If you are single....

Soleil_lune

torbrex wrote: »

Marraiges may be made in heaven but you have to do your own maintenance.

:rotfl: Nice one! :T

Lets_say

kingfisherblue wrote: »

Do you miss being in a relationship?


I'm happy on my own for most of the time, but sometimes I do miss the companionship of having a partner.

Does anyone else feel the same?

Last Sunday. Friend and I drive to a special spot. We do a short walk, then walk to the edge of the lake. It's a cold but beautiful day, the sun is shining and the sky is pure blue. We watch and listen to a group of youngsters rowing canoes on the lake. We lean on the rail and watch the steamer leaving, then the youngsters landing on the shore. Behind us the mountain looms, streaked with ice and snow. Perfect - if only. We are both lost in our thoughts. She, mourning the partner she has just lost to cancer. Me, the gnawing sadness of being alone still, my first partner also lost to cancer and two more who left me, for reasons known only to themselves.

Yes, I miss being in a relationship.

System

Lets_say wrote: »

Last Sunday. Friend and I drive to a special spot. We do a short walk, then walk to the edge of the lake. It's a cold but beautiful day, the sun is shining and the sky is pure blue. We watch and listen to a group of youngsters rowing canoes on the lake. We lean on the rail and watch the steamer leaving, then the youngsters landing on the shore. Behind us the mountain looms, streaked with ice and snow. Perfect - if only. We are both lost in our thoughts. She, mourning the partner she has just lost to cancer. Me, the gnawing sadness of being alone still, my first partner also lost to cancer and two more who left me, for reasons known only to themselves.

Yes, I miss being in a relationship.

Sorry for your (and your friend's) loss

nat21luv

Im 28 and single for the last 4 years with absolutely no interaction from the male species. I do love being on my own, I have 2 children and we can just be, no interference and I get the evenings to myself.

Both long term relationships (4 years each) were violent ones towards the end and I know I must have been attracting a certain type of man so I vowed to take time out to work on me and to rewire whatever made me attracted to them. I dont know if its worked and Im too scared to find out. I miss being really comfortable with someone and physical contact, I dont mean sexually, just touching. I've noticed that when people are to close to me, I'll back away a step or two and when having a conversation and the person touches my arm or hand, it's all I can think of- that they touched me. I dislike the hairdressers for that reason too, I just dont like my personal space being invaded. I've become increasingly antisocial and reclusive too.

Also, I've let myself go. The amout of weight that Im carrying is incredible, my nails dont get polished, my underwear is disgraceful and places dont get shaved. I used to be one of those girls in Boots behind a counter selling posh cosmetics and looked pristine. I dont recognise myself now.

I've just bought my son aftershave because I miss the smell of a man in the house! I do want to be in a relationship, just not right now.

Im waiting for my Mr. Darcy...

calleyw

I tried with one person on and off for nearly 3 years. just a massive mess causing both of us grief and heartache and pain. So thats been binned.

Tried again recently. We had a laugh, enjoyed each others company. saw him about half dozen times got one kiss out of him. So asked what he wanted.

His words to be really good friends!!!! He text me last night after no contact for a week and half.

So I have pulled myself off of all my dating websites. And going to be concentrate on me and me alone. Need to loose weight and get my house finished. Sort out a full time permanent job. Going to throw a birthday party for myself this year. Never done it before. Wont be many people coming just a few family members.

I am not going to say never but I am not going to go looking for it. I have few anger issues I need to deal with.

Yours

Calley

byjimini

calleyw wrote: »

So I have pulled myself off of all my dating websites. And going to be concentrate on me and me alone.

I've done exactly the same.

onomatopoeia99

calleyw wrote: »

So asked what he wanted.

His words to be really good friends!!!!

It's interesting you posted that, because as a basis for a romantic relationship it is my ideal. I wouldn't go on dates with someone if I was only looking for friendship though!

torbrex

onomatopoeia99 wrote: »

It's interesting you posted that, because as a basis for a romantic relationship it is my ideal. I wouldn't go on dates with someone if I was only looking for friendship though!

They would not be dates though, they would be nights out.

I used to go to the pictures with my freinds wife as he hated going but both she and I loved it so we went together when he was practicing with his band, no pressure and a good time was had by all.

calleyw

onomatopoeia99 wrote: »

It's interesting you posted that, because as a basis for a romantic relationship it is my ideal. I wouldn't go on dates with someone if I was only looking for friendship though!

there was no spark and he seemed a nice guy.

I am kinda giving up but only to sort out my life. And if someone comes along so be it.

Yours

Calley

Izadora

purpleshoes wrote: »

Seriously, romance day in and day out would grate on most people's nerves after a while.

I may have misread it but I didn't think Magician was saying that things are like that all the time, just that they're the parts of being in a relationship that she misses. It'd be a bit strange to miss the part where you're screaming at each other because one of you is seemingly incapable of changing a toilet roll...