainer

Tropez

Here's how I see it:

She's been invited to the wedding of a friend from work. In some office cultures, this can be a much bigger deal than it should be because if a lot of co-workers are going, the gossip around the water-cooler, coffee pot etc. on the Monday morning is going to be entirely wedding related. "Did you see what such and such was wearing?", "Sally, I loved your shoes!", "Oh how about V's husband" and all that.

Now if she shows up with no date, and people know she's in a long-term relationship, she's got to have a reason for you not being there. You being at a Pokemon tournament... not a good reason, and thus all that gossip around the coffee pot on the Monday morning will be focused on her. Not a place many people want to be. She could lie, claim you're ill, something like that but it can be dicey ground - I mean some people, when you tell them your partner's ill, they turn into amateur bloody doctors on you - unless you go with having the squits, then generally no one asks questions, but there is a bizarre embarrassment factor.

And really, the thing is, a lot of us have interests that to our partners seem a bit childish but you do have to remember that they can never come before your partner. This wedding could be very important to her, for any reason, not just because she might not want to be the focal point of nattering numpties, and your dismissal that you want to go and play in a tournament instead might be seen by her as a dismissal of her and the relationship.

elliew92

I doubt she had been wanting out of the relationship it seems she is confused. Its her fault for telling you late about this wedding as it is next week and she should be more understanding you have other plans booked.

I get annoyed when my OH plays football games all the time but it is his enjoyment and i appreciate that. Hey guys dont like it when us girls shop but they stick by us.

Like someone else said compromise and attend later on either way this should resolve things. Good luck ☺

bagpussbear

You need to have a heart to heart with your girlfriend.

Whatever anyone might think of Pokeman, childish or not, it's an important thing to you.

Be honest with yourself, do you think you can be selfish with your hobby sometimes? Would you, or have you ever, put off a Pokemon related thing in order to accommodate your girlfriend? If you rarely do, then I understand her frustration.

It does sound like she's had enough. 6 years into a relationship, have you both spoken about the future, marriage, kids etc? She feels that Pokemon will always be more important to you than her, so if that isn't the case, you need to convince her of that.

I hope you can sort it out, good luck.

Errata

Sometimes it's the last straw that breaks the camel's back.

amistupid

AshKetchum wrote: »

Every year I go to a pokemon tournament and this year is no exception

Most women hate their man playing away from home.

fierystormcloud

Oooooooooookay.........

Kynthia

Are you sure she hadn't already told you about the wedding? Or could she be upset about something else which made her blow up about this, are there any other stresses or upsets in her life right now? Or could she be thinking about weddings and wondering if you're serious about her and ever going to propose as 6 years together is a long time? Try to have a calm discussion with her about the row to see if you can get to the bottom of things.

onomatopoeia99

Tropez wrote: »

Here's how I see it:

She's been invited to the wedding of a friend from work. In some office cultures, this can be a much bigger deal than it should be because if a lot of co-workers are going, the gossip around the water-cooler, coffee pot etc. on the Monday morning is going to be entirely wedding related. "Did you see what such and such was wearing?", "Sally, I loved your shoes!", "Oh how about V's husband" and all that.

Now if she shows up with no date, and people know she's in a long-term relationship, she's got to have a reason for you not being there. You being at a Pokemon tournament... not a good reason, and thus all that gossip around the coffee pot on the Monday morning will be focused on her. Not a place many people want to be.

This sort of thing makes me glad I am a computer nerd, working in a company full of computer nerds. We don't get any of the above at all. Perhaps a polite "Good weekend?" on a Monday morning, which leaves people free to elaborate if they wish, but no Spanish inquisition. Similarly if there's a wedding or other social function where partners can attend, it's no big deal if people come alone or as a couple. No-one asks where the missing partner is or why they couldn't come, as it's none of anyone else's business.

A simple, direct "it's none of your business" or "he chose not to come" to any co-worker who queries the absence of a partner would sort things out in such a situation.

Maybe my workplace is weird as we don't gossip about each other.