If you are single....

engineer_amy

Ive been single for about 3 years now. I have a casual boyfriend, and we have discussed the situation, neither of us wants anything too serious, so we are happy plodding along, going out for dinner or nights out and staying over at each others once a week or so.
But I don't think I could live with anyone again, im too used to my own space. I don't even like sharing a bed when he stays over.
we went on holiday together last year and it was too much, constantly on top of each other with only one hotel room.


I don't think it will ever get more serious than it is now, which I am happy with for the moment. I can see myself turning into a crazy cat lady as I get older. But im really not worried, I quite like my own company, I enjoy the peace and quiet and I never feel lonely. I have friends who cant understand me living alone, and think I am lonely and constantly are wanting to "do things", ive never really been needy of lots of human contact I suppose

candygirl

After my last relationship, I am more than happy to be single:D I have fab friends and family, can do what I want when I want, and best of all, don't have a fat, grumpy millstone round my neck any more:rotfl: Oh n I have my two gorg dogs to cuddle, n worship me:D

System

Its not even been a week and i already miss being in a relationship. I hate being on my own. Miss the companionship, the cuddles, the conversation.

Tinwhistler

I draw energy from being alone and it saps my energy to be with others without a break (Introvert).

engineer_amy

Tinwhistler wrote: »

I draw energy from being alone and it saps my energy to be with others without a break (Introvert).

I can agree with the energy sapping bit. Im not a big drinker, and have, in the past, described myself as a bit antisocial. Sometimes im out with a group of friends in town for a drink, and am counting down the hours until I can go home and just relax on my own, or wonder if I could just slip off and no one would notice!

scarlet55

The thought of sharing my home with someone permanently fills me with horror!
I suppose if you really loved them it wouldn't/shouldn't be a problem, until the honeymoon period wore off :cool:

I think I'd prefer them having their own home though, I'd feel claustrophobic if I couldn't have my own space.

kingfisherblue

Thanks for the replies. I haven't written off ever being in a relationship again, I just don't see it happening when I haven't met anyone in such a long time. I've joined clubs and classes, done my degree, volunteered, and found various ways of meeting people. I've gained some great friends on the way. I just haven't met anyone to have a more intimate relationship with. I don't necessarily want to live with someone again. I'd be quite happy with a relationship where we both have our own homes and see each other a few evenings a week, maybe sometimes staying overnight. I have kids and love them to bits, but I'd like a more adult relationship with companionship. I'll be honest, I miss the sexual side as well. I can't imagine sleeping with someone unless I care for them quite a bit (not that I get many offers!).


I do enjoy my own company most of the time, but would like more sometimes.

Kernow666

nickyhutch wrote: »

Unless you want to be single for the rest of your life (which is fine, if you do), why have you effectively written yourself off at such a young age?


I don't think I'd mind being single again for a couple of years (who am I kidding - I'd love it!) but long term, for ever? No. I'd be bored and lonely. You do need to be with the right person, though. If you're with the wrong person, you can be bored and lonely even though you're with someone all the time.

Torbrex sounds like one of these people whos life revolves round sites like this no wonder he/she is single and prefers it that way probably doesnt leave the house

Flick216

scarlet55 wrote: »

The thought of sharing my home with someone permanently fills me with horror!
I suppose if you really loved them it wouldn't/shouldn't be a problem, until the honeymoon period wore off :cool:

I think I'd prefer them having their own home though, I'd feel claustrophobic if I couldn't have my own space.

This!! I would hate to have to share my space with someone :eek:

Although when watch a bit of Jane Austen, I do find that I miss being loved.

torbrex

Kernow666 wrote: »

Torbrex sounds like one of these people whos life revolves round sites like this no wonder he/she is single and prefers it that way probably doesnt leave the house

Such marvelous insight, you have me pegged to a T :T :T :T