New relationship advice needed.

Brighton_belle

pineapple wrote: »

Or maybe just very needy

Or maybe his last relationship failed because his ex accused him of not being attentive enough and showing he 'cared'.

paulsad

pineapple wrote: »

Or maybe just very needy

Very needy can turn into a wife beating jealous bone head - not worth the risk. Alarm bells are already ringing in OP's head.

pineapple

Brighton_belle wrote: »

Or maybe his last relationship failed because his ex accused him of not being attentive enough and showing he 'cared'.

Fair point - a possibility.
That said I just found out his wife died from alcoholism.......:eek:
This isn't looking good is it?

mildredalien

My now fiance was quite full on when we first met, while I was much more guarded due to a difficult end to my last relationship. He was constantly complimenting me and telling me how amazing I was and all I could think was 'he doesn't even really know me?!'

Ultimately we talked it through and I realised it was my own baggage that was presenting an issue, and that I wasn't used to someone being so forward with their feelings.

It could be that he is just excited to be in a relationship with you and is genuinely feeling good about it. However if it's making you feel uncomfortable, talk to him. Don't criticise him or put blame on him but perhaps tell him how unusual it is for you and how you are used to your own space, and you might need to take it a bit slower at first?

If he won't let up and its too much there's nothing wrong with just walking away, maybe you aren't compatible.

Errata

pineapple wrote: »

Fair point - a possibility.
That said I just found out his wife died from alcoholism.......:eek:
This isn't looking good is it?

Depends on whether he drove her to drink or she got there under her own steam. Were they together when she died and how long ago did she die.

pineapple

mildredalien wrote: »

It could be that he is just excited to be in a relationship with you and is genuinely feeling good about it. However if it's making you feel uncomfortable, talk to him. Don't criticise him or put blame on him but perhaps tell him how unusual it is for you and how you are used to your own space, and you might need to take it a bit slower at first?

If he won't let up and its too much there's nothing wrong with just walking away, maybe you aren't compatible.

Thank you.......

pineapple

Errata wrote: »

Depends on whether he drove her to drink or she got there under her own steam. Were they together when she died and how long ago did she die.

Don't know. He was a bit cagey with me and said t was liver problems. But everyone knows everyone and everything in the village and that's what is said.. I've witnessed myself how quickly everything gets round - its astounding.

pineapple

Text no 2 has landed...

tea_lover

My money's on 4 texts and a missed call by morning.

Mojisola

pineapple wrote: »

There was a missed call and a missed good morning text when I got up.

I left it a while then texted to see if he still needed help and what time.. The message came up 'no sent store'. I took that to mean the message had gone but had not been saved?? Anyhow it turns out it didn't send.

Cue aggrieved text an hour or so later 'At least let me know you are still alive' .

tea_lover wrote: »

My money's on 4 texts and a missed call by morning.

Or the police on the doorstep because he's reported her as 'missing' because she's not responding to his calls!:eek: