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mellymoo74

I agree with Pyxis.

Tell him that your sorry, that you have been so focused on not remembering the first birthday without your dad, sorting out his ashes and taking care of your mum everything else has slid.

Try and spend sometime with him, I told you myself and OH split for 3 months following my dad because I wasnt able to cope with stuff going on as normal (to me none of it was normal, it still isnt) had we managed to talk more we may not have had the break.

jobbingmusician

Gosh, sorry, in my last post I forgot to say hello to Metranil Vavin! So :hello: :hello: :hello:!

And georgie, I totally agree - the LL should have told you! If you were in the States you might have shot the new person as an intruder! :eek:

Errata

xXMessedUpXx wrote: »

Help....

Having a slight freakout.

Its half past midnight and i've just discovered i have a new housemate :eek: went to the toilet and saw somebody is now in the vacant room. don't know why but its freaking me out, after the first nasty piece of work who was here when i moved in and the current serial complainer downstairs i'm seriously hoping this isn't another nutjob (i say that lovingly, not meaning to cause offence)

I have visions of me being called anti social again just because i like to keep myself to myself ah the pitfalls of house sharing

also is it bad im hoping it not another guy as i'm slightly sick of the guy downstairs leaving hairs in the sink after shaving (yuk!) and leaving the toilet seat up

That must have been quite a surprise. Take this in the spirit my careful thoughts are offered to you. I've spent the last few decades fighting against the use of stigmatising words to describe people with mental health problems; 'nutjob' is just one of a whole legion of them. Join the anti-stigmatisation brigade and hold your head up high. If somone seems to you to be a bit odd and unpredictable - just say so.

Georgiegirl256

Thanks HBS and Melly x x

Happy Birthday in advance for Sunday HBS!

Sorry to hear that you and your husband split up for a while Melly. How is doing by the way after losing his Mum?

He came downstairs and was like "bad wife! Bad wife!" And gave me a hug....while I sobbed.....should have been the other way round! He told me I could make him some scones as punishment! I don't mind, I actually enjoy baking....even though I shouldn't really be encouraging him, this time I guess it's ok and he deserves it!

He sent a text to the house phone where this woman reads them out, saying "Repeat after me, I'm a bad wife!", so I went upstairs and we had a laugh about it. I don't know if he wanted me to stay (if you know what I mean ), but I just walked off back downstairs as it would have just felt fake and forced like I was only doing it because I messed up. As I walked off, I heard a loud sigh....jeez, what is wrong with me? I can't do anything right lately it seems.

JM, it was MU who's got a new house share person, but I totally agree with you, that kind of thing happens all the time in the states. :eek:

mellymoo74

Its hard, I didnt want to do anything, couldnt do anything, he felt pushed out, we argued a lot and I left (we sorted it out though and whilst we will always bicker generally we are pretty tight)

Hes up and down Georgie, not the easiest person in the world to live with, losing his temper a lot but we both know why which makes it easier to handle

heartbreak_star

Bake the scones and take them up to him

HBS x

jobbingmusician

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

He came downstairs and was like "bad wife! Bad wife!" And gave me a hug....while I sobbed.....should have been the other way round! He told me I could make him some scones as punishment! I don't mind, I actually enjoy baking....even though I shouldn't really be encouraging him, this time I guess it's ok and he deserves it!

This sounds wonderful, and full of affection xxxx

He sent a text to the house phone where this woman reads them out, saying "Repeat after me, I'm a bad wife!", so I went upstairs and we had a laugh about it. I don't know if he wanted me to stay (if you know what I mean ), but I just walked off back downstairs as it would have just felt fake and forced like I was only doing it because I messed up. As I walked off, I heard a loud sigh....jeez, what is wrong with me? I can't do anything right lately it seems.

I think HBS's suggestion is great - take him some scones. And how about saying 'I feel awkward becuase I felt you wanted me to [insert appropriate verb! Stay would do] but I got screwed up about this because I sort of felt it would have felt fake. Don't worry, when I'm feeling a bit more balanced it will happen naturally, I'm sure.'

JM, it was MU who's got a new house share person, but I totally agree with you, that kind of thing happens all the time in the states. :eek:

Gosh I am rubbish, aren't I! Apologies for my Finding Nemo quality memory

Talking of Finding Nemo, has anyone seen the plot summary? WARNING - for anyone who hasn't seen it, it's a very funny cartoon about a fish, and this is a very funny twist on the plot summary (cos otherwise it looks awful :eek:)

A serial killer kills a mans wife and children. Just 1 child remains. Crippled by the attack. In a horrid twist of fate, the crippled child is kidnapped. The father embarks on a daring journey, assisted by a mentally disabled woman in the search for his son.

(The 'mentally disabled woman' is a goldfish with a goldfish memory. Not unlike mine.)

Solarjunkie

Georgie, he has given you the opening, suggested scones, make them! Stay & eat them with him, wipe the jam off his chin, laugh again. Even save one for tomorrow & stick a candle in it!
IMHO it is better to do the action even if it feels fake & forced, at least you've done it! He is reaching out to you & giving you the thread to follow, so follow it, the sigh probably meant "I am listing what to do, how to make amends, and now she won't do it! What else can I say?" So go ahead & follow his suggestions, he probably does realise you are feeling fragile & is trying to offer you a way forward.

calleyw

Afternoon my Lovelies,

Well a needle and thread day today.

Been out spending money. Bought loads of half dead plants. Husband paid for lunch out. I am now home. Guess what I am wearing a dress LOL!!! I do like to wear dresses when I can.

Not done an hour of anything yet. But I think I will settle down with my x-stitch.

Got a gammy leg and not sure why. Only taken one tab so far so can't be that.

I text the person I hurt the other day last night and said told them I had gone back to the dr's and back on meds. And that I want to get better.

They told me to go and get better and we will see what happens. i feel a bit better knowing that they will at least talk to me if nothing else.

And going back to my what I said about my birthday. i have no idea. As on one day its my birthday and the next day my younger brothers and Dads. And guess who's fault that is mine I was about 3 weeks early :rotfl:

No idea what I want to do. So might just do what I did for my 40th was in bed by 9pm with a tub of ben and jerry's!!!!!

Yours


Calley

Waves_and_Smiles

Hello, Metranil! I did message Tea, but haven't heard anything back yet. As you say. hopefully she is very busy.

Aw, Georgie, I agree take some scones upstairs and let yourself off. Big hugs. WaSp and I don't really celebrate any anniversary as we have never married. There is the first day we got together or the first day we moved in together and that's it. I used to celebrate the former for the first few years but then I kept forgetting and WaSp never remembered in the first place. Now we don't bother. Maybe once a year WaSp may ask how many years we have been together because he is discussing it with his mum and I will remind him. That's about it. It's 26 years now, eeeeeeeeep!

Now for something funny. I have a team of kung fu fighters in my head...

For the new people I am very visual and that combined with MPD and psychosis means that characters often come alive in my mind. I seemingly have no control over them (certainly in the case of MPD), it isn't like imagining a character talking to you, they just suddenly pop into my head and say and do anything! Also my switch between dreaming and reality is broken so sometimes dreams happen while I am awake.

I was having my usual horrible intrusive thoughts, I couldn't get them out of my head. Suddenly, I heard really loud music playing, does anyone remember the 70's song Kung-Fu Fighting? That was booming out. Then I saw a group of tiny men in Kung-Fu costumes rush out and stand on my skull. They began chopping and kicking at the bad thoughts until I couldn't think of them anymore, then bowed, and left. Now everytime I have intrusive thoughts the music plays and my little friends rush out and fight them off. Then I thank them and they bow to me and run off. It is actually working to stop the bad thoughts!

I have no idea where they came from, I don't ever think about Kung-Fu or the song. But they seem to have joined everyone else in here now and are a force for good and can get rid of horrid thoughts in 5 minutes flat! I may offer to rent them out to people...any takers?