Help please 3 year old DS turned into the devil incarnate

REEN

Maybe some new Bob the Builder pants (or whatever his current obsession is) put away for when he's dry would encourage him.

One of mine had some shocking tantrums, worse whenever Nana filled him up with sugary drinks and artificial colourings. You have my sympathy.

Northern78

Thanks Janninew it's nice to know it's not just us that's going through this. It makes you start to question your parenting.

I'm sure once I can reason with him a bit better we'll see an improvement, fingers crossed!

ZsaZsa

The tantrums will pass, you just need get the balance of picking your battles while remaining consistent. I know it's not easy, I remember it well. As for tidying, have you tried the timer challenge? Set a kitchen timer, and make it a race to tidy up. ( I used to make sure they tidied one thing before getting the next out during the day, made the end of the day much easier)

bouicca21

The baby is 3 months? Maybe he has just realised that she is actually here forever and needs reassurance that he is still wanted and loved? This is what happened with my older one - seemed fine and not jealous at all until we hit 3 months. Both mine hit the terrible 2s at about 18 months. They actually started being vaguely civilised at 3.

Northern78

His 'thing' at the minute Reen is George from Peppa Pig so perhaps some George pants. He seems to like wearing boxers though 'cos they're like daddy's pants' as he says.

Well I have to say I feel better already, I think sometimes just writing it down and reading it back makes you think about it. I have to say this site is invaluable to me at times!

Mojisola

Northern78 wrote: »

So tomorrow night when I ask him to put his toys away before bed, instead of I want you to put your toys away, I'll sit in the floor with him and say do you want to put your toolset or cars away.

I'm open to any suggestions at the minute!

Different things work with different children - and sometimes nothing does and you just have to grit your teeth and keep muttering "This, too, will pass".

Glad mine are all grown up!

Mojisola

bouicca21 wrote: »

The baby is 3 months? Maybe he has just realised that she is actually here forever and needs reassurance that he is still wanted and loved?

After a week had gone by, my friend's little boy started collecting the baby's things together in a pile. When asked why, he said it had been alright having a sister at first but he thought they should send her back now.

Northern78

ZsaZsa making it more of a challenge or game sounds like a good idea. You're right the tantrums will pass, I should.know this we've just gone through the first 3 months with a new baby. I spent the entire time saying this stage will pass, she will soon sleep through. I guess is what being a parent is about, one stage after another!

Bouicca21 you could be on to something there as the health visitor did say to us just wait until he realises she's here for good! Maybe a bit more time for us two to play together while she naps would help.

atolaas

Now Daddy's not there all the time and you've got your little one to occupy your time, he could be feeling a bit left out. My Mum and I use to "bake" chocolate crispy cakes whilst my little brother slept in the afternoon. There's a similar age gap. We use to "save one for Daddy" as he use to work away a lot too.

Kantankrus_Mare

Both my kids went through this difficult stage and I feel for you. It's a challenging time. I promise it does pass though.

In the mean time.....see if you can get hold of a book called Toddler Taming by Dr Christopher Green. Best child behaviour book I came across and think it has been updated.

Its a long time since mine were going through this stage but the main bit of advice I remember is to ignore the bad behaviour and praise the good.

If a child gets attention for bad behaviour, it reinforces that behaviour.

Also try not to show anger or shout unless absolutely necessary as kids get immune to it if they hear it all the time.

Good luck!
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