If you are single....

jaylee3

janb5 wrote: »

Jaylee- what a well thought out and articulated post! Well done you for saying what a lot of people think! You have made my day!

This forum does have the ability of being very comforting and insightful!

Pyxis wrote: »

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Brilliant post, Jaylee! :A

You guys....... :happyhear:grouphug:

You're making me blush

I meant every word of it too

It annoys me when people are attacked for posting a lot. For some, it's just a hobby or a pastime, for others, it's a valuable source of information, and for others it's a lifeline.

Whatever the reason, it's nobody else's business, and it's spiteful for people to sneer. And as for making nasty comments about long-term single folk. That is not on.

meer53

I had the single life forced on me after over 20 years of marriage. I was devastated, i didn't know how i'd cope. I had a 2 year old and a teenage son at the time so wasn't totally alone.

13 years on, he did me a huge favour. I love being single. I feel sorry sometimes for people who are in unhappy marriages/relationships and who don't have the courage to end it. There are a lot of them too.

The only thing i miss really is someone to cuddle me if i'm feeling a bit down. But that is rare, my life is brilliant, i have a job i love, my kids, my home. I don't have to put up with someone elses tantrums, i can do exactly as i like. If someone does come along in the future, thats great but i'm not looking. I am pretty darn choosy now ! They would have to meet my requirements, and that list is very long !

Maybe when my kids have moved on i'll have a little look around

January20

kingfisherblue wrote: »

Do you miss being in a relationship?


I'm happy on my own for most of the time, but sometimes I do miss the companionship of having a partner. There are also times when I miss the more intimate moments. I know that there are ways around this, but let's face it, sometimes it would be nice just to have a cuddle (and if it leads to more, well I wouldn't object if it was someone I was in a relationship with).


I'd never want to be with my ex-husband again. Our relationship ended for a reason and I'd never love or trust him again, even if he was available. I don't go out 'on the pull' and most of my friends have partners. It just seems as though I'm likely to remain alone. I can live with that, but it does sound very lonely at times.


Does anyone else feel the same?

I have been single for a 15 years and mostly I love it. Until about 2 years ago, I was still too damaged emotionally to consider being in a relationship again.

As I said, I enjoy living alone but sometimes I do miss having a companion. There are only so many things you can do alone, and although friends can bridge the gap, it's not quite the same. I'll never get used to going to parties alone for instance. If I get up on a bright morning like yesterday and fancy a walk, I'll have to go on my own so I will not venture into Northumberland for instance but remain rather local, take a lengthy walk in my neighbourhood.

There are advantages to being single: I'm always able to make decisions quickly, don't have to compromise, don't have anybody who pretends they're helpless and need me to do their laundry and cook for them ( I don't miss that!).

On another thread yesterday, I read this quote: "A man in my life but not in my home". My ideal, but my experience tells me that no man would stand for the kind of relationship I would really want: an exclusive, committed relationship with separate homes.

candygirl

Love that “a man in my life, but not in my home” quote! Separate houses are a must, if I ever have another relationship;)

Pyxis

candygirl wrote: »

Love that “a man in my life, but not in my home” quote! Separate houses are a must, if I ever have another relationship;)

Wasn't it Helena Bonham-Carter who had adjoining houses with her husband?

January20

Pyxis wrote: »

Wasn't it Helena Bonham-Carter who had adjoining houses with her husband?

Yes, it was. With Tim Burton. But as they are separated now.......... perhaps not a great example

janb5

January20 wrote: »

I have been single for a 15 years and mostly I love it. Until about 2 years ago, I was still too damaged emotionally to consider being in a relationship again.

As I said, I enjoy living alone but sometimes I do miss having a companion. There are only so many things you can do alone, and although friends can bridge the gap, it's not quite the same. I'll never get used to going to parties alone for instance. If I get up on a bright morning like yesterday and fancy a walk, I'll have to go on my own so I will not venture into Northumberland for instance but remain rather local, take a lengthy walk in my neighbourhood.

There are advantages to being single: I'm always able to make decisions quickly, don't have to compromise, don't have anybody who pretends they're helpless and need me to do their laundry and cook for them ( I don't miss that!).

On another thread yesterday, I read this quote: "A man in my life but not in my home". My ideal, but my experience tells me that no man would stand for the kind of relationship I would really want: an exclusive, committed relationship with separate homes.

Hi January 20- which part of Northumberland?; I lived in Newcastle until I was 16.

janb5

Pyxis wrote: »

Wasn't it Helena Bonham-Carter who had adjoining houses with her husband?

Yes but unfortunately they have split up now.

January20

janb5 wrote: »

Hi January 20- which part of Northumberland?; I lived in Newcastle until I was 16.

I actually live in the suburbs of Newcastle. North of Newcastle.I don't exactly want to say where of course but I'm sure you can guess with enough clues A stone throw away from the A1, direct route to places like Alnmouth and Warkworth.

NewShadow

I'm starting to realise that I'm missing being in a relationship.

It's been nearly 2 years, and I really needed that time, but now I'm missing hugs.

It doesn't help that my family is literally hundreds of miles away and I've no friends in the area...

Trouble is, I was with my ex for 8ish years (20 to 28, now 30 this year), and it was my first and only 'proper' relationship.

I can't even imagine being in a relationship with anyone else - never mind being intimate.

:rotfl: - at my self

I mean, where does one even meet young men that are interested in more than 'getting lucky'?