If you are single....

jaylee3

Kernow666 wrote: »

Torbrex sounds like one of these people whos life revolves round sites like this no wonder he/she is single and prefers it that way probably doesn't leave the house

I really don't think that there is any need to be so rude to Torbrex OR anyone else who has multiple 1000s of posts here. Some have been posting 10 years, so of course the post count is high.

Also, some people post a lot on message forums because they get a lot of comfort and companionship and laughs and reassurance and advice. In addition, I have seen some people here who have actually been on the brink of devastation and had suicidal thoughts, with nobody to turn to, and the people on here have talked them down, and made them feel better, with their kind words and cheery attitude.

Also, people often give brilliant and helpful advice about finances, and housing, and benefits, and all kinds of things to do with the law, and all sorts. It's a wonderful website. So WHAT if some people post a lot here?!

Sometimes people just need a rant or they need serious financial advice, or relationship advice, (sometimes all three!) and they get the advice and kindness and companionship they need on here. It has its moments this forum, and sometimes people argue a lot, but it's a wonderful forum with some amazing, intelligent, kind, and knowledgable people.

Some people are living alone, and alone a lot, (but not necessarily lonely!) and find this forum good fun to be on, and many are living with someone and quite happy, but still like to frequent this place, and some are very lonely and a place like this can be a lifeline. It's not a lot different to going to the pub a few times a week and chatting amongst the regulars. And it's cheaper!

But to attack someone for being single for most of their life is bang out of order. Some have no choice, and some choose to be single. But whatever the reason, it's just plain nasty to make such unkind comments about it.

And if Torbrex's reason for being on here a lot is because they don't leave the house and are very lonely, then that makes your remark even more cruel than ever.

You should be ashamed of yourself.

You owe Torbrex, and a few others on here, an apology.

sofarbehind

I've been single for 4 years and I've given up hope of anyone wanting me. Being 35 and unattractive is difficult. I'm trying to just get on with my life and be happy in myself. I'd love a partner but being alone is better than being in a bad relationship.

jaylee3

sofarbehind wrote: »

I've been single for 4 years and I've given up hope of anyone wanting me. Being 35 and unattractive is difficult. I'm trying to just get on with my life and be happy in myself. I'd love a partner but being alone is better than being in a bad relationship.

Awwwwwwwwwwwww Don't say THAT. Of course you're not unattractive. I'm really sorry you feel this way.

I do agree with your bolded statement though!

I hope you meet someone you deserve soon! :T

purpleshoes_2

Ive been single for the best part of ten years now. Just the way it is. I left a very abusive relationship and Ive met people along the way but not anyone I really felt that I could make a go of it with.

I used to run a meet up group, the majority of people were single, I had 600 members, it would amaze you how many people get to their 30s and 40s and have trouble finding someone.

I have a social life, I go out regularly, just because you do that, doesn't mean you'll find someone you want to be with. It was much easier in my teens and 20s.

But Im not unhappy, at all. I like living on my own and if I ever do meet someone again which Im not sure I will, they would have to be decent to me, most of my ex bfs have been far from that.

JoW123

I've been single just over five years now. Most of the time I just get on with it, but out of choice I would much rather be with someone. I have two children so plenty to keep me busy, but I miss someone to give me a hug, hold my hand etc. Having said that, I only want to be with someone who means something so casual dating wouldn't be for me.


Oh, and in response to one of the earlier posters, I bought my own Pandora bracelet otherwise I would never have got one!

System

Having soft toys to cuddle did help me and still helps me when I feel lonely

kingfisherblue

JoW123 wrote: »

I've been single just over five years now. Most of the time I just get on with it, but out of choice I would much rather be with someone. I have two children so plenty to keep me busy, but I miss someone to give me a hug, hold my hand etc. Having said that, I only want to be with someone who means something so casual dating wouldn't be for me.


Oh, and in response to one of the earlier posters, I bought my own Pandora bracelet otherwise I would never have got one!

Although I would like to meet someone, casual relationships aren't my thing. Casual sex definitely isn't something that I want, but I would like to meet someone special enough to have that type of relationship with again, even though I'm not sure I would want to live together. It's difficult enough meeting anyone ion the first place, though, so it's not as if I have that sort of decision to make.

Deep_In_Debt

I was in a relationship for nearly 18 years and been single now for ages. I'm quite happy being single. I have a lot of hobbies, interests and work full time so I don't feel lonely as I meet people all the time. And I've been busier since I've been on my own than I ever was in my relationship.

I own my own place so I'm happy just plodding along in life. However, it would be nice to meet someone special but not live together, but that's an ideal world though.

Pyxis

jaylee3 wrote: »

I really don't think that there is any need to be so rude to Torbrex OR anyone else who has multiple 1000s of posts here. Some have been posting 10 years, so of course the post count is high.

Also, some people post a lot on message forums because they get a lot of comfort and companionship and laughs and reassurance and advice. In addition, I have seen some people here who have actually been on the brink of devastation and had suicidal thoughts, with nobody to turn to, and the people on here have talked them down, and made them feel better, with their kind words and cheery attitude.

Also, people often give brilliant and helpful advice about finances, and housing, and benefits, and all kinds of things to do with the law, and all sorts. It's a wonderful website. So WHAT if some people post a lot here?!

Sometimes people just need a rant or they need serious financial advice, or relationship advice, (sometimes all three!) and they get the advice and kindness and companionship they need on here. It has its moments this forum, and sometimes people argue a lot, but it's a wonderful forum with some amazing, intelligent, kind, and knowledgable people.

Some people are living alone, and alone a lot, (but not necessarily lonely!) and find this forum good fun to be on, and many are living with someone and quite happy, but still like to frequent this place, and some are very lonely and a place like this can be a lifeline. It's not a lot different to going to the pub a few times a week and chatting amongst the regulars. And it's cheaper!

But to attack someone for being single for most of their life is bang out of order. Some have no choice, and some choose to be single. But whatever the reason, it's just plain nasty to make such unkind comments about it.

And if Torbrex's reason for being on here a lot is because they don't leave the house and are very lonely, then that makes your remark even more cruel than ever.

You should be ashamed of yourself.

You owe Torbrex, and a few others on here, an apology.

:T :T :T :T :T :T :T :T :T

Brilliant post, Jaylee! :A

janb5

jaylee3 wrote: »

I really don't think that there is any need to be so rude to Torbrex OR anyone else who has multiple 1000s of posts here. Some have been posting 10 years, so of course the post count is high.

Also, some people post a lot on message forums because they get a lot of comfort and companionship and laughs and reassurance and advice. In addition, I have seen some people here who have actually been on the brink of devastation and had suicidal thoughts, with nobody to turn to, and the people on here have talked them down, and made them feel better, with their kind words and cheery attitude.

Also, people often give brilliant and helpful advice about finances, and housing, and benefits, and all kinds of things to do with the law, and all sorts. It's a wonderful website. So WHAT if some people post a lot here?!

Sometimes people just need a rant or they need serious financial advice, or relationship advice, (sometimes all three!) and they get the advice and kindness and companionship they need on here. It has its moments this forum, and sometimes people argue a lot, but it's a wonderful forum with some amazing, intelligent, kind, and knowledgable people.

Some people are living alone, and alone a lot, (but not necessarily lonely!) and find this forum good fun to be on, and many are living with someone and quite happy, but still like to frequent this place, and some are very lonely and a place like this can be a lifeline. It's not a lot different to going to the pub a few times a week and chatting amongst the regulars. And it's cheaper!

But to attack someone for being single for most of their life is bang out of order. Some have no choice, and some choose to be single. But whatever the reason, it's just plain nasty to make such unkind comments about it.

And if Torbrex's reason for being on here a lot is because they don't leave the house and are very lonely, then that makes your remark even more cruel than ever.

You should be ashamed of yourself.

You owe Torbrex, and a few others on here, an apology.

Jaylee- what a well thought out and articulated post! Well done you for saying what a lot of people think! You have made my day!
This forum does have the ability of being very comforting and insightful!