Just need a little rant - gonna hit the fan this week with in laws from hell

POPPYOSCAR

OP I think you have been remarkably considerate in the circumstances you describe, I would have kicked them into touch long ago.


As much as I love our son I fully accept that his partner now calls all the shots in his life and would never interfere with that.


Hope he gets better soon.

FBaby

As much as I love our son I fully accept that his partner now calls all the shots in his life and would never interfere with that.

Just picking up on this? Really? Even if your son was dying? I don't know how I will feel and I hope that my personality means I would never rise to such level of conflict and therefore things would never be that bad, but being excluded from being involved in my son's car if I thought these were my last chance to spend time with him, I really don't know how I would react if I thought I was prevented from doing so by my DIL. In the end, I only have one son and I will always be there for him.

DKLS

Errata wrote: »

Health IT systems go off like the noonday gun when someone not authorised to look at medical records does so, and their feet won't touch the ground as with most, if not all, primary/seconday/tertiary, it's instant suspension until a full investigation is completed - then it's the sack.

I would say a noonday gun is under playing it a tad there errata, more like a series of 21 gun salutes, being able to access patient records is not a perk of the job.

Any unauthorised access is taken very seriously, and is a great way of killing your career.

NHS It manager - Six months Suspended sentence and zero chance of working in Healthcare IT again

Errata

Indeed, unauthorised access is usually a hanging job. Accessing a handful of different patient's records would result in hanging, drawing and quartering.

pollypenny

In 1979 OH was in and out if hospital for investigations about a shadow on his lung for almost five months.

It turned out to be bronchiestasis (sp?) thankfully.

However, when I phoned his mother to say he wasn't having a pulmonary lobe removed all she could do,was tell me that his sister had cystitis!

She could not care less about him. But this MIL is way out of order, trying to inflate her own importance as a 'clinician '.

tea_lover

Errata wrote: »

Indeed, unauthorised access is usually a hanging job. Accessing a handful of different patient's records would result in hanging, drawing and quartering.

Which is why it seems odd that in this case the MIL has apparently accessed multiple records she shouldn't have done, but still has her job.

I work with medical records (not in the NHS) and that wouldn't happen here. One unathorised access and we'd be out - any more than that would be a criminal matter.

It doesn't ring true at all.

Errata

The MIL may be suspended pending the outcome of an investigation. It seems quite bizarre that the MIL works as a lab technician planning patient care in a service which is only provided in one NHS centre in the whole of the UK and accessed the records though another 'system'.
Can't make head nor tail of it to be honest.

[Deleted User]

DKLS wrote: »

I would say a noonday gun is under playing it a tad there errata, more like a series of 21 gun salutes, being able to access patient records is not a perk of the job.

Any unauthorised access is taken very seriously, and is a great way of killing your career.

NHS It manager - Six months Suspended sentence and zero chance of working in Healthcare IT again

Blimey, they need to do their data governance training with more care. As a software supplier to the NHS, we have to train to the same (or higher) standard as NHS data-workers. What's scary is that i've come across firms that don't train their staff at all.

In Australia, there is a system in place where offending parties (not companies) can be fined $250k AUD for clincal data breaches

missbiggles1

rinabean wrote: »

It is incredibly unlikely that the police & social services are concerned for no reason. And the MIL showed what she was when she not only accessed her son's records illegally (and, in the process, tried to claim that his child, her own grandchild, her own flesh and blood was not actually of their family, all because of her hatred of her DIL) but also accessed the records of the OP and her father. You cannot in any way spin that as the poor shoved-out mother worrying about her son. No way whatsoever. Her motivation is hatred of her DIL for protecting her vulnerable son from her.

OP you really mustn't listen to people on these boards who can't stand a MIL not getting her way. She's being investigated at work and been spoken to by the police and social services, obviously there is a real problem here. I'm sorry you're having to deal with this.

On an earlier thread, the OP said that the MIL had reported her to Social Services. Not sure whether the two are connected, of course.

rinabean

missbiggles1 wrote: »

On an earlier thread, the OP said that the MIL had reported her to Social Services. Not sure whether the two are connected, of course.

You can report anyone to anywhere, but that doesn't mean they'll believe it, because it doesn't mean they're actually doing anything wrong. Of course it could be that they're fobbing both women off and telling them the same thing, but I doubt it, especially with the crimes at work