4th date this week !!!!

GTR_King

I hope this in the right forum (Please move if it isn't)

Ok so I have been talking to a girl for about 2 months and a half (Spoke for the 1st month on tinder then exchanged numbers) she has only logged on once in 2 months and deleted her Facebook few weeks ago so she can't use tinder.....

We have had 3 dates all went well and got 4th date this Wednesday evening (Going out for some food and drink). We haven't kissed yet only on the cheek and hugged each other...

She mainly texts me to sort the dates out etc thats about it... Once the date is sorted out she won't text much as she would rather keep the talking to the dates etc... if i text her 1st she usually replies and texts me 3-4 times that day (She won't text much 1st but sometimes will) and if I haven't text her for 2-3 days (Sometimes I wait till she texts me 1st) she will text me saying you've been quite xxx

She has told me I am a decent guy and that I really like you and want to take things slow and get to me better. Also she said she looking forward to seeing me again...

When will she start to text me more? is there anything I should be doing??? I like this girl and I am happy to take things slow... is it bad that we haven't kissed yet??

She lives 20-30mins away by car and always comes to my home town. I always see her at half-time at the football. She always smiles at me and keeps looking at me.. we both support the same team (But sit in different seats)

KatieDee

GTR_King wrote: »

I hope this in the right forum (Please move if it isn't)

Ok so I have been talking to a girl for about 2 months and a half (Spoke for the 1st month on tinder then exchanged numbers) she has only logged on once in 2 months and deleted her Facebook few weeks ago so she can't use tinder.....

We have had 3 dates all went well and got 4th date this Wednesday evening (Going out for some food and drink). We haven't kissed yet only on the cheek and hugged each other...

She mainly texts me to sort the dates out etc thats about it... Once the date is sorted out she won't text much as she would rather keep the talking to the dates etc... if i text her 1st she usually replies and texts me 3-4 times that day (She won't text much 1st but sometimes will) and if I haven't text her for 2-3 days (Sometimes I wait till she texts me 1st) she will text me saying you've been quite xxx

She has told me I am a decent guy and that I really like you and want to take things slow and get to me better. Also she said she looking forward to seeing me again...

When will she start to text me more? is there anything I should be doing??? I like this girl and I am happy to take things slow... is it bad that we haven't kissed yet??

She lives 20-30mins away by car and always comes to my home town. I always see her at half-time at the football. She always smiles at me and keeps looking at me.. we both support the same team (But sit in different seats)

Everything sounds very positive. Perhaps she doesn't text as much as you do?

I do not text very much as I find it a bit of a chore to write out what I could say over the phone in a few seconds. I'm not overly busy, I just find them impersonal. Perhaps she feels the same and would rather save contact until she is physically with you? She may also be playing hard to get which unfortunately is a common thing in the old dating game. Most of us have done it...treat them mean, keep them keen and all that jazz! Definitely seems to be working...;)

GTR_King

Thanks for the advice.

she doesn't use her phone loads etc and has said she would rather save the talking face to face.... That's fine with me....

She don't have Facebook but uses twitter...

I am used to texting loads.

I don't mind texting 2-3 a day etc....

She knows I like her and she likes me.

Just wanna take things slow for now but wished she would text me a bit more...

SailorSam

I thought at first seeing the thread title it was 4 dates with different girls in a week,
I'm only jealous.

GTR_King

Nope it's 4th date this week with same girl....

KatieDee

GTR_King wrote: »

Thanks for the advice.

she doesn't use her phone loads etc and has said she would rather save the talking face to face.... That's fine with me....

She don't have Facebook but uses twitter...

I am used to texting loads.

I don't mind texting 2-3 a day etc....

She knows I like her and she likes me.

Just wanna take things slow for now but wished she would text me a bit more...

Why not mention this to her next time you meet up? I can't promise it won't make you look clingy but if texting is important to you then it might me worth talking about.

Everything you have said sounds very positive and the beginning of what could be a great relationship. If she doesn't use Facebook then she probably isn't that enamoured by other forms of social media and communication, so it isn't surprising that she doesn't like to text much.

I know it's nice to receive a text through the day just to know somebody is thinking of you...but really, it's only one type of communication that a lot of us have come to rely on. Lack of texting doesn't mean anything and certainly doesn't suggest there is anything wrong! Try and relax a bit and bring the issue up if your concerns don't ease in time.

Robin9

GTR_King wrote: »

Thanks for the advice.

she doesn't use her phone loads etc and has said she would rather save the talking face to face.... That's fine with me....

She don't have Facebook but uses twitter...

I am used to texting loads.

I don't mind texting 2-3 a day etc....

She knows I like her and she likes me.

Just wanna take things slow for now but wished she would text me a bit more...

Hold back on the texting - she may think you are pushing - just trxt Wednesday to confirm time and place.

GTR_King

Thanks for your advice...

I am gonna wait a little bit longer & she if she texts a bit more hopefully over time she will...

Might ask her if she prefer to speak on the phone rather than texting...

I am just used to texting all the time and have never met a girl that don't like texting.

But I got nothing to worry about if she keeps accepting my dates etc.

I am not gonna text her till wed and let her text me. Might speak to her at football...

Poppy9

Well if you stop texting her now she'll think you've gone off her as she will have realised by now that you are a texter!!

Also have to ask, why haven't you kissed her? Is it because she's giving off the "keep away" signal. Three dates in one week and I would have expected a kiss at the end of the first if it went well and definitely on the second!

GTR_King

not 3 dates in one week. it's 3 dates in 2 months.

I havent texted her today as waiting for her to text me 1st. if heard nothing will text her Tuesday to confirm date on wed or will speak to her at football etc.

1st date hugged her

2nd date kiss on cheek and hug

3rd date kiss on cheek and hug did try kiss her but she wasn't ready

Poppy9

Why only 3 dates in two months? I know some people are reserved but if you really like someone you want to see them.

You said in OP she deleted her facebook, is this because there is something she doesn't want you to see or know?

I'm not trying to worry you but if you were my son I would be telling you to be more wary about being led on ..........to nothing!