If you are single....

atolaas

NewShadow wrote: »

I mean, where does one even meet young men that are interested in more than 'getting lucky'?

As soon as you find out, do share

VestanPance

I've been single for coming on seven years now, after getting divorced in my mid-30's. I don't trust anyone enough to get involved with them, so happy to remain single from here on in.

I've had numerous offers of dates and a number of people trying to set me up with friends or daughters! So unlike some unfortunate people that have posted here the choice is mine, not one of circumstance.

Also had the odd offer of something "casual", but that is something that never interested me.

meer53

Things i like about being single.

Starfish in a king size bed.
Shall i get dressed before lunch ? Nah, can't be bothered.
Fish finger sarnie for tea, of course.
TV, my choice, no-one elses.
Holidays, where i want to go, no compromises.
New clothes ? No guilty shopping trips. "Yes, this is new !"
Impromptu lunches/dinners/shopping/cinema/overnight stays. "Of course i can come"
New car. Whatever i like (again)
Spotless kitchen/bathroom etc
Garlic, no problem !

Basically, after over 20 years of putting other people before myself, i'm being me. And i love it

Peter333

jaylee3 wrote: »

I really don't think that there is any need to be so rude to Torbrex OR anyone else who has multiple 1000s of posts here. Some have been posting 10 years, so of course the post count is high.

Also, some people post a lot on message forums because they get a lot of comfort and companionship and laughs and reassurance and advice. In addition, I have seen some people here who have actually been on the brink of devastation and had suicidal thoughts, with nobody to turn to, and the people on here have talked them down, and made them feel better, with their kind words and cheery attitude.

Also, people often give brilliant and helpful advice about finances, and housing, and benefits, and all kinds of things to do with the law, and all sorts. It's a wonderful website. So WHAT if some people post a lot here?!

Sometimes people just need a rant or they need serious financial advice, or relationship advice, (sometimes all three!) and they get the advice and kindness and companionship they need on here. It has its moments this forum, and sometimes people argue a lot, but it's a wonderful forum with some amazing, intelligent, kind, and knowledgable people.

Some people are living alone, and alone a lot, (but not necessarily lonely!) and find this forum good fun to be on, and many are living with someone and quite happy, but still like to frequent this place, and some are very lonely and a place like this can be a lifeline. It's not a lot different to going to the pub a few times a week and chatting amongst the regulars. And it's cheaper!

But to attack someone for being single for most of their life is bang out of order. Some have no choice, and some choose to be single. But whatever the reason, it's just plain nasty to make such unkind comments about it.

And if Torbrex's reason for being on here a lot is because they don't leave the house and are very lonely, then that makes your remark even more cruel than ever.

You should be ashamed of yourself.

You owe Torbrex, and a few others on here, an apology.

Pyxis wrote: »

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Brilliant post, Jaylee! :A

janb5 wrote: »

Jaylee- what a well thought out and articulated post! Well done you for saying what a lot of people think! You have made my day!
This forum does have the ability of being very comforting and insightful!

Agree that Jaylee's post was very good. There are many good and decent posters on here, but sometimes, some people can be rather cutting and cruel. Whether it's mocking people for having a high post count and saying they are 'sad' for being on here a lot, or whether it's belittling someone's problems because they see them as being petty or childish. As I said on another thread a few minutes ago, it's no wonder that some people make up a new username if they have a problem.

Even so, this is a good, useful site, and thankfully, the number of nice posters on here outweigh the not-so-nice ones.

[Deleted User]

Pyxis wrote: »

Wasn't it Helena Bonham-Carter who had adjoining houses with her husband?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=icKEAVvTA4A

janb5

I posted a reply to this earlier- they broke up recently tho`

restless6

I have been single for 4years now and I don't like it anymore.

I do socialise and work and go on holiday etc etc but I turned 39 last week and now feel that it is too late and I am left on the shelf!!

I already have my children so that isnt an issue but I don't see it changing now, if i can't meet anyone in 4years ?!!

Maureen43

This is a very raw subject for me.

I've been single for nearly three years (since my long marriage ended), give or take a few ill-advised short relationships.


I get very lonely, despite living with two children. It's a cliche but sometimes it is so bad it is a physical pain.


I miss all the obvious things, but what hurts the most is that nobody completely has my back. Nobody is there to catch me if I fall. Nobody to discuss my major life decisions with.


I have friends but it isn't the same.


I am coming to think that I am undateable and couldn't identify the right man for me if he was stood in front of me wearing a sign.


The thought that this could be my lot, for life, is a sobering one.

bugslet

Maureen43 wrote: »

I am coming to think that I am undateable and couldn't identify the right man for me if he was stood in front of me wearing a sign.


The thought that this could be my lot, for life, is a sobering one.

It won't be Maureen; it can just be difficult to find the right person, you both have to be in the same place at the same time. Everything around us changes constantly, and whenever I feel a bit down about something, I just remind myself that things will change for me too.

meer53 wrote: »

Basically, after over 20 years of putting other people before myself, i'm being me. And i love it

I never had to explain shopping, we never did the joing finances thing and I certainly never explained any going out, but yes, it's nice being able to do things without having to consider someone else.

Pyxis wrote: »

Brilliant post, Jaylee! :A

Ditto:T Well said Jaylee

torbrex

Maureen43 wrote: »

I am coming to think that I am undateable and couldn't identify the right man for me if he was stood in front of me wearing a sign.


The thought that this could be my lot, for life, is a sobering one.

I feel exactly the same sometimes and I have been waiting for a little while longer.

I have trouble recognising when someone is flirting with me, I just don't get the signs

I have been told a number of times that I 'missed my chance' with someone simply because I didn't know she was actually dropping hints that she wanted to get closer.

My excuse is that I am only a man, the only hints that I recognise are the ones tied round a brick and lobbed at my head. :T