OH hates my new accent...

Thrillho

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

I only found a partner's voice irritating when, in my mind, the relationship was past the point of recovery. I could tolerate one mispronouncing words when I actually still wanted to be with him, I could ignore his non existent table manners as he slurped and shovelled in food he'd mashed into a pulp. But the moment that affection died due to other things, was when I had the feeling that I was lumbered with a !!!!!! gutter dweller.

This is pretty much exactly what I wanted to post as well. I had a previous boyfriend who deep in my heart I knew wasn't "the one" and the longer I was with him the more irritating his behaviour and sounds became for me. He would sometimes mimic certain sounds he was working on (he was a sound engineer) and it would actually make my skin crawl.

Perhap the woman is just really cranky due to hormones and is taking it all out on the OP. If she is on maternity and had a high powered job maybe she misses bossing someone about.

I think the best advice for the OP is to ride it out and focus on the baby. Give it a few months for things to settle down as a new baby is a crazy time. If she still insists you are annoying her you need to look her straight in the eye and ask her how she feels about you.

Mojisola

downhillfast wrote: »

Already explained that she somehow manages to tolerate pretty much anything a child does - in fact she deals with children on a daily basis with absolutely no need for social services to intervene!

I know a lot of teachers and I think all of them would say that while they can handle a class of 30 with no problems, one or two of their own at home can drive them to distraction!

Errata

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

That's the thing that you're just not getting....you can not be 100% sure though. I bet doctors absolutely hate people who self diagnose.

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Indeed they do, especially with something quite rare and not run of the mill which is literally all in the mind.

Lily-Rose_3

missbiggles1 wrote: »

I believe that the OP is female. (Not that it matters.)

The OP is a man. If you read through his posts, you will see him frequently talking about his wife.

downhillfast wrote: »

Almost 3 years ago now we moved to the south coast (again everyone thought I was a brummie) However, over the last 6 months or so my OH has started interrupting me mid sentence to point out that I am sounding like a farmer - that is the accent she associates with where my family are from... but the thing is I rarely have contact with my family or anyone from that area so I'm not exactly sure why my accent is changing again... and why it's changing to an east midlands accent when most of my contact is with southerners (who incidentally still think I sound like a brummie!)

Now to most people this wouldn't be a massive problem but to my OH it's as if it's the end of the world - she says I sound 'thick', like a 'farmer' and is convinced I am doing it on purporse to annoy her - she is very easily annoyed as she has (undiagnosed) misophonia

It's actually getting me quite down as I'm trying to stay strong for her as our first baby is due any day now, but I'll be busy trying to say the right thing at the right time only to be shot down for 'how' I am saying it!

downhillfast wrote: »

I'm sure her hormones have got a little to do with it at the moment but I know her sensitivity to it won't change... as it hasn't with her misophonia (this has gotten progressively worse over the 9 years we've been together)

downhillfast wrote: »

I think I need to TOTALLY CLARIFY something...

My wife is NOT VIOLENT

Does not go out of her way to upset people (me included!) on a daily basis.

99% of people that she deals with regularly (friends and colleagues) wouldn't even know she had a problem.

She does know she has a problem and tries to deal with it as best she can until she is ready to do something officially... which will be very soon hopefully.

This thread has turned into a character assasination of my wife based on the SYMPTOMS of a condition that makes HER life awful is some respects.

I don't know why I even started this thread to be honest...

Georgiegirl256

Same sex marriage Lily.

Lily-Rose_3

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

Same sex marriage Lily.

Oh..............

Silly moo I am.

Genuinely didn't realise.

Thank you Georgie, and apologies to Miss Biggles.

AntoMac

I sound like a 'thick farmer' but I'm from Bristol so it's quite normal round here, or should I say 'down yer'. It was one of the first things that attracted my now wife (from the home counties) to me. She used to get me to say certain things again as she liked the way I said them.
I love different accents and the little sayings that people from different parts of the country have. A bit of gentle ribbing never goes amiss if you ask me - even my own 11 year old daughter sometimes take the mickey out of me as she talks 'posh' like my wife (as in doesn't pronounce her rrrrrrrrs ) but it's all good fun and I think we should all be proud of the way we speak.
I see nothing wrong in sounding like a thick farmer. In fact I'm proud of it but I don't think your OH would think much of me and my family

Buzzybee90

AntoMac wrote: »

I sound like a 'thick farmer' but I'm from Bristol so it's quite normal round here, or should I say 'down yer'. It was one of the first things that attracted my now wife (from the home counties) to me. She used to get me to say certain things again as she liked the way I said them.
I love different accents and the little sayings that people from different parts of the country have. A bit of gentle ribbing never goes amiss if you ask me - even my own 11 year old daughter sometimes take the mickey out of me as she talks 'posh' like my wife (as in doesn't pronounce her rrrrrrrrs ) but it's all good fun and I think we should all be proud of the way we speak.
I see nothing wrong in sounding like a thick farmer. In fact I'm proud of it but I don't think your OH would think much of me and my family

Farmers are neither think nor talk like they're from Bristol despite what the tv will have you believe. I think the Bristol accent is adorable and the brummie one has to be the thickest sounding there is.

AntoMac

Buzzybee90 wrote: »

Farmers are neither think nor talk like they're from Bristol despite what the tv will have you believe. I think the Bristol accent is adorable and the brummie one has to be the thickest sounding there is.

Yes it's the old cliche of country folk/farmers on the TV being given a West Country / Bristolian / thick sounding type accent irrespective of which part of the country they're from. I quite like the Brummie accent by the way and love it when my Brummie friend says 'Chocolate Flakey Cake'.

Apologies to OP for going slighly off topic.:)

Gloomendoom

downhillfast wrote: »

I think I actually started this thread to get opinions on transient accents more than anything but I don't even know now...

My sister suffers from a transient accent. If she had to change trains at Crewe, she would come home with a Cheshire accent. I'm the opposite and have kept the same neutral accent wherever I am. Quite amusing in Australia when people have had to ask where I am from. Apparently (to Australians), my wife sounds like the Queen, so no mistaking where she comes from.