Issue re friend. LONG RANT

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Don't get drawn into a conversation when you see her. BE RUDE. She is! Tell her you can't stop, you're on your way somewhere, and you're going. Walk away, even if she's in the middle of a sentence. This has gone long enough with this woman!

If she grabs you by the arm, or tell you you're being rude, just say "excuse me, but were you raise by wolves? I've been trying to be nice about it, but you've been extremely pushy and this is the only way I could think to get the message across. We're not friends, we won't be socialising outside of our usual circle. Now I'm sorry but I have to be somewhere, bye."

Honestly, grow some!

gilly41

Hi
Just read all your thread and I just wanted to add that its not mandatory to speak to anyone or answer the phone/text message to anyone in this life. I have a neighbour(not friend just neighbour) who used to knock quite regularly . I just didnt answer the door to her. Its your home. She often used to say she had seen me sat in the lounge(well she doesn't now cos she has given up lol) and I just said yes I saw you but I was relaxing in my PJs. End of. What can anyone say to that. Your home...your door . If you don't want to answer it or your phone you don't have to. Eventually hun she will give up speaking/contacting you. Just don't stop and chat...say you are on your way to Drs/Dentist/friend ....whatever. Don't stress anymore about her. It will become a worry and obsession that you can do without in this life x

pollyanna24

So... Can you afford the trip to New York?

barbiedoll

You're definitely over-thinking this. When she says "Shall we come round to yours at the weekend then?", simply say "No".

You don't need to explain, you don't need to justify yourself, just say no, shake your head and leave it at that. If she asks why not, just tell her that you don't have people round at weekends. Don't try to explain, you don't owe her anything.

You've got to toughen up!

Mojisola

barbiedoll wrote: »

You're definitely over-thinking this. When she says "Shall we come round to yours at the weekend then?", simply say "No".

You don't need to explain, you don't need to justify yourself, just say no, shake your head and leave it at that. If she asks why not, just tell her that you don't have people round at weekends. Don't try to explain, you don't owe her anything.

I wouldn't even say this because it opens up the option of her coming round during the week!

Mr_Toad

Basically what the others have said but I will add that you would find me equally irritating if we were texting.

I rarely use more than a couple of words, if I need to say more I phone.

Unless a text requires an answer I don't reply, every conversation needs an end so a further OK is pointless.

Some examples of my text conversations;

Pub? Yes
Pub? No
ruin (Are you in) yes or no

Mr_Toad

fierystormcloud wrote: »

Update on the annoying friend.

BUT... I have seen her in passing a couple of times in town this past 3 weeks, and she has chatted for about 10 minutes each time, and it was almost 100% about HER and her work issues... And once again, the quiz over me working part time, and can we afford it?! Why does she keep asking FGS?!

Probably because she would love to work part time but can't afford to. This is also why she keeps asking about income, she's trying to work out how you do it and if her and her OH are missing a trick.

Perhaps also linked to her wanting to come to the house, then she can see if there any indications as to how you can afford to work part time and she can't.

I've had similar questions, I retired at 55 and have a really good life.

Some people can't quite get their head round it, a common phrase is "Well I'm about the same age and can't afford it, in fact I doubt I'll ever be able to afford it".

They're all trying to work out how I did it and why they can't. I usually just tell them the truth. That I have a fantastic pension.

I refrain from pointing out that while they have spent the last 30 years paying £800+ a month for the string of Mercs, Porsches, BMWs etc. I was putting my money into savings and a pension.

KxMx

fierystormcloud wrote: »

Thanks so much ladies for your wonderful helpful comments. I think that just not contacting her at all is the way to go... I really don't want her as a friend, so I think not getting back to her is the best idea. (Hopefully she will get the message.)

I don't wanna fall out with her but do NOT want her in my house! And as I said, I am sick of her annoying noseyness and inappropriate questions!

If it was me I would have given up by now! But as someone said earlier, she is not me, and may not get the message (ie; not realise that I am 'not into her!')

Keep doing what you are doing. Be prepared to move towards rudeness and a potential falling out since she doesn't seem the type to take hints. If that's what it takes do it with no guilt! :cool:

She text you while abroad because she wanted to brag to anyone who would listen

Bennifred

Shall we come round to yours? No, we're busy.

Next weekend? No, we're still busy.

Next weekend?? We're busy for the forseeable future....

cavework

'I don't wanna fall out with her but do NOT want her in my house! And as I said, I am sick of her annoying noseyness and inappropriate questions! '

So be honest and tell her this ...she might have some home truths to give to you .. at least the problem would be sorted one way or another.