Can anyone help please?

custardy

woodsig wrote: »

custardy wrote: »

Expensive and not needed.
Organise a free mail collect/QUOTE]

Thanks. I know there is a number to call which I will shall call tomorrow but won't they send me any letters to say it has all been set up?!

So this is all free? No fees etc if I just literally go there once a week and check if there is any post for me?

woodsig

Easiest way to ensure.
Apply as per the form.
Contact customer services and explain your situation and request a temporary hold pending mail collect set up.
You can also ask at the DO direct however for security they really arent meant to but many will.

Dr._Shoe

Why not get everything sent to a friend's house? Or maybe just the important mail even.

Mrs_Imp

Let us know your address and we'll all send a letter to you. She may get fed up after opening hundreds of your letters in a couple of days

*max*

Since you said you get on really well, why can you not just ask/tell her about it??

"Mum, could you please stop opening my post? One, it's very invasive, and two, how do you suggest I "do something" about whatever the letter is about if I haven't read it? Anyway, STOP OPENING MY POST, I shouldn't have to justify why. Thank you."

enthusiasticsaver

I would never dream of opening either of my daughters' post while they were living at home and if I were you I would definitely confront her and ask her how she would feel if you opened her mail. You can get all your bank statements and bills paperless these days so I think this is the route I would take.

melloecastro

redirecting has a small fee I think but its worth it. I am sure you could also put a note in at the local office where you would collect the mail that only you could collect it? if its like my local office only 2 people would work the desk so would know you and normally they would check photo id maybe?

Having lived with an relative with alcohol issues I sympathise. Its even worse when they take phone messages for you.

PenguinOfDeath

No real words if advice but you have my sympathies as I have been through similar (post being opened, social network stalking etc)

Maybe she is fearing you are soon to leave so it trying to retain some 'control' while she still can?

Doesn't solve the problem but maybe sign yourself up to loads of companies junk mail lists so you get all sorts delivered for her to rifle though and maybe she'll get bored?

Oh, and if you haven't got your Facebook etc security on lock down, mine even got family members involved in her stalking

melloecastro

I would deffo get the mail sorted out even though I think there is a small charge you need to take back some control in your life and take a step towards more independance. Surely you can insist that they only release the items to you as only your face matches your photo id? IN my local depot the 2 staff know all the PO Box recipients by first name. I sympathise about living with someone who drinks not easy!

Savvy_Sue

Well, I always ask my lot what their post was, but when they're at home I don't open it. That's rude! Nosey I may be, but not rude!

I have three default positions:

DS1: open everything, scan and email it to him (he's travelling / NFA atm and agrees I should do this)

DS2: tell him what's come (I usually know who it's from), ask permission to open, scan and email it to him (he doesn't live at home any more and usually says 'fine')

DS3: tell him what's come, pile it up until I am near his flat, because the journey from us to him is infinitely shorter than the journey from him to us (he lives nearby and does not wish me to open his post even though it would be much simpler if I did!)

OP, what's the worst that could happen if you confronted her and / or she showed the post to your stepfather? You're planning to leave, your stepfather isn't often at home, so it could all be a big bluff, but would it matter if you called it?

CupOfChai

My mum used to open my post when I lived at home. She stopped when I calmly asked her please not to and didn't she know it was illegal to open someone else's post?


(I know it's not necessarily, but it worked!)