Are we being mean ?

Torry_Quine

missbiggles1 wrote: »

I think I'm older than you as well.:(

I always thought you were younger! I was married in the 80s so not recently

missbiggles1

Errata wrote: »

Keep it small and very intimate and it will stand out and be remembered.

The memory of our whole wedding party (all 15 of us, including the vicar) sitting on and around our 4 poster bed watching the Grand National (we'd moved the TV into the bedroom to make more space) lives with me to this day - which is more than I can say of the marriage.:o

missbiggles1

Torry_Quine wrote: »

I always thought you were younger! I was married in the 80s so not recently

You lovely woman!

My generation married at the end of the 60s/beginning of the 70s, although I didn't marry until the 80s.

Torry_Quine

missbiggles1 wrote: »

You lovely woman!

My generation married at the end of the 60s/beginning of the 70s, although I didn't marry until the 80s.

You come over as younger, :rotfl:

dirty_magic

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

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Ah but then a lot of people get parents to pay so they are not really bothered about that.

True, they do get a lot of help, but most of my friends have put a fair bit in themselves too. Even if I 'only' put 5k towards a 15k wedding I'd still feel like I could have put both mine and my parents money to better use.

My mom gave me some money as a present when we moved into our house though and she told me there's nothing left for a posh wedding! I don't think she has much to worry about! :rotfl:

coolcait

Torry_Quine wrote: »

It has always been the norm in the weddings I've been to as well as my own to have both a sit-down reception followed by the evening celebration with guests less close such as work colleagues just invited to the evening.

Same here! I wonder if it's a Scottish thing?


As for weddings and other occasions, I've never encountered any of the problems which come up time and time again on these boards.


If I want to attend one of these events, I accept the invitation, buy (or find at the back of the wardrobe!) an outfit I like, sort out a present, and rock up on the day.


If I don't want to attend/can't manage it financially or logistically, I send regrets, with thanks for the invitation and best wishes for the day and the future. No further comment or explanation needed or given.

Torry_Quine

coolcait wrote: »

Same here! I wonder if it's a Scottish thing?


As for weddings and other occasions, I've never encountered any of the problems which come up time and time again on these boards.


If I want to attend one of these events, I accept the invitation, buy (or find at the back of the wardrobe!) an outfit I like, sort out a present, and rock up on the day.


If I don't want to attend/can't manage it financially or logistically, I send regrets, with thanks for the invitation and best wishes for the day and the future. No further comment or explanation needed or given.

I wondered if it was more of a Scottish thing as weel.

Have to agree with you about not having the problems expressed by some here. If invited I either accept or not depending on circumstances with no expectation of being harassed to go.

POPPYOSCAR

Torry_Quine wrote: »

I wondered if it was more of a Scottish thing as weel.

Have to agree with you about not having the problems expressed by some here. If invited I either accept or not depending on circumstances with no expectation of being harassed to go.

Yes but you get emotional blackmail sometimes.


My cousin's daughter is getting married next week - on a Monday in a very expensive location, hence the day because it is so much cheaper.


We are invited for the evening. It is a two hour drive to get there.


I hate weddings anyway, but a two hour drive on a Monday(seems so odd for a wedding) to spend a couple of hours with some family but mostly people I do not know horrifies me. I would also have to sort out my daughter getting to and from work and her dance classes.


I have been torn on the one hand because he really wants us to go but decided against it. I do not feel good saying no though.

duchy

missbiggles1 wrote: »

The memory of our whole wedding party (all 15 of us, including the vicar) sitting on and around our 4 poster bed watching the Grand National (we'd moved the TV into the bedroom to make more space) lives with me to this day - which is more than I can say of the marriage.:o

We lost half the wedding party between the registry office and the reception (10 mins walk away) when they popped into the bookies to put a bet on the National.

I'm really quite shocked at the venom expressed by some - I'm starting to understand why overseas weddings are so popular. Who wants to invite relatives you never see, pay for their meal just for them to slag off all your choices on such a special day.

SingleSue

coolcait wrote: »

Same here! I wonder if it's a Scottish thing?


As for weddings and other occasions, I've never encountered any of the problems which come up time and time again on these boards.


If I want to attend one of these events, I accept the invitation, buy (or find at the back of the wardrobe!) an outfit I like, sort out a present, and rock up on the day.


If I don't want to attend/can't manage it financially or logistically, I send regrets, with thanks for the invitation and best wishes for the day and the future. No further comment or explanation needed or given.

Always been my experience too and apart from my dad who was born in Scotland, I hail from a London family!