Nice People Thread No. 14, all Nice and Proper

Spirit_2

Hamish, what has happened to your old job? Is someone filling it, or are you expected to take it's workload with you?

Generali

HAMISH_MCTAVISH wrote: »

Can you provide details?

Yup.

I am on a Type 100 Spousal Visa. That contains two parts: an exit/entry visa and indefinite leave to remain. Generally after 4 years of living in Australia on a Type 100 visa you can apply for citizenship.

The indefinite leave to remain is, ermmm, indefinite; it doesn't expire. That's the bit that allows me to live and work in Australia legally.

The entry/exit visa allows me to exit and enter. That has a five year duration and needs to be renewed after five years if I enter or leave the country. If I allow it to expire and then travel abroad, as I did unknowingly, I have breached my visa terms and so have to do two things:

1. Renew my entry/exit part of my visa at the cost of quite a few hundred dollars.
2. Wait four years until I can apply for citizenship.

If I had not allowed it to expire I could have renewed it online for less hundreds of dollars. Getting citizenship is easier and cheaper after the waiting period.

I don't know what would have happened re the citizenship had I let the entry/exit visa expire and not traveled.

HAMISH_MCTAVISH

Spirit wrote: »

Hamish, what has happened to your old job? Is someone filling it, or are you expected to take it's workload with you?

Half and half.

Spirit_2

HAMISH_MCTAVISH wrote: »

Half and half.

Succession plan called into motion early. So I'm supervising their workload and remaining accountable for it whilst also taking on my new workload.

Life is a B1tch sometimes....

That makes it more difficult for you to "fail nicely" in the new role and simply ease back into what you were doing, not impossible though. Can you resist doing key parts of the new job, "not the right time to take this on", make a request for flexibe working ( a legal right to request here, not sure about Scotland). As you are not planning on staying is now the time to tell them when you are off so they can get someone else to fill this important role and claim your telling them in the best interests of the business. Again as you plan to go soonish, what is the harm in peeing them off a bit by outright refusal.

HAMISH_MCTAVISH

Spirit wrote: »

as you plan to go soonish, what is the harm in peeing them off a bit by outright refusal.

References.

That doesn't make it any less irritating however.

Or I may just be tired and grumpy.....:o

Spirit_2

hjd wrote: »

My opinion is that you need someone else to kick a** for you. As you know, I have had the same problems as you in the past up to and including the CABG.
I, too have been programmed to be "nice" and not to cause trouble. You need to be able to kick and scream and maybe surprise people who think "isn't she marvellous" and "isn't she coping well".
Can Mr. Spirit help at all, especially with tackling the "bureaucracy"? If you are anything like me, you don't like to ask for help but sometimes it might be best.

I have had a vile temper causing considerable harm ( said the unsayable, cussed, not spoken to people for years, gone head to head with aggressors/bullies) and it has taken years of learning and get it under control so that it is not my default response. Perhaps a tad too much self control now.

Mr S is not best placed to help at the moment. The anxiety of the last 18 months has caught up with him and his long standing claustraphobia has becoe a significant issue Oxygen required on flight home from hols last week. Did not fly to long haul destination on Monday, and lots of small incidents each day. So he is getting that sorted out and I have to give him the space to do so.

I do need to find someone to help me with the Dvla folk as I am not sure I have the energy to do this well. I will talk to Cardiologist friend and get his advice, then if I go elsewhere hewill belikely to help me with arranginging admission and communications with the local cardiology team. I want to be polite as if I go in under a blue light again that is where I would go.

Up at this silly hour as my head is running movies of possible storylines for how these little dramas may unfold.

Spirit_2

Hamish.

Then they do not want to pi55 you off either. Sounds like the wrong carrots. If you value being home with Mrs McT more than airmiles, more airmiles is not going to do it, perhaps focus their minds on making plans for knowledge transfer by some route that keeps you at home more. The learners come to you, Conference calls, video. There must be a way. I would have thought the culture would be conducive to remote management.

A friend moved companies expecting his long standing working from home arrangements would remain largely intact. He has managed teams on a global basis for some years, however the new org has a troublesome arm in the far east . He has spent a huge amount of time there in the last year, the solutions that fit globally, do not fit there! The culture being the problem, nothing technical or intellectual.

CKhalvashi

Spirit wrote: »

A friend moved companies expecting his long standing working from home arrangements would remain largely intact. He has managed teams on a global basis for some years, however the new org has a troublesome arm in the far east . He has spent a huge amount of time there in the last year, the solutions that fit globally, do not fit there! The culture being the problem, nothing technical or intellectual.

OH was expecting the same thing, and it looks like it's not going to be possible.

She's in the position though where she can bid for what she wants to do (although whether she'll get it is another story)

She's scheduled to work 6 of the next 8 weekends (plus NYE, Boxing Day, probably most bank holidays next year and etc), and is torn at the moment between going back to where she came from (a realistic option given the current climate) or sitting it out and hoping it gets better.

She hasn't had the option to work at home for the last 2 and a bit years, though, so it's not that that's the issue.

Would NP rather work 5/4/5/3 10 hour days, or have the chance to work where it's rubbish at the bottom (mainly due to a huge shortage of crew, despite huge recruitment this year), but where the opportunity exists later on to have a little variety in what you're doing, with the freedom (to an extent) to choose?

The future may well be orange after all

CKhalvashi

In private eye.





Oh, and NDR have written their 5th article (in German) on this in 3 weeks. The EBU still refuse to respond.

I still agree with everything Kath has said/done, and despite it not being executed in the most professional way possible, it was questions that were being attempted to be raised for long before everything kicked off.

There is now the issue of a missing (minimum) €2m (in advertising revenues). I'm refraining from answering this one publicly for obvious legal reasons, but you can probably guess where I think the money is.

SingleSue

Horrible turn of events for you Spirit, hate the way you have cleared all their hurdles, seemingly 'won' the battle only for them to snatch it all away at the last minute.

After his strokes, dad had his license revoked, he was not best pleased initially but for the rest of us, it was a relief as the few times he had attempted to drive post strokes (he didn't do the assessments, extra driving lessons etc as you did), was very very scary culminating in my brother insisting the car was stopped so he could get out...and he doesn't scare easily.

To my dad, driving was almost like part of his manhood and no begger was going to tell him he had to stop, in his head he was absolutely fine when it was quite clear he very much wasn't and as for notifying the DVLA about his strokes, well, he became quite irresponsible (you can probably tell my dismay about this, I take road safety very seriously). Luckily, he turned 70 pretty quickly afterwards and the forms had to be filled to renew and as I and mum filled it in (due to his level of confusion with forms now), we made full disclosure and they quite rightly revoked it.

It caused a few problems between mum and dad as mum refused to get in the car with him, refused to give him the car keys etc and you can imagine the fall out when the letter finally came through telling him he was not allowed to drive but he did finally come to terms with it....sort of.