When should I stop buying presents for my friend's children?

Ms_Chocaholic

Pollycat wrote: »

I can't see why you would buy presents for the son of a person who used to be your friend.
You've not been in touch with each other for almost 2 years.

Or do you see buying presents as a reciprocal thing and think that you 'owe' him another 8 presents to bring it in line with what your ex-friend did with your daughter?

Yes the last paragraph is very much how I'm thinking.

Mojisola

Ms_Chocaholic wrote: »

I buy for a friend's son, he is 10. My friend bought for my daughter until she was 18, my friend was my daughter's godmother, I am not godmother to friend's son.

This friend of mine never gets in touch with me, I do all the running. For the past 20 months I've purposely not made contact with my friend (to see what would happen) and my friend has not been in touch with me.

Don't you think the child will find it very strange if a birthday present keeps arriving from someone he doesn't know and who hasn't had contact with the family for years?

How would you know what to buy him?

Ms_Chocaholic

Mojisola wrote: »

Don't you think the child will find it very strange if a birthday present keeps arriving from someone he doesn't know and who hasn't had contact with the family for years?

How would you know what to buy him?

Yes I had never thought of it from that pov.

Last year I bought him vouchers for his Christmas and birthday as I had no idea what I could buy.

cazpost

I would say stop at 18. I haven't ever bought my friend's children regular presents,only if I happen to see something that I know they would particularly appreciate.

gaving7095

You have no obligation to buy gifts, stop when you want.
I personally agree that 18 is old enough so send a card from now on.