If you are single....

kingfisherblue

Do you miss being in a relationship?


I'm happy on my own for most of the time, but sometimes I do miss the companionship of having a partner. There are also times when I miss the more intimate moments. I know that there are ways around this, but let's face it, sometimes it would be nice just to have a cuddle (and if it leads to more, well I wouldn't object if it was someone I was in a relationship with).


I'd never want to be with my ex-husband again. Our relationship ended for a reason and I'd never love or trust him again, even if he was available. I don't go out 'on the pull' and most of my friends have partners. It just seems as though I'm likely to remain alone. I can live with that, but it does sound very lonely at times.


Does anyone else feel the same?

torbrex

As I have not been in a relationship for over 30 years I find it difficult to answer this

I have been on my own for so long that I doubt if I could ever live in close quarters with someone again, seperate rooms maybe but sharing :eek:

kingfisherblue

I've been alone for ten years Torbrex, since my mid 30s. I think I would find it hard to share a house again, but I do miss having someone there sometimes.

scubaangel

I've been single about 3 years now and I don't miss having to take someone else in to consideration when I want to do things, but I do miss some of the things you mention Kingfisherblue.

There are times when I get home from work and I'd love a cuddle or for someone else to make me a brew or some days just someone else to talk to when my friends are busy with their partners.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

I did. I certainly didnt miss any of my past relationships, but after a while, I missed the physical warmth or being touched (not in *that* way, more the casual things like somebody putting their hand on your shoulder as they reach to get something from a cupboard above your head).


I wasn't sure I'd be able to tolerate anybody here after being on my own, but I'm really enjoying it. Except when he does his spidery legs thing and nicks the entire duvet. That was solved by a) wearing pyjamas and b) having two thinner quilts on the bed.

nickyhutch

kingfisherblue wrote: »

I've been alone for ten years Torbrex, since my mid 30s. I think I would find it hard to share a house again, but I do miss having someone there sometimes.

Unless you want to be single for the rest of your life (which is fine, if you do), why have you effectively written yourself off at such a young age?


I don't think I'd mind being single again for a couple of years (who am I kidding - I'd love it!) but long term, for ever? No. I'd be bored and lonely. You do need to be with the right person, though. If you're with the wrong person, you can be bored and lonely even though you're with someone all the time.

joansgirl

I've been on my own for 5 years now and I'm as happy as I can be under the circumstances with no wish to be in a relationship again.

As much as I miss my dear departed husband I love being on my own. I can be as selfish as I want, I don't have to share anything and I can march to the beat of my own drum.

I used to think I might like a boyfriend but the more time that passes and the more I see of other peoples relationships the more I realise I just don't want it. The only time I ever need a man is to do heavy lifting that I can't manage myself.

However I am older than you Kingfisherblue and maybe if I was younger I might feel differently.

And anyway, I have my dog

WantToBeSE

I've been single for 10 years almost, from 26-35 years old.

I miss having snuggles on the couch, and having someone to be there in the event of an emergency, but thats it really.

torbrex

nickyhutch wrote: »

Unless you want to be single for the rest of your life (which is fine, if you do), why have you effectively written yourself off at such a young age?

it was never planned, I have just never met anyone that wanted to be with me

nickyhutch

torbrex wrote: »

it was never planned, I have just never met anyone that wanted to be with me

I meant kingfisher, because she said it seems that she's destined to be alone. If anyone wants to be, that's not a problem, but if she wants a partner, it's a shame, in her mid 40s, not to be getting out there and finding one. I don't mean in a hunting, or predatory way :-)

torbrex

nickyhutch wrote: »

I meant kingfisher, because she said it seems that she's destined to be alone. If anyone wants to be, that's not a problem, but if she wants a partner, it's a shame, in her mid 40s, not to be getting out there and finding one. I don't mean in a hunting, or predatory way :-)

I misunderstood, it was me that you had quoted