If you are single....

colinw

Kernow666 wrote: »

Torbrex sounds like one of these people whos life revolves round sites like this no wonder he/she is single and prefers it that way probably doesnt leave the house

Do you have to be so unpleasant to people? appears you spend quite a bit of time on here as well. Look at the threads with Derek's holiday pics and you will find out he does not spend all his time on here.

I am not single but I am very very anti social!

Prinzessilein

I'm single....and I've never been in a long term relationship.


Last year I moved in to sheltered accommodation. One of the hardest things was coming to terms with the fact that this probably puts an end to any wild hopes I ever had of finding 'someone'.


I have HFA (High Functioning Autism) amongst other conditions. And I am elective mute. This has always meant that relationships were going to be hard...turns out they were next to impossible.


Being with people scares me. I don't understand them. I can't even talk to my own family on the phone - with most of them I communicate by e-mail. ....and yet there is a deep aching longing inside of me to find someone special (and who would find me special too!). I tears me apart sometimes, the dichotomy of being socio-phobic an bone-achingly, heart-wrenchingly lonely.


Can you miss something you've never had? I'm coming to the opinion that you can!

kingfisherblue

Kernow666 wrote: »

Torbrex sounds like one of these people whos life revolves round sites like this no wonder he/she is single and prefers it that way probably doesnt leave the house

That's unfair. Nobody knows why Torbrex is single, but as sites like this didn't really exist thirty years ago, I doubt if that is the reason. Also, many people are happy on their own, and I am most of the time, it's just recently that I'm missing some parts of being in a relationship.

kingfisherblue

PasturesNew wrote: »

While I've had a couple of boyfriends in the past, they weren't all that - unreliable, cheating, going nowhere types.... so I've never had any form of companionship in a relationship. So, my being single can only be compared with: better than being let down, lied to, then left.

You're probably younger than me, although I'm guessing based on your post. Not all men are as bad as that. I know some great blokes - bit they're all taken! My ex was great for many years. We had been together for nineteen years, married for sixteen, when he decided to start a new family elsewhere. Right up to him leaving, I thought our relationship was still good. We still had a good sex life, cuddled and chatted every day, and lived a settled family life. We worked to make a decent life for our kids - him earning the money and me at home caring for the children (I did work for most of our relationship, but had to give up to look after our son, who was born with major disabilities).


In the end, though, when I learned that he was leaving after having an affair, he certainly fitted your description of cheating.

candygirl

Kernow666 wrote: »

Torbrex sounds like one of these people whos life revolves round sites like this no wonder he/she is single and prefers it that way probably doesnt leave the house

He does leave the house! I've met him n a fab meet up, n he's a really nice bloke:D

sweetme

kingfisherblue wrote: »

Do you miss being in a relationship?


I'm happy on my own for most of the time, but sometimes I do miss the companionship of having a partner. There are also times when I miss the more intimate moments. I know that there are ways around this, but let's face it, sometimes it would be nice just to have a cuddle (and if it leads to more, well I wouldn't object if it was someone I was in a relationship with).


I'd never want to be with my ex-husband again. Our relationship ended for a reason and I'd never love or trust him again, even if he was available. I don't go out 'on the pull' and most of my friends have partners. It just seems as though I'm likely to remain alone. I can live with that, but it does sound very lonely at times.


Does anyone else feel the same?

I've been single for 6/7 years now. On the whole I've enjoyed it, but I've four children and all I've focused on is them. I can empathise with where you're coming from. I enjoy my space, and doing things on my terms without having anybody to answer to or take into consideration but I would like to meet someone to grow old with. I just don't know how it's done now . All of my friends are coupled off/married and I really don't like the idea of going out on the pull, I've always hoped fate would intervene somehow but guess she's busy elsewhere .

torbrex

Thanks guys :T
They obviously know me so well that they don't even know what I am :rotfl:

As Candy will confirm, I am just a gentle jam eating grizzly bear :whistle:

splishsplash

Tinwhistler wrote: »

I draw energy from being alone and it saps my energy to be with others without a break (Introvert).

This, pretty much, although I never thought of it as being so until you wrote it down...

candygirl

splishsplash wrote: »

This, pretty much, although I never thought of it as being so until you wrote it down...

Me too, come to think of it;)

kingfisherblue

sweetme wrote: »

I've been single for 6/7 years now. On the whole I've enjoyed it, but I've four children and all I've focused on is them. I can empathise with where you're coming from. I enjoy my space, and doing things on my terms without having anybody to answer to or take into consideration but I would like to meet someone to grow old with. I just don't know how it's done now . All of my friends are coupled off/married and I really don't like the idea of going out on the pull, I've always hoped fate would intervene somehow but guess she's busy elsewhere .

Well, she sure isn't busy near me! I know what you mean, though. I've brought up my children and concentrated on them. I'm still obviously going to do that, but I'd like someone to spend time with as a partner as I grow older. If you do meet fate and she sends a decent chap your way, give her a push in my direction!