Just need a little rant - gonna hit the fan this week with in laws from hell

lavandergirl_2

Is your mother in law is a registered professional, you can complain to the council she is registered with.

There would be log in records if she tried to access his files.

http://news.stv.tv/east-central/303422-nurse-struck-off-for-accessing-medical-records-of-builder-she-owed-more-than-20000/

duchy

It is quite telling all was right with MIL when everyone lived in the same town and she was a part of your lives- then once you moved away, children came along etc and she lost her regular involvement in your lives things changed.

She's presumably in her fifties , She probably had this idea that as she grew older and needed her family around they would be there - but the realization that her son's health, you moving away etc all point to you having a life that doesn't include her. I'm wondering if your OH is an only child ?

For me the changing of records would be where I drew the line -Ultimately you can find issue with everything she writes or you can see the emails as something that only affects you if you allow it - You've made your position clear -if she wants to make barbed comments - so what !

paddy's_mum

For me, it's the changing of the Next of Kin details that I could never forgive!

Utterly, completely immoral and one hell of a statement about the MiL's integrity.

meritaten

my son has Severe Brittle Asthma and often has life threatening attacks. when he started living with his now wife - I immediately stepped back as NOK - that is HER place not mine. I just don't understand this kind of 'possessiveness'. Yes, he is my son, I would do anything for him - but, his wife and the mother of his kids is his NOK.
I certainly wouldn't go on his ward and tell the staff what to do, or his wife and I certainly wouldn't access his medical records. (I do admit to reading the notes on the end of the bed though). but he would already have done so - and sometimes his partner has asked me to if there is something she is concerned about.