Marriage Before Babies or Vice Versa?

Amara

Marriage first, then babies.

Kynthia

If you want to be married then you should do it first. Mainly for the legal protections and security it grants which I think is a good environment for children. However I also really wanted my OH to make that commitment to me legally and emotionally in front of people who love us before I had babies with him.

Buzzybee90

Marriage first

Transformers

lulu_92 wrote: »

We're trying for our first but have no intention of getting married yet. We're saving for a house too so we'd rather get that out of the way and get married in a few years.

Marriage is NOT expensive.

You don't need tens of thousands of pounds to get wed - so why not build the legal foundations of your family unit before having babies?

If you have enough money to try for a baby then you have more than enough money to get married.

GwylimT

I don't really see the point of marriage, we didn't want to get married but we had a quickie £40 certificate signing as it would make it 14 months shorter for my partner to adopt my son, we wouldn't have bothered otherwise.

gettingtheresometime

Somebody once told me they thought I was a traditionalist and when I asked what they meant I was told that it was because I got married first and then had a son lol!

To be honest I wouldn't decry anyone who chooses to have a baby without getting married but I wish people would be honest about why they do that ....to say they can't get married because they can't afford it yet can 'afford' a baby seems a little contradictory

onlyroz

If you're going to get married then I think you should do it before babies. It's not "just a piece of paper" but provides you and your future children with a lot of security, in particular if one of you dies.

Scottie_dog

Been with my partner for 8 years, ttc for almost 2 years now. We are not married or engaged at the moment. I have told him I don't want to get engaged, I just want to elope one day and get married. I hate the thought of a big wedding. My family is massive so a small family wedding just wouldn't work, I don't want to upset anyone!

**Patty**

onlyroz wrote: »

If you're going to get married then I think you should do it before babies. It's not "just a piece of paper" but provides you and your future children with a lot of security, in particular if one of you dies.

But surely, making a will and taking out adequate life/mortgage insurance will give the same protection?


Call me old-fashioned (if you like) but there's a lot to be said for marrying for love and part of that is protecting your loved ones/partner as much as you can.

chanie

We have babies and no marriage, yet. I'd like to get married and I guess we'll do it one day, but we have other priorities at the moment:

Providing for our children - we have expensive childcare costs
Doing work on our house.

I don't want an expensive wedding,but I want a nice wedding. I think I could have the wedding of my dreams for under £3000, but at the moment, we'd rather spend that on doing up the house!!!