Heartbroken, my husband left me this morning for another woman

TBeckett100

OP, your ex has been ravaging another woman. I don't believe he had your face on her body when he was getting down to it.

Running around and trying to remind him you are there has doormat written all over it. If you want him back and he comes back then all it tells him is that he can send you into the kitchen to cut him a big slice of cake for him to eat.

paigesaunt

Your comments are so enlightening, and do make me smile, I know you're all right and I should have enough respect for myself not to want him near me, but someone mentioned him being my source of comfort for so long and with what's going on in my life at the moment, I just needed to be held and comforted like usual, but it wasn't like usual, it felt quite horrible in fact, because he didn't want it, and I won't be asking him again.

I won't be contacting him again no matter how down I get or what the outcome of the scan is on Tuesday, if he's at all interested in whether I have cancer or not, he can jolly well ask!
I will let him do the work he should have finished instead of being to busy having an affair, I intend to get all I can out of him, be super super nice and when he realises the new GF is not so great after all and comes running back, I will tell him to go to *ell.

Thank you all, I need you all to keep reminding me how it is, he's living with someone else he's known barely a month, 2 weeks after leaving me, I hope that is a recipe for disaster!
xx

Thistle-down

When my ex-fiance married the girl he cheated on me with, I couldn't have asked for a better revenge. They married quickly after we broke up as she was pregnant. She was a co-worker of ours, a shrew in the worst sense unless she wanted something, then she turned on the charm. He contacted me several times afterwards, wanting to know if I would have an illicit relationship with him. It still makes me chuckle...

Your husband's new woman knew he was a cheater from day 1. How's that for a nice start to a relationship?

micky2phones

paigesaunt wrote: »

Your comments are so enlightening, and do make me smile, I know you're all right and I should have enough respect for myself not to want him near me, but someone mentioned him being my source of comfort for so long and with what's going on in my life at the moment, I just needed to be held and comforted like usual, but it wasn't like usual, it felt quite horrible in fact, because he didn't want it, and I won't be asking him again.

I won't be contacting him again no matter how down I get or what the outcome of the scan is on Tuesday, if he's at all interested in whether I have cancer or not, he can jolly well ask!
I will let him do the work he should have finished instead of being to busy having an affair, I intend to get all I can out of him, be super super nice and when he realises the new GF is not so great after all and comes running back, I will tell him to go to *ell.

Thank you all, I need you all to keep reminding me how it is, he's living with someone else he's known barely a month, 2 weeks after leaving me, I hope that is a recipe for disaster!
xx

Hi, i was thinking maybe his g/f dont know he has split from you ?

Thus he is keeping you near until the time is right for him or for him to wait for the g/f to say you are treating him too bad so come and be with me ?

Also i do know how you are feeling, it hurts so much cause you still love that person, your heart rules your head, you long for that text/call or to see that person.

But deep down you know that person dont feel the same.

In 2008/9 i was in the same place as you. You do have more family than me, who sound like they are your rock. Wishing you all the best for the future (((hug))) xX

System

My ex cheated on me and left me for another woman, he managed to get said woman pregnant and then i found out he cheated on her whilst she was pregnant! Such as was the person he was. She took him back but more fool her, the way i see it i had a lucky escape, as have you.

I know it may not feel that way right now, its probably still raw, and its going to hurt, but you are better off without someone as toxic as that in your life and one day you will realise that, and the day you do will be a very happy one.

heartbreak_star

I'd get your brother to do the work. Sod the ex. At least that way you know it'll get done.

Do NOT "go to him for a cuddle" again. Show strength!

Best of luck

HBS x

paigesaunt

Good morning training for my new job, but really bad afternoon, for some reason my friend told me HE had booked into her salon for a hair cut and it really upset me, usually she does us both in the evenings when the salon is closed. It feels like he wants everything to remain the same, except he wants to be with someone else. Stupid little things like that I supose will get to me whilst I'm still grieving for him
I'm sure you'll all tell me Im being silly
xx

Vikipollard

See it objectively - this person normally does his hair, so why would he not go to them still? Same applies to dentist or other service.


I get why it hurts, but remember that this is a business transaction; at that point it's not a friend.


And try to avoid expecting joint friends to choose between you (or worse forcing them to) if you can.

duchy

So you took it as a timely reminder that you need a new super glam look to cheer you up and booked not only a cut but a colour too ......and manicure and pedicure - cos you deserve a bit of pampering I hope !

(and you know you won't bump into him there as he's just had his done)

Seriously - do nice things for YOU (and if they are things he moaned were a waste of money ....all the better ! )

mandi

Hello paigesaunt. :hello:

I've been through exactly the same emotions as you recently & I understand exactly how you're feeling right now .. I really do . :A

You think that your worlds crumbled around you & you've no idea how to move on or make sense of anything. It's like what the F@@k just happened .!!

Millions of questions run through your head and you feel that you just can't cope as I did . So many people tell you that " it will get better " and you don't believe them, you just don't .

Not because you don't want to but because the emotional pain is sooo bad you can't see that ever happening .

I'm here to say it does get a little better every single day but paigesaunt. you have to go No Contact that's the only way this will work for you as it is for me .

That means exactly what I said, don't have any contact at all for whatever reason .

In a way your grieving , because you loved him , you're also in shock.

I've had so much support & advice on a thread I have running in the Money Savers Arms ( I'm not doing a self promotion but heres the link if you'd like to read it https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/5156065)

mandi x