How far along were you when you told people you were pregnant?

lulu_92

I get the whole only telling people you would also be comfortable telling them bad news, I'm not trying to convince OH to let me tell everyone, just the few people who fit that above criteria. How do I get him to change his mind? He's said we can't tell our parents for another two weeks - I'm going crazy!

fizz

Many congrats!

Told both sets of parents and my brother at 7 weeks (which was as soon as we knew), and they were sworn to secrecy until the first scan.

The ex Hub wanted to wait until the 12 week scan to announce it, but I was so happy that I just couldn't!

Perhaps your Hub just wants it to be your special secret for a little bit longer before everyone jumps on the 'baby train'. :-)

fizz.x

lulu_92

fizz wrote: »

Many congrats!

Told both sets of parents and my brother at 7 weeks (which was as soon as we knew), and they were sworn to secrecy until the first scan.

The ex Hub wanted to wait until the 12 week scan to announce it, but I was so happy that I just couldn't!

Perhaps your Hub just wants it to be your special secret for a little bit longer before everyone jumps on the 'baby train'. :-)

fizz.x

I get that too but I'm not saying I want to tell the world tomorrow. I just don't want to wait another 11 weeks. I'm told I can't tell anyone until he says so and it's making me really sad and I feel that it's his moment, not ours.

Lunar_Eclipse

Congratulations.

With our first, we told no-one until after the 12 week scan, and then only friends & family. I told work after the second scan, at 21 weeks (I know that's late, I just didn't want them knowing and didn't look pregnant: they were all shocked.)

With DD2, I told family and a couple of very close friends before the first scan because I was so ill with morning sickness (again) and needed help with DD1 who wasn't even a year old. I told work at about 16 weeks that time as I was showing earlier.

Kynthia

lulu_92 wrote: »

I get that too but I'm not saying I want to tell the world tomorrow. I just don't want to wait another 11 weeks. I'm told I can't tell anyone until he says so and it's making me really sad and I feel that it's his moment, not ours.

Have you sat down quietly somewhere and told your OH what you've said here? Say how it's exciting and happy news and that you should together agree when to tell certain people rather than one of you dictate to the other. Say how he's upset you and ruining a special time. Then if you can't get him to change his mind you could tell those closest to you as he can't stop you, although I can't imagine that would go down well and it's better to both compromise and come to an agreement.

mum2one

lulu_92 wrote: »

That is quite a few people, to be honest, some of those are people OH doesn't want to tell for a while.

I do wish I could share this happiness with others, though.

I don't want anyone to think that I'm being selfish because I want to tell and OH doesn't.

That be the last thing on my mind that if a friend told me they were pregnant, but had known from day 1 and not told me, I'd be over the moon for them.

For me, I had miscarried the 1st time I didnt know I was pregnant, although in mind I was thinking of taking a pregnancy test, as I had been told I was glowing, at the time I had to eat lettuce... I miscarried almost immediately, the 2nd and 3rd time, early pregnancy tests and then time of the month, the 4th i was apparently 12 weeks gone, but they think that I had lost the baby about 4 weeks, then I met his lordship, who told me that he was seedless.... 6 weeks into the relationship, the little stick went blue. Even thou in mind I didnt expect it to last, and I was as sick as a dog...

I told one friend straight away, and another close friend within a week, they were absolute bricks to/for me throughout.

Everyone has different reasons / timing - its all dependant on the person, but if I wanted to tell a friend I would do, even I asked them to swear to keeping stum x

mum2one

lulu_92 wrote: »

I get that too but I'm not saying I want to tell the world tomorrow. I just don't want to wait another 11 weeks. I'm told I can't tell anyone until he says so and it's making me really sad and I feel that it's his moment, not ours.

Please dont think I am prying, I'm guessing there is something that OH knows/bothering him/family/1001 things - but I would chat to him about it, and explain things.

Its both your moments, please remember that xx

Mazzarati2000

With our first, we told parents at about 5.5 weeks. We thought we were probably at least 8, and I was violently sick multiple times a day. This time, the nausea has been relatively mild, and we had intended to wait until the EPS at least, but I was uncontrollably sick outside the front door yesterday morning, and as we're next door to the in-laws, that gave the game away somewhat. This pg has been soo different so far, so I'm sceptical, but hopefully the early scan on Thurs will confirm what we are dealing with.

lulu_92

Thanks everyone I spoke to him last night but nothing has come of it.

I just want us both to be happy when we tell people and not just because the other one decided when we as a couple would announce it.

My friends would not be annoyed at all that I didn't tell them right away as they understand OH's reasons for being quiet about these kinds of things.

His only main reason is that he doesn't want people at work asking him about it everyday. My argument is that this will happen once the baby is born so a couple of extra months shouldn't hurt, plus he doesn't have to tell anyone anything he doesn't want to.

At the moment my desire to tell people has been overtaken by a fear of the worst happening. I'm currently trying to get OH to let me book an early scan for the end of the month, but I doubt he'll go along with it.

LilElvis

lulu_92 wrote: »

At the moment my desire to tell people has been overtaken by a fear of the worst happening. I'm currently trying to get OH to let me book an early scan for the end of the month, but I doubt he'll go along with it.

After numerous rounds of IVF I'm an ultrasound veteran! With my daughter I had a scan at my clinic at 7+2 and it was just like a little light flickering. I had a private scan at 9+2 and you could actually see a baby - and the scan was displayed on a huge flat screen rather than just peering at the sonographers small monitor over your shoulder. The private scans are far better than the NHS ones - the equipment is superior, it isn't rushed and the surroundings are far nicer. I would definitely recommend it is as a far nicer way of seeing your baby for the first time and about £100 well spent, with the addition of giving you some peace of mind. We had ours done at Babybond - they have locations throughout the country.