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How far along were you when you told people you were pregnant?
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I think 12 weeks will be the time really. I just wish I could tell my best friend. She told me the moment she found out and said I needed to do the same! I know she could keep quiet but OH won't have any of it.
I just kind of feel like I can't tell anyone and that OH will and I won't get the excitement of telling our friends together because he would have beaten me to it.
I really understand his concerns but I'm on my own a lot of the time so I think another 7 weeks of not being able to tell anyone is gonna drive me mad! I don't class telling work as being exciting as it's more of a protocol.Our Rainbow Twins born 17th April 2016
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First pregnancy - didn't get to tell anyone as sadly miscarried
Second - after 20 week scan
Third - didn't tell anyone (except work and husband of course) until after baby was born, due to too much interference whilst pregnant with second) - had a few raised eyebrows and "how on earth did you keep that from us?" sort of comments. Some family members sulked for a bit but got over it soon enough
Fourth - wasn't going to tell anyone again but small daughter blabbed to all :rotfl: - I think that we told her at about 20 weeks.
Fifth - didn't tell husband until about 9 weeks as there was a risk that I would miscarry - he had a lot going on and I didn't think it fair to burden him with the uncertainty. Told children at about 20 weeks, rest of family at about 26 weeks (by this time I was quite happy to tell people to leave me be and not interfere).0 -
I told everyone at 7 weeks but I did worry a bit that something would go wrong after that. I would have found it much harder if I had had a subsequent miscarriage and so many people had known. Happily, all was well.:heartsmil When you find people who not only tolerate your quirks but celebrate them with glad cries of "Me too!" be sure to cherish them. Because these weirdos are your true family.0
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I found out at only 3.5 weeks so very early on. I told my now ex-h as soon as the test showed.
I then went to work and burst into tears as I got to my desk as my wedding was only four months away so ended up telling my team leader. My mum worked only a few desks away and my team leader brought her to me so told her as well, but I has wanted to tell her before work - bloody hormones!
My best friend was told when I was 5 weeks. We are so close that it felt natural to tell her.
Everyone else, including the ex-inlaws were not told until after my second scan at 13 weeks.0 -
Un-telling people was horrible, wouldn't wish that on anyone.
Congrats OPjust enjoy it being the two of you with your lovely secret for now. When you're a week overdue and getting constant "had the baby yet" texts you'll wonder why you ever wanted to tell anyone!
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Un-telling people was horrible, wouldn't wish that on anyone.
Congrats OPjust enjoy it being the two of you with your lovely secret for now. When you're a week overdue and getting constant "had the baby yet" texts you'll wonder why you ever wanted to tell anyone!
I know, tea, that's one thing we're very concerned about, but OH knows full well that can happen any time in 40 weeks, or even afterwards.
We're not telling people the due date for that reason! I've also told OH that I do not want his mum telling me of any psychic readings she has that mention the baby as it will annoy me too much.
I want to tell my mum so much but my step-dad is out of the country at the moment and doesn't get back for 2 or 3 weeks, and I want to tell them togetherOur Rainbow Twins born 17th April 2016
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First time round I waited til about 12 weeks and somehow people hadnt picked up on me living on ginger nuts and peppermints in that time.
Second time we hadn't planned on saying anything too early but at 5 weeks they were announcing re-structuring in our department and I couldn't face the hassles; when my boss called me in the office to tell me his proposed moves for me, I told him I was pregnant and watched his face fall as he knew he had to re-plan it all0 -
A pregnancy should include time for rejoicing - that you are very concerned about a miscarriage is possibly not as bad as you fear?
This website reckons that "The risk of miscarriage is probably lower than you think. For women younger than 35, it’s 10 to 12 percent; for 35- to 39-year-olds, it’s 18 percent." Now that's just one website & not cherrypicked for optimism, just pulled at random. Unless you've a medical condition or know of any genetic grounds for anxiety, please try to relax & enjoy this time.
Although being tired is Absolutely Reasonable as not only is your body industriously growing, your brain has to rewrite the mental maps to accommodate a third party - a siesta is a good idea! There will come a time when you feel so well & fit & healthy you can actually forget you're pregnant - look forward to that and plan to pack in the things-to-do-before-you're-a-Mummy then. Like a holiday in France (or any Catholic country - smashing maternity clobber that isn't obviously GB sourced & fun baby stuff but do keep a grip on the budget!) or a road trip across America - be the mum with the holiday snaps of you bulging gloriously at the wheel of a (briefly hired) Ferrari. Those weeks of feeling fabulous & full of beans should be seized & made the most of, not these early & slightly anxious ones.
Plan for the fun to come!0 -
Such good, honest advice! I suppose I'm just worried as I've never been pregnant before and I keep thinking I'm doing something wrong that will cause problems - I've even Googled what kind of teas am I allowed to drink! (I have Peppermint and Nettle and Camomile and I'm still not sure!) I also keep thinking that the statistics won't be on our side. I asked OH for an early scan to calm my fears but he said we will be fine.Our Rainbow Twins born 17th April 2016
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First son - The day we found out, so exactly 4 weeks....I was already showing at 12 weeks, so others sussed it out even if we hadn't told them, including work. There would have been absolutely no way of hiding it until 16 or 20 weeks, there is a photo of me taken at 20 weeks pregnant and I already had a big bump visible for all to see (people thought I was within weeks of giving birth...I had a very long baby and by the end, everyone was convinced the scans were wrong and I was having triplets as I was so massive, all was baby as well, only put on 10lbs!)
Subsequent pregnancy - We didn't get the chance to tell anyone as we found out on holiday and miscarried 2 days later.
Second son - Think that was about 5 weeks we told our parents, we were told ourselves by the fertility clinic as it had come up in their tests! I was forced to tell work at around 7 weeks as I had complications and had to go on sick leave.
Third son - I actually can't remember, we were absolutely shell shocked at being pregnant, I was in complete denial but it was probably before 10 weeks when we told our parents as I always 'showed' earlier than most.We made it! All three boys have graduated, it's been hard work but it shows there is a possibility of a chance of normal (ish) life after a diagnosis (or two) of ASD. It's not been the easiest route but I am so glad I ignored everything and everyone and did my own therapies with them.
Eldests' EDS diagnosis 4.5.10, mine 13.1.11 eekk - now having fun and games as a wheelchair user.0
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