If you are single....

ScarletBea

I've also been single for 5.5 years now (after a 6.5-year relationship), and I wouldn't change it for the world.
I was completely burnt by betrayal, it's now hard to trust people that deeply, but being an introvert I love my own company and I'm always out and about doing things on my own, going places on my own.
Sometimes I go 48 hours (=weekend) without talking to a single person, and that doesn't really worry me.
I have a few friends that I go out with too, but I prefer being alone.
But yes, sometimes I do miss the physical touch (even just a hug or a simple kiss). And then I get annoyed at myself for feeling that, hehe - I should be enough.

worbikeman

There's a difference between people who are single by choice and those who are single thru having no choice.
I fall into the latter category, though I dont seem to have any of the qualities that women say they dislike in a man (see above).
And seem to have most of the qualities they say they do look for in a man. I change all the toilet rolls and take all the rubbish out.
However, no kids, no proper friends, no family no relationship - I havent had the touch of another human being since probably the 90s, apart from the odd business handshake.
I dont really know any different other than living alone.


It's a bit like being unemployed. If you are in a good job you have a good chance of getting another good job, but unemployed without a decent CV or references or work experience you've no chance:D

indesisiv

At the moment I am enjoying being single. Been single for just over a year and it has been so nice getting to know myself again. I finally have the free time to be able to do the things that I didn't even know that I enjoyed doing.

vodkachick68

I've only been on my own for 6 months and I've got to say I really like it. I Can do what I want when I want and I really like my own company. Saying that I don't want to be on my own the rest of my life. I am lucky that I have some good friends who have helped me so much after the breakup of my last relationship. And I'm an outgoing person which helps alot.

I am on pof and I chat to a few men but haven't met anyone I have that spark with. I also do sometimes miss the companionship and in the future wouldn't rule out being with someone.

Buffythedebtslayer

I have been single aside from maybe four year long relationships. Unfortunately the men I choose have been dishonest and unkind, that put me off for a long time, I tried again a couple of years ago, and he was also not great. that broke my heart completely.


I don't like admitting it but I have given up. I get very sad about it at times but have tried to fill my life with stuff. I have studied, worked in two jobs, I have pets, I follow politics and spend too much time watching tv!


my old friends were great but they are all married and have kids and so I made a bunch of new friends. It is hard tho. It is Saturday night and I am indoors. which is fine but sometimes I feel life has passed me by. I do catch myself thinking it would be nice if I wasn't doing everything alone.


I am lucky I live with my Mum - she was meant to live abroad, but cant now and moneywise it works well for both of us. I think if I was on my own I really would sink into depression.This living arrangement quite reasonably puts men off but as these days it is more about what I want to do next as I am now too old to have kids or be someone's partner. Statistically I am more likely to win the lottery than I am to meet someone, so it is better to focus on the stuff I like and my work.


So yes it does bother me but I am trying to move past that.

Mrs_Bones

I've been on my own so long now I can't imagine sharing my life or home with anyone else. I've always been happy with my own company and found plenty of things to do, it never stopped me traveling and going out if I wished or just doing what I wanted at home. I'm not saying I never feel lonely because I do at times, but being lonely and being alone are not the same thing. Some of the times I've felt most lonely I've been in the company of a crowd of people but didn't feel a connection to any of them. I've always been happy being self reliant, but lately for purely selfish reasons I think maybe I've been a bit too self reliant.

What's changed for me is I've now got health problems which has meant I've lost the independence I had on going out when I want and where I wanted on my own. When I'm not well it would be nice at times to have someone else there to make me a cup of tea and just be someone who cared and understood. As I get older I've also got this fear I'm going to be one of those souls who kicks the bucket and nobody finds for several weeks. I know I can survive on my own and I know most of the time I'm perfectly happy being on my own but just sometimes it would be nice to have someone that did care but I can't in anyway imagine that ever happening.

LostSoulForever

I've been single for some time now & while i don't mind being single there are times when i would like to be in a relationship.

It's gets a bit lonely at times doing everything on your own & it would be nice to share those moments with someone else .

I also find it worse at certain times of the year, ie Xmas & NY - obviously Valentines coming up next week puts it in your head as it seems to be everywhere.

Maybe i could meet someone if if could find the zip to this damn invisibility cloak :rotfl:.

Flick216

I'll expand on my previous post. What I miss is being with someone who only has eyes for me. Being someone's entire focus. Being the only thing that matters to someone.

That sounds a bit pathetic but there it is.

Prothet_of_Doom

I have been quite damming of my sister and her very selfish attitudes, and rigidity of thought.


She is 50 in 2 weeks, and has been living alone since she left university some 28 years ago.


Now, I've been married almost 25 years, have 2 great (adult) children, and spend my life having to compromise, and take other people's feelings into account.


I have to say that I have found my sister quite detestable at times, but I've experienced something that has opened my eyes.


For 5.5 years I've worked away from home 4 nights a week, moving to another location every 6 to 12 months. Usually, I'd rent a room in someone else's house, but 3 weeks ago I took on the rental of a one bed flat as the cost wasn't so much more than sharing.


However, I suddenly realised that It could be very lonely, and I suddenly thought that my sister has been alone for 28 years. I'd go mentally ill. Must make more of an effort with her.

bugslet

Maybe it's not so difficult for her Prophet? You have family, so maybe the absence of other people makes it worse for you? I do suspect that you are right though, you lose the ability to compromise easily.

Mr Bugs went ino hospital Oct 2012 and then to a nusing hlme, so I have been on my own since then, widowed just over a year.

I don't want anyone at the moment, only occasionally feel lonely. If someone came along, all well and good , but I can't imagine actively looking.

Like Mrs Bones, I do sort of wonder what would happen if ill-health took hold. Or I keeled over (dogs would probably eat me!). The only time it seemed strange was when I broke my foot and at the hospital they took details and asked about next of kin, and I don't have any ( no family). That was a bit odd.