When one spouse wants another child and the other doesn't

charlishae

JesseBirdsall wrote: »

Trouble is that sex occurs when she wants to try for a baby and because I know that's the reason I have no inclination. I don't feel wanted for me just what I can do.

Do I just bite the bullet? Opinions please!

Im confused by this. Are you not using protection then?

Better_Days

mumps wrote: »

When my second was born the eldest was 3, he was so happy and proud. I had second at home and the eldest came in as soon as he was born and helped to bath him and then got into bed with me and baby.

Ahh so sweet :D:D Its lovely that he could share the experience of the new baby.

Moments to treasure (especially when they are in their teens and hormonal!)

mumps

ciderwithrosie wrote: »

Not that hard. 17 months between my eldest two. The oldest can't remember a time when the 2nd one wasn't around, so no jealousy and the 2nd one copied everything the oldest one did, so walked at 9 months and virtually potty trained himself. I do think I was lucky with son 2 as he just slept where you put him and was never colicky like the oldest. Given the choice I would have had son3 sooner but it didn't happen, so there's a 3 year and 5 month gap between the 2nd and 3rd ones and that was much harder.

It was being pregnant, in my case with awful morning sickness, with a little one. I would have found that hard and was glad mine were walking when I felt so awful but it is lovely that it worked for you.

ciderwithrosie_2

mumps wrote: »

It was being pregnant, in my case with awful morning sickness, with a little one. I would have found that hard and was glad mine were walking when I felt so awful but it is lovely that it worked for you.

I was really lucky with that too, no morning sickness with any of my 3 (2 weeks of dizziness with the last one was all). My best friend also had 3 and was sick the whole 9 months with each of hers... nightmare!!

Also, I wanted to have completed my family by aged 30, which I just about managed! Only because my mum had me at 31 and seemed a lot older than my friends' mums and I didn't want to be that older mum at the school gates. Now she's a hyperactive 81yr old and seems a lot younger than her years!

mumps

ciderwithrosie wrote: »

I was really lucky with that too, no morning sickness with any of my 3 (2 weeks of dizziness with the last one was all). My best friend also had 3 and was sick the whole 9 months with each of hers... nightmare!!

Also, I wanted to have completed my family by aged 30, which I just about managed! Only because my mum had me at 31 and seemed a lot older than my friends' mums and I didn't want to be that older mum at the school gates. Now she's a hyperactive 81yr old and seems a lot younger than her years!

You can't get it right with kids. I have my first at just 18 so at 22 I was taking him to school and got friendly with another mum who was almost double my age. She sadly confided in me one day that her little girl had said to her that she wanted a young mum like me, I told her that my son was mortified that I didn't look old enough to be a mum and before parents evening inspected me and asked me to change into something else as my dress looked too young. Honestly they were 6 or 7 at the time. We did think of doing a swap.