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calleyw wrote: »

A couple of afternoons is a way for me to re-start my life and a routine.

In know it has a stigma. I have a so called friend who I have known for years. And they know the history and why I am not well. Today when I said that I had got up and dressed but had spent the day led on the bed. They called me lazy bones!!! I called them out on it and they said they were joking. I said that if I had a birthmark on my face would it be ok to joke about that?

Then they said that they would not make jokes when I am moody. !!!!!! being depressed is not being moody!!

I just despair of some people.

Yours

Calley

Some people, just don't get it. When i encouter people like that i spend half my time wanting to try and explain it, and the other half thinking that no amount of explaining will help them understand. But if you think they may understand by all means try and educate them. Otherwise think long and hard whether you want such "friends" in your life.

Some people don't mean to offend, they just don't think before they speak and i'm sure if they were a good friend they'd understand their remark was hurtful and apologise. Or they maybe feel uncomfortable about MH issues so "joking" about it is a (poor admittedly) way to try and deal with it.

I know its horrible to deal with stigma nobody should be made to feel bad about an illness they suffer, people should be respectable. I remember my nan often told me "if you don't have anything nice to say, say nothing at all". I know sometimes people are scared of the unknown, but unless we stand up to them (as you did) then they will never change.

Opening up about my bipolar has helped me a lot, i feel i can talk about it now, and explain what it is and how it affects me. Which is good with work as they know what they have to work with, and i know what i can cope with.

calleyw

xXMessedUpXx wrote: »

Otherwise think long and hard whether you want such "friends" in your life.

If I cut everyone out my ex and this other friend then I would have one friend in my life my husband!!!!

And its lonely enough as it is.

Yours

Calley

calleyw

Well to be truthful my ex has cut me out. So makes no difference. As one less in my life.

But I do think between the meds and the self hypnosis something is working.

Due to my dad making a sarky comment about the car. I text my ex to contact my dad about it. As he can mess me around but not my dad. Any how. He has taken hours to respond. Which would normally drive me potty and I would keep checking my phone every 5 mins then after a while text him again getting more and more p!ssy..

But not now. I keep my phone on silent and check it very occasionally but nothing compared to what I was like. Shame I could not have sorted it out earlier. Might have saved the relationship who knows.

And I really don't trust myself to have another relationship. Even if I had no feelings for my ex. Just don't think I am cut out for a relationship again.

I know someone who is my age and she was so messed about and hurt in her younger days she has never bothered again. I have had contact with her over the last 15 yrs and never known her have a relationship. Think that might be me.

Yours

Calley

Pyxis

calleyw wrote: »

OMG!!!!

I have been called for an interview for that part time job I applied for:eek:
Thursday at 10am!!!!
Yours
Calley

Best of luck on Thursday!
I agree that saying something like having a Sabbatical to do your garden is a great reason for time out! But that then you were getting a bit bored, so a part-time job suits you very well!

disabled_NCIS_fan wrote: »

Got some good news. My platelet count is down! Ok its higher than what they would like but its normal levels! Sorry just had to share!

Wheeee! NCIS _fan! Onwards and upwards!

Flybaby wrote: »

Erm.............just wanted to say hello really. Found your lovely blanky fort a few weeks ago and it has taken me a few weeks to read all the way through it to current time.


Just wanted to announce myself sitting quietly in the corner of the fort really and to say thank you so, so much to all of you. Not sure if you know how inspirational, motivating and heart warming you lot are. You've made me laugh, cry, angry (for you, not at you), hopeful, relieved and just downright relieved to find others like me.


so I wanted to send my first big hug to all and say that I hope to join in a bit from now on if that's ok.

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Hello, Flybaby! Welcome to the thread! Do join in!


Sorry JM, my phone contract doesn't support internet use, and my phone is old, anyway! I want a smartphone but can't face trying to decide which tariff/provider to pick at the moment!
Well, we had a lovely day! Weather perfect for a jaunt!

Hahahahaha! In the past I have spent a fortune in IKEA, and still have loads of stuff that's 12, 15, 20years old! And still going strong! About 8 years ago, I got all IKEAd-out! Haven't been since!

But I'm not daft! My friend and I went the scenic route, which meant leaving the car three towns away and taking public transport to IKEA itself! That way, I could only buy what I could carry!
Got neck pillows, voile curtains and trivets. They no longer did the towelling bath slippers I wanted. So got two dish brushes and a retractable tape measure instead!

I didn't like the look of the cake.......not called Daim any more......too much chocolate on it for me, but I'd forgotten about the lovely almond tart/cake thing they do, a bit like Daim cake without the chocolate but with almonds, so got that. Not much left now! :rotfl:

It was a good day, 'cos on the way back, we had a very late pub lunch outside,, then I found some charity shops and got two evening dresses, full-length, for £20 for both! And one was from Coast! They're for the Am/Dram, so deffo didn't want to buy new stuff! Then even further on the way back, it was still a lovely day, so we stopped in a scenic spot and had a double scoop icecream-cone each!

Fast day tomorrow!

It was a very good day.

calleyw

Flybaby wrote: »

I am amazed at Calley having the amazing motivation to go walking when she can't sleep -

Thats not happened for a few days. My meds are messing with my sleep. So I am waking up early but only after a few hrs sleep I go back to sleep and then don't wake up until 10/11am.

Need to get back in to the routine of going out early.

Yours

Calley

Flybaby

Hi MU, Hi Pyxis - thanks for the welcomes.


Pyxis - the ikea trip sounds like a great fun day and such a good idea not to park there - I may use that one in the future.


Calley - for those nights when sleep eludes you - look for the bare naked ladies song "who needs sleep" - makes me laugh sometimes when I put it on as I am sure the person who wrote it must have been sleep deprived.


How do you motivate yourself to go walking at all? - on the days when you manage it?

Wellyboots6

*waddles past with a packet of chocolate hob nobs to throw in to the fort*

Not got the energy to post today, so have a good sleep everyone!

Pyxis

Nearly forgot!

Got these for you lot! Tuck in!

sofarbehind

calleyw wrote: »

Its something like this mine is more blue.

This is lovely. I've been enjoying all the dress talk. I think I might have to treat myself to a new one...


Pyxis, I have to admit I had to google 'trivet'.:o

calleyw

sofarbehind wrote: »

This is lovely. I've been enjoying all the dress talk. I think I might have to treat myself to a new one...

Go for it.

Hope everyone gets some sleep. I have just listened to the hypnosis track its for Releasing Anger and Resentment with Guided Forgiveness . I am not sure if I am doing it right and bloke has a rather nice voice. But it could just be my imagination but I do think that something is working :rotfl:

Its a start on my recovery. If I ever get to the end of the road of recovery I will be sad to leave here as everyone has been so good to me. as I do feel a bit of a fake as compared to some here my issues are rather trivial.

Well on wards and upwards.

Yours

Calley