If you are single....

chucknorris

joansgirl wrote: »

I've been on my own for 5 years now and I'm as happy as I can be under the circumstances with no wish to be in a relationship again.

As much as I miss my dear departed husband I love being on my own. I can be as selfish as I want, I don't have to share anything and I can march to the beat of my own drum.

I used to think I might like a boyfriend but the more time that passes and the more I see of other peoples relationships the more I realise I just don't want it. The only time I ever need a man is to do heavy lifting that I can't manage myself.

However I am older than you Kingfisherblue and maybe if I was younger I might feel differently.

And anyway, I have my dog

Dogs are great companions, I am married, but when I usually get home from work before my wife, it is great to get such a nice welcome from my dog. They say the way to test who loves you the most (between your dog and your wife) is to lock them both in a cupboard before you go to work, and after being out all day let them out, then see who is happiest to see you. I'm pretty sure my dog would win easily.

Ames

My only relationship was a nightmare.

I accepted a few years ago that I'll never be with anyone again. I come with more baggage than Heathrow and even if someone were prepared to put up with it all, it wouldn't be fair to let them.

I do miss the things you said. I was at an airport last month and because I was in a wheelchair I was patted down instead of going through the scanner. I realised it was the most contact I'd had with another human in years.

For me, it's just the hand life's dealt me.

ETA: finished reading the thread and I agree about the medical/nok stuff. If I died no-one would notice for probably a couple of months, until I'd missed a few hospital appointments. When I had surgery last year I had to put my benefits advisor down as NOK because there was no-one else, and the hospital didn't seem to want to operate without having someone down.

I realised that between March and September last year I averaged three conversations a month. That's proper conversations, not exchanging a few words with the checkout person at the supermarket, for instance. But plenty of people are worse off than that. And no conversation is better than bad conversation!

tea_lover

I'm about to be single again (in process of ending nine year relationship). Am looking forward to living on my own again Yes I will be sad and upset at times, but the lack of companionship and affection within the relationship has been far lonelier than any previously single times in my life.

misspickle_2

Kernow666 wrote: »

Funny how the people with 20/30/40000 posts all stick together

more interested in getting there totals up and badges than things going on in real life

Pretty damn sure I wouldn't have a clue what other peoples totals were.
Throwing stones whilst living in a glass house by any chance?

colinw

misspickle wrote: »

Pretty damn sure I wouldn't have a clue what other peoples totals were.
Throwing stones whilst living in a glass house by any chance?

Exactly miss pickle! Seems daft someone posting on a forum to moan about people posting on a forum :rotfl:I do do RL occasionally as well

Pyxis

colinw wrote: »

Exactly miss pickle! Seems daft someone posting on a forum to moan about people posting on a forum :rotfl:I do do RL occasionally as well

Well, Colin, you keep on going around the world, so you must see a bit of RL doing that, I guess!

Flick216

And darn it! I miss having someone who loves me enough to buy me the gold Pandora bracelet :rotfl::rotfl:

Flick216

And my boiler is broken so I need someone to keep me warm

[Deleted User]

Someone on this forum (I wish I'd made a note of who) once said that you can surround yourself with as many people as you like, but if nobody empathises with you, you will still feel lonely.

That's one of the most profound things I've heard, I'd realised that I wasn't getting what I should from mixing with others, but hadn't had the insight to see why.

trolleyrun

I've been happily single for most of my life, with a few relationships thrown in here and there. I've been single for the last 5 years and was prepared for the situation to remain as it was. Then, recently, I got hit by a thunderbolt and I now feel a bit like a teenager again Hopefully, it'll last as we're having great fun and he's rather fabulous. Worth the wait