Can't find a partner in/around same/similar area

VestanPance

If you live in or near one of the biggest cities in the UK then maybe the search radius isn't the issue. Any large city should have a diverse population.

Maybe you need to consider a different way to meet new people who share the same interests and outlook as you.

enjoyyourshoes

Stop looking !
Love will find its way.
Start LIVING

mattyprice4004

catoutthebag wrote: »

Yes because it's as easy as thst and I have that much spare time (!)

Well when you react like that to a reasonable suggestion, it's no wonder you're single.

Also, how are we meant to know there's loads of cities and other counties within 50 miles of you? If you lived in Inverness there wouldn't be!

In short, tell us where you are and any other info that may help us help you, and don't jump on other posters when they try to help.

Ozzuk

I get what you are feeling, I had a similar problem, meeting lots of nice girls but not 'the one'. I don't know if there is any answer for that, I was getting to the point that dating felt like ground hog day, see someone for a few weeks/months, same type of dates, same conversations, ultimately I'd finish it and repeat.

I'm seeing someone now (met online) that wasn't my 'usual' type, in fact pretty far removed and we're actually getting on great. Our worlds are very different (I'm a corporate guy driving gas guzzling cars, she is a eco-VW camper type girl), it shouldn't work but its awesome so far and I think actually has real potential.

Maybe take pressure of yourself - I took a break from dating for 3-4 months, and approached it in a much more relaxed manner and built up my own life instead. I was at my happiest being single when I actually met someone.

catoutthebag

VestanPance wrote: »

If you live in or near one of the biggest cities in the UK then maybe the search radius isn't the issue. Any large city should have a diverse population.

Maybe you need to consider a different way to meet new people who share the same interests and outlook as you.

Fair point. I think my standards or expectations are high. But I think you can't settle for anyone. At least I don't settle for anyone.

I've joined hobby groups etc recently which is good I guess.

catoutthebag

enjoyyourshoes wrote: »

Stop looking !
Love will find its way.
Start LIVING

Fair point

Ozzuk

Do you have a local Meet Up group? I was told mine wasn't for dating but everyone was at it!

catoutthebag

Ozzuk wrote: »

I get what you are feeling, I had a similar problem, meeting lots of nice girls but not 'the one'. I don't know if there is any answer for that, I was getting to the point that dating felt like ground hog day, see someone for a few weeks/months, same type of dates, same conversations, ultimately I'd finish it and repeat.

I'm seeing someone now (met online) that wasn't my 'usual' type, in fact pretty far removed and we're actually getting on great. Our worlds are very different (I'm a corporate guy driving gas guzzling cars, she is a eco-VW camper type girl), it shouldn't work but its awesome so far and I think actually has real potential.

Maybe take pressure of yourself - I took a break from dating for 3-4 months, and approached it in a much more relaxed manner and built up my own life instead. I was at my happiest being single when I actually met someone.

Thank you. Glad things are looking good.

I think half the problem is the pressure I put on myself.

I have 2 subscriptions running out around July, so I may take the rest of the summer off to enjoy and come back fresh in September

I have bought my own first place. I'm going on a solo city break in a few weeks. I have friends nearby and decent job and hobbies. Maybe focus on that more.

neneromanova

do you work? if so is there no one nice at work? or why not join a lub around your area and get to know like minded people? TBH, anytime i've found someone it's been when ive not been looking, when I went looking for someone, thats when I'd find the idiots :rotfl:

enjoyyourshoes

Ozzuk wrote: »

Do you have a local Meet Up group? I was told mine wasn't for dating but everyone was at it!

I think this is a really important point.


Dating must have psychological effect on you ant the other. if you just forget about the dating tag and enjoy what you like enjoying a do a bit of 'try everything once except incest and folk dancing' , then you will feel better about yourself, enjoy life, be yourself not someone wh is dating) and then it might click or not !! ??