Not competitive

Georgiegirl256

missprice wrote: »

I'm the car thanks very much, and in an hour I will just leave cos its the most boringest game ever. Will split my money/houses/hotels between you both though if that's OK. :rotfl:
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Sounds like a fair deal! :rotfl:

Georgiegirl256

Judi wrote: »

I remember a few years ago a game of monopoly in our caravan. Just me, him and our son. He wiped the floor with us but I swear the rules he made up as he went along. It took the fun out of it.

It would do, because that's not being competitive, that's called cheating!

Gloomendoom

Judi wrote: »

My husband is fiercely competitive. He will turn anything into a contest.

I genuinely feel sorry for people like that.

Errata

A constant defeatist attitude where people appear to not even want to try (not saying that about the OP, just in general) can get very tiring after a while. Maybe everything is just coming to a head now.

Really, after 9 years of cohabitation?

lulu_92

Errata wrote: »

Really, after 9 years of cohabitation?

A PP said something about the OH mentioning it a few years back.

The thing is, there must be a reason why it is suddenly bothering him to this extent when he must have been able to keep quiet about it from the first time he brought it up to now?

OP have you had any more luck in communicating?

Rambosmum

We have had a chat and OH has apologised for what he said. He said that although he did mean some of what he said he had been deliberately nasty in the heat of the argument and has apologised for that.

We talked and agreed that if he wants to play an uber competitive game that I would not join in, which he found really odd and had difficulty understanding that I would be happier to sit out and chat with people as I watched the game rather than join in. He really jus hadn't seen it from my point of view. I in return agreed to at least appear more enthusiastic on occasion (I argued that I should be able to be my relaxed self in front of family and very good friends, which he agreed) and explained that how I came across was not necessarily a reflection on how hard or not I was trying.

As for climbing he said that he actually had admiration for the fact that I enjoy climbing and continue to have ago even though I don't get to the top and that although he would consider the aim to be to get to the top that I should do it as I enjoy it and he will no longer try and force me up walls when I clearly don't enjoy that.

He agreed to work on seeing things from my point of view, and to stop getting at me for my dreadful coordination.

carmina_piranha

I'm more like you, and my husband is more like yours.

We have fun playing board games, etc. but he usually wins. I hate playing games with his family because they are all so competitive, it's just not fun because there's too much tension. And in a game like Scrabble for example, making an interesting word is far more important to me than having a winning strategy.

I don't really 'do' strategy to be honest (not in my head anyhow, I can do it on paper), it's a part of my brain that just doesn't function. I think it might be linked to my appalling clumsiness and lack of spatial awareness.

My husband is great at almost everything, but he admires my abilities in other areas and he likes me for being me. He thinks I'm clever because I got a better degree than he did.

Is your husband stressed that he might not do as well at uni as you did, and maybe that made him narky? I'm glad he apologised for being deliberately nasty.

BrassicWoman

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

If you're playing against a child maybe? But to play against another adult and purposely let them win....defeats the whole object of even playing in the first place.

No, only if you are playing to win! And I don't. There is more than one way to enjoy gaming. I like playing to look at the mechanics of the game, have conversation, etc.

I try very hard not to get caught losing