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Pyxis

MessedUp, I'm very surprised that your landlord/lady doesn't tell you when someone new moves in! Especially as you're sharing facilities!

Perhaps you could pre-empt the position by introducing yourself to the new person and explaining that you're a bit 'shy' (or something) so you're not being unfriendly!

Metranil_Vavin

Oh dear, I do hope tea is ok. I noticed she had started a new job, maybe that is just taking up a lot of her time. Hope things with her ex are ok too.


Hope everyone has a good Wednesday x

Birdie85

I really hope Tea is OK too. It's the downside of t'interwebs; you only know each other in a forum and there's no way of knowing what's going on IRL when the virtual presence disappears.

MU - I'm shocked that you're not consulted/told when a new person moves in! That would freak me out too! I was watching RuPaul's Drag Race last night and one of the episodes is Hello Kitty themed, you'd like some of the outfits they came up with! Good luck with the health kick too, I just started in earnest yesterday after the switch finally flipped (after about a year of saying 'I need to lose weight' whilst eating biscuits!) so we can support each other!

Sorry you're not feeling great WaS, I like JM's suggestion of taking your mind back to the seaside

Funny that the link to the article about grown-up colouring in was posted; my Animal Kingdom colouring book arrived on Monday! It's beautiful, I kind of don't want to ruin it with my scribbling!

Georgiegirl256

The landlord should definitely let you know when someone new is moving in. Not only is it polite, but then you could prepare for it and it not be a shock when they just appear. :eek:

I feel awful, I forgot our Wedding Anniversary. D just come down stairs from his office to get a coffee and said "Happy Wedding Anniversary by the way", and I was like :eek::eek::eek: 'OMG, I forgot!' We're not big celebraters of anniversarys, birthdays etc and like a lot of men, he's never really bothered about a card, but still....

It's my birthday tomorrow, and I really am doing my best to forget it. As I am with a lot of "first" occassions without my Dad being here. Nothing has as much meaning anymore. I'd usually go put for a meal with my Mam and Dad, but even my Mam is away this year. So really, it is just another day to me. Anyhow, because I've been so focused on forgetting my birthday, I also forgot our wedding anniversary which is today!

I'm gutted! Not because it's ever a big deal to us anyhow, like I said, we're not ones for big occasions etc, but I at least meant to get him a card and wish him a Happy wedding anniversary! It's just all crept up on me. You could tell he was upset, and he had tears in his eyes. To him, he'll take that as another sign that I just don't care. For a long time we haven't been close, both mentally and physically, and to be honest, I'm not really missing the latter at all. I know I should try and make an effort, but I just really don't want to atm.

I'm not a big crier, but right now, I can't stop.

Pyxis

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

The landlord should definitely let you know when someone new is moving in. Not only is it polite, but then you could prepare for it and it not be a shock when they just appear. :eek:

I feel awful, I forgot our Wedding Anniversary. D just come down stairs from his office to get a coffee and said "Happy Wedding Anniversary by the way", and I was like :eek::eek::eek: 'OMG, I forgot!' We're not big celebraters of anniversarys, birthdays etc and like a lot of men, he's never really bothered about a card, but still....

It's my birthday tomorrow, and I really am doing my best to forget it. As I am with a lot of "first" occassions without my Dad being here. Nothing has as much meaning anymore. I'd usually go put for a meal with my Mam and Dad, but even my Mam is away this year. So really, it is just another day to me. Anyhow, because I've been so focused on forgetting my birthday, I also forgot our wedding anniversary which is today!

I'm gutted! Not because it's ever a big deal to us anyhow, like I said, we're not ones for big occasions etc, but I at least meant to get him a card and wish him a Happy wedding anniversary! It's just all crept up on me. You could tell he was upset, and he had tears in his eyes. To him, he'll take that as another sign that I just don't care. For a long time we haven't been close, both mentally and physically, and to be honest, I'm not really missing the latter at all. I know I should try and make an effort, but I just really don't want to atm.

I'm not a big crier, but right now, I can't stop.

Georgie, here's an idea.
I appreciate you won't want to do much tomorrow without your Dad, and especially as your mum's away.
So, why not book a restaurant for this evening, get a bit glammed up, nothing too much, just to show you've made a bit of an effort, and surprise him with a meal out tonight?
It needn't be far away, or too expensive etc. perhaps just the local Indian or Chinese? Whatever you like?
Maybe lay on a taxi so you can both have a drink?

Birdie85

Hugs Georgie, you can be forgiven for forgetting IMO. I think that Pyxis' idea is a good one, go out together for the evening to celebrate, have a couple of drinks and relax and remember your wedding day.

With the physical stuff, I read that the less you get 'it' the less you feel like it; once you make the effort to 'do it' you feel like doing it more! Not that DH and I are at it like rabbits, but we do know that if we didn't make the effort sometimes we'd end up living like celibate roommates, and that's not good!

Pyxis

Birdie85 wrote: »

Hugs Georgie, you can be forgiven for forgetting IMO. I think that Pyxis' idea is a good one, go out together for the evening to celebrate, have a couple of drinks and relax and remember your wedding day.

Another thought.....take a wedding photo with you and tell the restaurant it's your anniversary, and you may get a free drink!

Georgiegirl256

I quite like going out for meals, but D doesn't, and he doesn't drink either. Besides, anything I do now is going to look like an empty gesture. If I just booked something, he'd no doubt refuse to go because he's sitting upstairs feeling unloved and uncared for, and I can't blame him. You usually hear of men forgetting their wedding anniversarys, but not many women.

For most women their wedding day was one of the happiest days of their lives, but I'm not one of those women who since they were born was dreaming of their big day! It was a beautiful day, don't get me wrong, but I'm not a massive fan of weddings tbh! I'm not really a cold heartless b*tch, I just don't deal with lovey dovey stuff well!

If it was the other way round, I'd be gutted. I feel so sorry for him, and tbh, nothing I can say or do can make it up to him, the moment has passed. I know that he doesn't even want a present, a card, a meal etc, he just wanted some recognition that I love him, and I do, but like I say, anything I do now will look like I'm doing it because I feel guilty (I do) and because it's a special day so "oh, I'd better make an effort then!"

heartbreak_star

Oh Georgie. Lots of love. Agree with the suggestion of a meal tonight, and definitely tell them it's your anniversary.

You have been through rather a lot so it's not surprising it's slipped your mind! (And you're my nearly-birthday-twin, it's mine on Sunday )

EDIT: Cross-posted with you. Could you get a card and write a heartfelt letter inside it explaining why you forgot? And spend some time just snuggled up with him later?

HBS x

Pyxis

heartbreak_star wrote: »

EDIT: Cross-posted with you. Could you get a card and write a heartfelt letter inside it explaining why you forgot? And spend some time just snuggled up with him later?

HBS x

Why not print out these posts, editing where necessary, and slip it to him? Perhaps with a cuppa and a biscuit. It will explain a lot.
You could then add that you'd love to go to such-and such restaurant.